Shameless Grounds - ENM Night

Shameless Grounds describes itself as “the Coffeeshop and Cafe with the Sex Positive Theme” and says it is not a club, a pick-up spot or a porn shop. The cafe sits in south St. Louis City, at the corner of Lemp and Withnell, and says it has been going since 2011. Its ENM Night, formerly called lifestyle couples night, is a ticketed evening held on almost every fourth Friday. The night is billed as a social meet-and-greet with music, a bar with drink specials, food, and ice-breaker games to help guests mingle. Most months guests spend the evening on the patio. It is a mixer rather than a swinger-style sex party: there is no full-frontal nudity and no sex, because the cafe holds a liquor license in the City of St. Louis. The night is open to anyone practicing or curious about ethical non-monogamy, including swingers, polyamorous people and those in open marriages, whatever their relationship style or status. Entry takes a ticket from the cafe’s online ticket site. The dress code is upscale casual and/or sexy. The house rules say no means no, and guests who cannot accept a no are shown the door; guests who get sloppy drunk are called a cab and shown out.