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The X Club

Mississauga, Ontario

On-Premise Club

The X Club is a lifestyle nightclub in Mississauga, Ontario, operating Friday and Saturday nights from 9 PM to 3 AM. The venue offers a dance floor, VIP bottle service, and multiple themed areas, with Saturdays reserved exclusively for couples and single women. Members must be 21 or older; a Newbie Night runs on the first Friday of each month with no membership required.

Members-only BDSM/lifestyle community center

Inversion MKE took over a 7,500 sq ft suite of a 1950s multi-tenant flex/industrial building at 615 S 89th Street, on the western edge of Milwaukee proper at the West Allis border, in the second half of 2024 — stepping into the venue previously run as Club EASSEL with new management and a deliberately re-set identity. The change ran clean through the City of Milwaukee Board of Zoning Appeals: Inversion MKE, LLC filed for a special use permit on the 12 September 2024 agenda (Case BZZA-24-00260), was adjourned to the October meeting, and the permit was granted unanimously on 10 October 2024 to operate the premises as an "indoor recreation facility" for a five-year term running through 22 September 2029. The clubeassel.com site went dark shortly after, and the new operation went live under the Inversion name. The club is built on the standard US kink/BDSM community-center model rather than the swinger format that dominates most lifestyle directories — and the pricing tells the story. A Basic individual membership is $50 a month; a Premium dual membership is $90, roughly 1.8x rather than the steep couples-discount/single-male-surcharge ratio you'd see at a swinger club. Singles are charged the same as couples. Guests are sponsored, not gated. A 7-day temporary pass costs $30 and covers one event (not valid on Tuesdays); a Member-Sponsored Guest pass is $20 and requires the sponsor to be present at check-in. Memberships beyond temporary tiers auto-renew, and all sales are non-refundable. Three, six and twelve month commitments drop the monthly price meaningfully — Premium annual lands at $720, around 33% off the rolling rate. Every first-time guest pays for a tour/orientation before they ever attend an event; that orientation is mandatory and serves as the venue's consent-and-rules onboarding. Programming runs Friday and Saturday evenings from 8pm to midnight, event-dependent, with Saturdays the marquee play-party slot — sometimes hitting capacity even with door passes in hand. Tuesdays add a short members-and-guests window from 7:30 to 8:30pm — the cadence of a midweek munch, rope practice or members' social, which is consistent with how comparable community spaces structure their week. Event detail lives on FetLife (@InversionMKE), not on the public website, which keeps Inversion off the swinger-directory grid (no listings on SDC, Kasidie, SwingLifestyle, Yelp or Google Maps) and inside the BDSM social network instead. Community sentiment under the new owners has been notably positive — the lone r/milwaukee thread on the rebrand calls it "one of the best run establishments I know of," praises the "great culture of safety and consent," and notes the management swap explicitly. The principals stay anonymous on the public record, as is the norm for the format; the club's only listed contact channels are the inversionmke.com plans page, the inversionmke@gmail.com inbox, the 414-666-5498 line and the FetLife handle.

Tokyo Valentino Lifestyle Club

Atlanta, GA

On-Premise Club

Tokyo Valentino Lifestyle Club is a 24-hour adult lifestyle and play venue on Cheshire Bridge Road in Atlanta, Georgia, closing only briefly on Wednesday mornings for cleaning. The facility spans three floors and includes eight Amsterdam-style booths, open and private playrooms, dark rooms, shower facilities, massage rooms, private bedrooms, and an LED dance floor. No membership is required; admission is pay-per-visit, and the venue operates on a BYOB basis.

Sensual Pleasures Lifestyle Club (SPLC)

Gatlinburg, TN

On-Premise Club

Sensual Pleasures Lifestyle Club (SPLC) is a private members-only lifestyle club serving the East Tennessee and Smoky Mountains area. The venue hosts events on Friday and Saturday nights from 8 PM to 2 AM, offering a full dinner buffet, BYOB with complimentary mixers, themed parties, educational workshops, and live entertainment. Overnight bed and breakfast accommodations are available by reservation, and the club dedicates Friday evenings to a bisexual, singles, and crossdresser/trans-inclusive night.

Avarus Swingerclub

Berlin, Berlin

On-Premise Club

Avarus is widely regarded as one of the most beautiful swingers clubs in Berlin, hidden away on the 5th floor of an apartment building in the Wedding district. Step inside and you'll find an elegant world of premium wellness — Finnish sauna, Roman steam bath, a 36,000-litre love pool, and an experience shower — seamlessly blended with stylish play areas and intimate social spaces. Every visit is all-inclusive: entry covers all drinks and a hot & cold buffet, so there's nothing to think about but enjoying the evening. The event calendar keeps things fresh with couples-only Saturdays, Orgasm Nights, Bi-Parties, Darkroom Parties, and BDSM nights in the adjacent Menagerie venue. The signature "Chocolate Sunday" — featuring edible liquid chocolate in the steam bath — is an experience you won't find anywhere else. Staff speaks English and the club warmly welcomes international guests alongside its loyal local crowd. The house philosophy says it all: everything is allowed, nothing is mandatory. LGBTQ+ friendly. Couples and newbie friendly.

616

Grand Rapids, MI

Event Organizer

Club 616 is West Michigan's premier upscale lifestyle event organizer, bringing together a vibrant community of open-minded adults across Grand Rapids and Kalamazoo. Known for meticulously themed parties — from Retro Pin Up elegance to all-night signature events — every Club 616 gathering is a carefully curated experience where sophistication meets sensuality. With over 14,000 Instagram followers and a loyal membership spanning SLS (BNJALLNIGHT), Kasidie, SDC, FetLife, and SwingTowns, Club 616 has earned its reputation as the gold standard for lifestyle events in West Michigan. Events are hosted at upscale hotel venues and feature a strictly enforced dress code — because looking the part is part of the experience. Newcomers are warmly welcomed with a newbie-friendly atmosphere, while limited single male tickets keep the guest ratio balanced and comfortable for couples. Single women are always embraced. LGBTQ+ inclusive. 21+ only.

Swingers Club

Caligula New York has been Astoria's open secret since at least 2016 — a 4,000 sq ft lifestyle club tucked into a Queens side street, built by enthusiasts for the community rather than for profit. Freshly renovated and reopened in February 2026, the space feels intentionally crafted: a proper dance floor with a resident DJ, lounge seating, a BYOB bar stocked with complimentary mixers, and a six-person erotic shower that has become something of a signature. Free street parking right outside and a max capacity of 350 mean the logistics rarely get in the way of a good night. Four nights a week — Thursday through Sunday from 9pm — the club runs a rotating weekly programme. Thursdays bring "One Night Stand," Fridays run themed "In Fridays We Trust" nights, Saturdays pull in larger productions like Major League Swingers events, and Sundays wind down with the "Sinful Sunday Swinger Social." Multiple private playrooms sit alongside open play areas, giving guests the choice of full privacy or a more social scene depending on the vibe of the evening. First-time visitors must book in advance, and the dress code is enforced at the door — no work boots, high-tops, or baseball caps. The club honours memberships from a wide network of lifestyle venues including SLS, SDC, Kasidie, Club Amante's, Miami Velvet, and Trapeze Atlanta, making it a natural stop for lifestyle travellers passing through New York. The crowd skews younger than many comparable clubs, the atmosphere is friendly rather than predatory, and the BYOB policy keeps the cost of a night out genuinely reasonable by New York standards.

BiZarre Events

London, London

BDSM Club

BiZarre Events is one of London's boldest and most unapologetically extreme fetish party producers, founded in April 2012 by Nina and Aidan BiZarre — two lifelong practitioners who created the events they wished existed. Operating as a private members club across rotating London venues disclosed only to confirmed guests, BiZarre isn't a nightclub with a kink corner — it's a play-first, immersive experience where fetish, kink, and sexual exploration take centre stage. Their lineup includes the long-running Bi-Kink Club for bisexual and pansexual fetishists, Club Labrys — a women-only safe space launched in 2019 — and the notorious PisSoir nights. Events run monthly on Saturdays, typically 9 PM to 3 AM, at purpose-fitted venues including world-renowned BDSM dungeons equipped with St. Andrew's crosses, bondage beds, suspension frames, and dedicated play spaces. Admission includes complimentary drinks, coat check, towels, showers, and supplies — an unusually all-inclusive package for the London fetish scene. The strict dress code is enforced at the door, and professional floor stewards ensure consent is always upheld. BiZarre explicitly welcomes everyone — straight, bi, gay, lesbian, trans, gender-fluid, crossdressers, singles, couples, and poly groups — making it one of the most genuinely pan-sexual events in London. Featured in Time Out London and Kinky Compass's Top 15 Kink Events, BiZarre has earned a devoted following over 14 years with consistently positive reviews praising the friendly atmosphere, professional staff, and immersive play-focused environment. Annual membership is £30, with per-event pricing from £25 for couples to £50 for non-member singles.

Club Sapphire

Tukwila, WA

On-Premise Club

Club Sapphire is a private swingers lifestyle club in Tukwila, Washington, offering approximately 10,000 square feet of party space with a dance floor and DJ, buffet appetizers, lockers, showers, and multiple playrooms. Annual membership is required, and the club enforces a couples-first policy with exceptions for singles after five attended events. Sexy or themed attire is required; casual wear is not permitted.

Bliss Cruise

Fort Lauderdale, FL

Cruise

Bliss Cruise is the original and largest adults-only, clothing-optional lifestyle cruise experience, chartering full ships from Celebrity Cruises and Royal Caribbean for voyages built around freedom, connection, and adventure. Since launching in 2015, the Fort Lauderdale-based company has grown from intimate sailings to filling vessels carrying up to 6,000 guests, with their November 2026 Wonder of the Seas charter already sold out — a testament to the passionate community they have cultivated. Each sailing is a carefully curated blend of luxury cruising and lifestyle exploration. By day, guests enjoy clothing-optional pool decks, workshops on intimacy and communication, and meet-and-greet events designed to spark connections across every comfort level. By night, the ship transforms with elaborate themed parties — from Glow Night and Fetish Night to formal galas and foam parties — plus multiple playrooms including couples-only spaces, a fetish dungeon, and open-air play areas, all governed by a culture of enthusiastic consent and mutual respect. With Caribbean itineraries departing Fort Lauderdale, Miami, Tampa, and soon New Orleans, Bliss offers 4- to 7-night voyages calling at ports like Cozumel, Jamaica, Aruba, and St. Maarten, often featuring signature clothing-optional beach takeovers. Cabins range from cozy interiors to sprawling penthouse suites, and a dedicated mobile app helps guests connect before and during the voyage. Whether you are lifestyle veterans or curious newcomers, Bliss delivers a professionally run, judgment-free environment where couples can explore at their own pace.

Bournemouth Swingers Club

Bournemouth, Dorset

Club

Bournemouth Swingers Club is the south coast's busiest and most inclusive lifestyle venue, tucked inside the Saunabar building on Commercial Road in Bournemouth's Triangle district. Since opening in March 2025, the club has quickly built a loyal following by combining spa-grade facilities — jacuzzi, sauna, steam room, and massage room — with a thoughtfully designed play space featuring a swing room, St Andrew's Cross, horse bench, cinema room, and multiple private playrooms stocked with everything guests might need. The weekly programme offers something for every curiosity level. Wednesday Socials provide a low-key cocktail bar atmosphere perfect for newcomers, while Saturday nights rotate between three distinct events: XCITE brings themed costume parties for couples and limited singles, XCHANGE turns the evening into a flirty interactive games night, and XPLORE opens the doors to everyone with no guest limits or ratios. A monthly Spectrum night on the first Friday is dedicated to trans guests, allies, and admirers — one of the only events of its kind on the south coast. Run by Lucas and Carol with a hands-on team in BSC uniforms, the club is built on a foundation of enthusiastic consent, radical inclusivity, and zero-pressure exploration. The fully licensed bar means no BYOB hassle, and a clever locker-key tab system keeps the evening seamless. With a maximum of 60 guests on party nights, the intimate setting fosters genuine connections in a space where every boundary is respected and every body is celebrated.

Caliente Club & Resorts

Land O' Lakes, FL

Lifestyle Resort

Caliente Club & Resorts is the largest and most well-appointed lifestyle resort in the United States — a 125-acre adults-only estate set in the subtropical landscape of Land O' Lakes, Florida, about 25 miles north of Tampa. Originally founded in 1987 as Joie de Vivre, it was reimagined in the early 2000s into the clothing-optional destination it is today: lush, polished, and built around a culture of welcoming acceptance where nudity is simply the norm and comfort is the only dress code. The property revolves around five pools, led by a quarter-acre lagoon pool with a waterfall and twin islands that draws crowds for daytime pool parties and live poolside bands on weekends. Five bars — including tiki bars, a piano bar, and a sports bar — keep the social energy flowing across the grounds, while the fine-dining restaurant helmed by an executive chef gives evenings a genuinely upscale flavour. When the sun goes down, the main nightclub opens with resident DJ Ian spinning until 3am on Fridays and Saturdays, with rotating themed nights (body paint, leather and lace, iCandy EDM) pulling in the crowd. The Lounge — the resort's designated adults-only play space — operates on select evening hours Thursday through Sunday, while the outdoor conversation pools are known to take on a life of their own after dark. Accommodation spans hotel studios, one-bedroom casitas, and full condominiums, all with full kitchen facilities and a private porch. Day passes are available online for couples and single women; single men must purchase in-person at the gate with limited daily availability. The resort hosts a full calendar of annual events — from the Bare Dare 5K to elaborate Halloween and New Year's Eve parties — and maintains an active presence on SDC and SLS with regular event postings. Whether you're a first-timer easing into the lifestyle or a seasoned couple with a weekend tradition, Caliente sets the benchmark for what a domestic lifestyle resort can be.

Center for Sex Positive Culture (CSPC)

Seattle, WA

Community Center

The Center for Sex Positive Culture is Seattle's longest-running sex-positive organisation — a volunteer-run 501(c)(7) nonprofit founded in 1999 that has registered more than 10,000 members over its quarter-century history. Originally known as The Wet Spot, CSPC lost its permanent Interbay building in 2017 and nearly folded, but a new generation of leadership rebuilt operations at Gallery Erato in Pioneer Square (309 1st Ave S), where the club now hosts a rotating calendar of themed parties, workshops, and discussion groups covering BDSM, swinging, polyamory, and kink across all orientations and relationship styles. Events run on a regular monthly rotation: Fresh Meet for newcomers looking to connect, Myself! for exhibitionism and voyeurism, The Grind as a goth-industrial dance-plus-dungeon night, Sense & Sensuality for guided sensory exploration, and LaQueer — a quarterly party by and for the LGBTQIA+ community. Every event requires a membership ($10/month or $100/year) and advance online ticket purchase ($25–45 sliding scale; no door sales, no refunds). New members must complete an orientation session before their first party. All play areas are open — there are no private rooms — and trained volunteer Monitors and Event Coordinators are on the floor at every gathering. CSPC's non-discrimination agreement is among the most explicit in the lifestyle world: all genders, orientations, play styles, relationship structures, races, religions, abilities, and body types are welcomed, and biased remarks of any kind result in immediate removal. The venue is wheelchair-accessible on the main floor (basement is stairs-only), bathrooms are gender-neutral, and sliding-scale pricing keeps events within reach. Its educational sister organisation, Pan-Eros Foundation, produces the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival out of the same Gallery Erato space.

Private Residence

Braven Manor is a long-running, community-oriented kink and lifestyle venue operating from a private home in North Burnaby, just outside Vancouver. Since 2008, the space has served as an intimate alternative to commercial clubs, offering a fully equipped dungeon, themed play rooms, and flexible event programming that spans BDSM, swinging, fetish play, and group encounters — all at an accessible price point of $30 per person. The house features a dedicated dungeon with suspension frame, bondage table, cage, and spanking benches, plus a garage play space, whipping room with St Andrew's Cross, a medical room with a fucking machine, a school room, and multiple private lockable bedrooms. Supplies including condoms, lube, gloves, cleaning products, towels, and unlimited soft drinks are all included with admission. A Sybian is available during events, and the space can be rented privately for couples or small groups at hourly rates. Run as a non-profit by operator Seann Lyncaster, the venue hosts rotating events on its own calendar system — from gangbangs and BDSM play parties to swinger nights and private bookings. Membership signup is free, the atmosphere is pansexual and LGBTQ+ welcoming, and newcomers receive an orientation tour on arrival. The BYOB format keeps costs low, and a house safeword system underscores the consent-first culture that defines the space.

Cheers Hamburg

Hamburg, Hamburg

On-Premise Club

Cheers is Hamburg's cosy alternative to the big swinger clubs — a 150 m² frivolous bar on Straßburger Straße in Dulsberg, one minute's walk from the U1 Straßburger Straße station, that has been drawing a loyal crowd of couples and singles since March 2008. Owners Gert and Janine turned a hobby into a profession and it shows: the space holds just 40 people across a stylish bar and lounge with sofas, a table-dance pole, a darkroom, a separate smoking room with play area, a Kuschelecke (cuddling corner), and shower facilities. There's no dress code on weekdays — come straight from work in whatever you're wearing — while weekends call for groomed or erotic attire. Ladies always enter free. The weekly highlight is Thursday's Erotic Dart Night, where the special rules guarantee almost everyone loses their clothes before the game is over — small prizes for winners, playful forfeits for losers, and a natural icebreaker that brings strangers together. Tuesday is Stammtisch (regulars' night with a higher single-male ratio), Friday and Saturday run late until 3 am as full party nights, and the first Saturday of each month is couples-only. Newcomer sampler evenings on the 1st, 3rd, and 5th Sundays give first-timers a pressure-free introduction with the owners personally making sure nobody is left standing alone. Admission is a €30 minimum spend at the bar (€25 with JOYclub discount); single men pay the same but entry is never guaranteed and depends on the ratio. With a 4.9/5 rating across 685+ JOYclub reviews, 1,600 fans, and over 627,000 recorded visitor check-ins, Cheers has the numbers to back up 18 years of word-of-mouth reputation. The motto — "Alles kann, nichts muss" (everything is possible, nothing is mandatory) — sets the tone, and 94% of reviewers rate the experience as good or very good. No prostitution, no cameras, and a crew described by regulars as "cultivated, nice, and funny." The bar can also be rented for private events on closed days.

Adult Cinema

Cinéma L'Amour is one of North America's last surviving adult movie theatres — a Beaux-Arts gem on Boulevard Saint-Laurent that has been running continuously since 1914, first as Le Globe (a Yiddish cinema for Montreal's Jewish community), then as The Hollywood, The PussyCat in 1969, and finally Cinéma L'Amour when Ivan Koltai bought the building on July 31, 1981. The interior is virtually unchanged from 1914: a horseshoe balcony, ornate carved garlands, bas-relief panels, pilasters, and original benches across a 600-seat auditorium with a single giant screen. Vintage porn posters line the lobby — some originals are for sale — and there's a clothing boutique at the front. General admission is $17 and lets you stay all day (up to 12 hours); seniors get in for $16. The VIP couples section on the mezzanine costs $55 per couple and offers two private booths, comfortable couches, ambient lighting, and an unobstructed balcony view of the screen below — it's semi-private, intimate, and a world apart from the main floor. Couples get in free on Misty Mondays, Teaser Tuesdays, and Happy Hour Thursdays after 6 pm. Wild Wednesdays bring two new film presentations plus a trans night. No membership is required — just walk in, pay at the door, and sit anywhere. The crowd runs from 18 to 90 and includes curious couples, solo visitors, and regulars who've been coming for decades. Staff are described as friendly and helpful, the atmosphere is anonymous and pressure-free, and the building itself draws architecture buffs and documentary filmmakers (a feature-length doc called "Cinéma L'Amour" is on YouTube). The venue has also hosted film festivals, concerts, and fashion shows over its century-plus history. It's open seven days a week, 11 am to 11 pm, on the Plateau stretch of The Main — no reservations, no dress code, no fuss.

Ignite Club

Heathrow, London

On-Premise Club

Ignite Club is London's largest lifestyle club — a genuine dual-identity venue that runs as Kestrels Spa by day and Club Ignite by night, set on Bath Road in Longford right next to Heathrow's Terminal 5. The January 2025 rebrand of the former AbFab/Kestrels (and before that Kestrel Hydro Spa) keeps the same sprawling 422 Bath Road building but gives it a fresh identity under new operator Caroline Towers. The headline feature is a large heated nude swimming pool — reportedly the only one at any UK lifestyle club — alongside three hot tubs, a sauna and steam room, a porn cinema with comfy seating, what the operators call the largest dark room in London, a dungeon, grope boxes, nine play rooms (three private plus three with viewing windows downstairs, two two-way-mirror "sheds" and one private room upstairs, all lockable from the inside), a dedicated couples-only play room, plus a licensed bar and disco. There's off-road parking for around 30 cars with an ANPR system. Daytime Silks & Skins spa days run Mon/Wed/Thu/Fri/Sun 11am–6pm (Mon/Wed extend to 10pm as clothing-optional, Sunday runs to 8pm) with a strict naturist dress code in the wet areas — robes, towels, or nothing, and footwear required everywhere. Thursday and Sunday days allow lingerie as an alternative ("Silks & Skins"). Evening swingers parties run Friday and Saturday 9pm–2am (last entry 11:30pm) as "AbFabulous Fridays" and "Sensational Saturdays", with smart-casual enforced: collared shirts and smart shoes for men, sexy attire for women — no towels upstairs, no trainers, no leisurewear. Once a month one Saturday is exclusively couples and single ladies with no single men admitted at all. Themed nights rotate through Wicked Vixens, Asian Darkside, Latex & Leather, Mocha Nights, Half-Off Fridays, and an NYE 'Oscars' Ball. Pricing: Mon/Wed/Sun spa £40 couples / £17 ladies / £43 gents, Thu/Fri spa £35 / £15 / £40, Fri/Sat parties £35 / £15 / £50 (single gents must pre-book with £10 deposit, no walk-ins). Ignite is a private members' club — individual membership is £25 per person per year (no couples membership, everyone applies separately), or first-timers can buy a £10 day/night pass and upgrade for £15 extra. Two forms of ID are required at first visit (one photo, one proof of address — UK driving licence covers both) and you'll complete an online application in advance. Phones are collected at reception, bagged with a numbered tag, and stored under CCTV — no photography or filming anywhere in the venue. Consent is heavily emphasised: "don't touch anyone unless you're clearly invited to." Play is welcome throughout the building except in the pool, hot tubs, steam room, and outdoor smoking area. One complimentary towel per guest (extras £2.50). Worth knowing: despite the naturist spa format, this is NOT a British Naturism affiliated venue — play is permitted in playrooms throughout the day, which distinguishes it sharply from mainstream UK naturist spas like Clover Spa.

Saunabar Bournemouth

Bournemouth, Dorset

Bath House

The South West's busiest gay sauna, located in Bournemouth's Triangle district. Features a sauna, steam room, jacuzzi, fully licensed bar, and massage services, with regular themed nights and a welcoming atmosphere for relaxation and social connection.

colette Austin

Austin, TX

colette Austin is Austin's definitive upscale lifestyle club — a private, members-only on-premise venue occupying 9,000 square feet across two levels in the Wells Branch district of north Austin. Step through the unmarked commercial exterior and the interior reads like a proper nightclub: a professional dance floor backed by state-of-the-art sound, dual balconies overlooking the bar and lounge below, plush sectional seating throughout, and a mood set by programmable lighting that shifts with each themed night. The club is BYOB with setups and ice provided — no liquor license, so bring your own and let the bar handle the rest. Play spaces are tiered by privacy: semi-private rooms with sheer curtains for voyeur-friendly encounters, fully private rooms with blackout curtains, a large open group area, a movie theater lounge, and a separate kink zone — all stocked with free condoms and cleaning supplies, all staffed by a team reviewers consistently call Grade A. Newcomers get a full guided tour on arrival and a standing Newbie Night every Wednesday designed for first-timers: come curious, ask questions, dance, watch, do nothing at all if that's what you prefer. The crowd skews couples with professionals in the mix, and the dress code is enforced — collared shirts and slacks for men, cocktail dress to lingerie for women, fetish and leather always welcome. colette is a national chain founded by John and Jackie Melfi (who also run the OpenLove101 lifestyle blog). The Austin location opened January 2018 and connects into a membership network of 250,000+ members spanning five cities. One membership works at all locations. Fridays rotate between Hotwife Nights and Pantiless Fridays; Saturdays bring themed events from Sabado Seduction to Cowboys & Corsets. Single men are welcome Wednesday through Friday; Saturdays are reserved for couples and single women only. colette Austin is the only permanent upscale on-premise lifestyle club in Austin, and it's built to feel that way.

Club Bacchus

Dundee, Scotland

On-Premise Club

Club Bacchus occupies a discreet licensed venue at 11–15 Princes Street in the centre of Dundee — Tayside's only dedicated lifestyle club, self-billed as "Scotland's premier private members' club" and "Tayside's most stylish and discreet adult lifestyle venue." The address has a long history as an alternative-lifestyle space; Bacchus is the direct successor to Club Kudos, which had been running the building as a gay/bi/BDSM/swinger venue since around 2019 (Kudos signed up 160+ members in its first weeks per the Dundee Courier, and held a 4.3/5 Google rating across 20 reviews before the rebrand). Bacchus took the lease on and broadened the programme — the same west-of-city-centre warren of rooms, the same sauna and steam room downstairs, the same focus on serving the swinging, BDSM, kink, gay and LGBTQ+ communities under one roof, but now run as a single brand by an owner the FabSwingers reviewers consistently refer to by first name: Heather. The venue sprawls across two floors. Downstairs holds a large entertainment lounge and a smaller quiet lounge, a sauna and steam room, full shower facilities, glory holes, a working kitchen serving hot and cold drinks and snacks, and a separate indoor smoking area. Upstairs is a warren of five dedicated kink rooms and three themed playrooms, including a Fem Dom dungeon and a 1-on-1 Mistress session room available by separate booking during dungeon events. The programme runs on a tight monthly rhythm: Friday nights typically 8pm–late, Saturday afternoons (3–8pm) for Hosted Kink Events with novices welcome, and Saturday nights 8pm–late for Swingers Nights, "Open to All" parties, PJ Game Parties, TV/CD & Admirers evenings, and the recurring Men Only Sauna and "No Lights, No Towels (Men Only)" formats. The sauna itself runs Tuesday through Sunday. Entry is event-priced rather than membership-based — a £2.50 non-members daily fee is bundled into every Swingers Night ticket, which sits at £25 for couples, £32.50 for single men, £12.50 for single women, and £20 for women arriving dressed in themed attire. Towels, lockers and condoms are included. The club is BYOB throughout; mixers, soft drinks and snacks are complimentary, and guests are asked not to drink before using the sauna. Kink nights run strictly alcohol-free, and dungeon nights sometimes carry their own separate ticketing for 1-on-1 Mistress sessions. Dress code splits cleanly by floor — downstairs is smart casual or elegant clubwear, upstairs is lingerie, towel or less. The PJ Game Party runs a colour-coded pyjama system to signal preferences (blue for seeking male, pink for seeking female, yellow male-male, red female-female, mix & match for both). The crowd is mixed in every sense — couples, singles, kinksters, queer guests, first-timers — and Heather is widely credited in reviews for personally walking newcomers around the venue before the night gets going.

The Suite Life Platinum

Sacramento, CA

Lifestyle Resort

The Suite Life Platinum is a private members-only lifestyle club in Sacramento, California, offering exclusive adult-oriented events including themed parties, masquerade nights, and burlesque shows. The club is open to both singles and couples and also coordinates lifestyle travel packages to destination resorts and cruises. Membership is required for attendance.

Fallout RVA

Richmond, VA

On-Premise Club

Fallout RVA is an alternative nightclub located at 117 N 18th Street in Richmond, Virginia, focused on goth, industrial, drag, and electronic music communities. The venue hosts a rotating calendar of events including drag shows, DJ nights, karaoke, movie nights, and community socials, with most events open to guests 18 or 21 and older. It operates Sunday through Thursday until midnight and Friday through Saturday until 2am.

BDSM Club

The Lifestyle Lounge in Eccles, Greater Manchester is one of the UK's longest-running lifestyle clubs — over 40 years of history, formerly Adam and Eve's, fully rebranded in 2025 to welcome couples, LGBTQ+, kink, and fetish guests across four themed floors. Facilities include a hot tub, jacuzzi, sauna, swing room, private rooms, pool table, and lockers. BYOB (up to 4 cans or a half-bottle). Dress code: bright, kinky, as wild as you dare. Featured on Channel 5's "Adults: 24 Hour Sex, Up All Night." Membership required; capacity 80.

Big Mamas Haus

Crimmitschau, Saxony

BDSM & Fetish Event Venue

BMH Event-Club — formerly known as Big Mama's Haus — is a sprawling BDSM, fetish, and swinger event location in the heart of Germany, housed in a converted warehouse in Crimmitschau's industrial quarter. Founded in 2006 by Irmgard Pruka (the original "Big Mama"), the venue combines two worlds under one roof: a ground floor with spacious swinger lounges, sauna, and a cinema room, and an upper floor featuring 11 exclusive SM playrooms with serious equipment — rotating cross, slave elevator, pillory, ball cage, prison cell, and two medieval torture chambers — plus a stylish bar and event space. Rather than opening every weekend like a traditional club, BMH operates as a curated event venue — hosting 2–4 themed productions per month from independent organizers and its own team. Events range from latex passion nights and BDSM play parties to Gorean fantasy workshops and grand slave auctions. Entry typically runs 50–85 EUR per person and almost always includes a full buffet and drinks. An adjacent warehouse and 6,000 sqm outdoor grounds handle the mega-events, with overnight rooms available from 30 EUR. Cash only. Rated 4.8/5 on JoyClub from over 250 reviews with nearly 270,000 total visitors, BMH draws guests from across Germany and Europe. Reviewers consistently praise the cleanliness, friendly staff, excellent food, and the care that's gone into making every room unique. The house motto says it all: "We are everything, just not boring."

Baltimore Playhouse

Baltimore, MD

BDSM Club

Baltimore Playhouse is Charm City's premier kink and BDSM community space — a sprawling 12,000 square foot non-profit venue that holds the title of the largest known play space of its kind in the United States. With multiple play rooms, dungeon equipment, and a designated medical play area, the Playhouse is purpose-built for exploration in a safe, consent-first environment. The venue operates as a completely dry, drug-free space with trained Dungeon Monitors overseeing every event. The vibe is welcoming and unpretentious — after the lobby curtain, you can wear anything or nothing at all. A snack bar keeps everyone fueled, and the strict no-photography policy means guests can truly let go and be themselves. First-timers are especially welcome through the monthly "Kink: First Contact" night — a free open house with guided Q&A sessions and hands-on demonstration stations, no membership required. As an NCSF Coalition Partner with roots stretching back to 1997, Baltimore Playhouse has earned a perfect 5.0/5 rating on Yelp, with reviewers calling it "the most inclusive place on the planet." LGBTQ+ inclusive. All orientations and identities embraced. 19+ only.

Top Floor Club

New York, NY

Off-Premise Club

Top Floor is an invitation-only erotic play party community based in New York City, operating from a two-floor penthouse with monitored play suites, a phone-free dance floor, and a dedicated aftercare lounge. Events include the Signature Weekend, MARKED (kink-focused), and BI SENSUAL gatherings, each staffed by trained consent guardians. STI testing within three months is required for all members, and a consent orientation is conducted at each event.

CKJ Studio (Club Kink Jax)

Jacksonville, FL

BDSM Club

CKJ Studio has been Jacksonville's original alternative lifestyle club since 2014 — a private, non-profit social organization and Northeast Florida's premier members-only venue for the kink, BDSM, fetish, swinger, and LGBTQ+ communities. The space spans two distinct sections: the main Club Kink Jax area with a full dungeon (St. Andrew's cross and spanking bench), a lush Moroccan-themed lounge, a medical examination room, and Sybian stations; and the expansive La Intima VIP Lounge, which adds a dance floor, voyeur area, king-sized play beds, a private locker room, and showers — every play space stocked with condoms, cleaning supplies, and fresh linens. Far from a "Ken and Barbie" scene, CKJ draws a genuinely diverse crowd across ages, body types, orientations, and experience levels — rated 4.7 stars by over a hundred members. One first-timer memorably described it as "an adult Disney World where people embrace exactly who they are." Each open night begins with a 7–9 PM social hour welcoming newcomers before members-only play opens at 9 PM. The programming calendar is consistently varied: Wild Wednesdays, Fetish Fridays, monthly Kinky Bingo nights, a monthly Shibari Experience in the on-site Kinbaku Cardinale Dojo, occasional burlesque shows by Pink Pussycat Productions, and — every October — the three-day Jax Fet Fest Expo, a regional kink convention drawing attendees from across the Southeast with 40+ workshops, a vendor floor, and themed dungeon parties open to the public. Getting in starts with a pre-paid orientation ($20 via Eventbrite, offered at 7, 8, and 9 PM on open nights) — a 30–45 minute session covering consent culture, house rules, and a full venue tour before any membership can be activated. Trial membership ($69/person, one visit, couples and single females only), Annual membership ($149/person plus $25 per visit), and VIP membership ($599/person, unlimited visits with full La Intima access) are the three tiers. Single males must enter at the Annual tier. Every event is 21+ with no walk-ins, a strict no-phones-in-play-areas rule, and a consent-first culture maintained by on-site monitors.

Club Rendezvous (Club R)

Calgary, Alberta

On-Premise Club

Club Rendezvous — known to members as Club R — has been Calgary's defining lifestyle destination since 1983, earning its reputation as Alberta's longest-running private members club. Now in its second chapter under new ownership since 2012, the club has evolved into a fully licensed, Safe Space Alliance-recognized venue that consistently earns a 4.7-star Google rating from hundreds of members who call it home. The two-floor venue in northeast Calgary delivers a complete night out: a dance floor with top-notch DJs and LED lighting downstairs, comfortable lounge booths, and a fully stocked licensed bar — then an open-concept upper play area with thoughtfully arranged private and semi-private spaces. Themed events run every Friday and Saturday from 9 PM to 3 AM, ranging from First Time Fridays and Lingerie Parties to Fetish Nights and the popular Little Black Dress event, with educational workshops and social events on weeknights too. Club R welcomes couples, single women, and a curated number of approved single men into a consent-first community where no-phones and no-pressure are non-negotiables. First-timers are treated with genuine warmth — the club runs dedicated newcomer nights and a step-by-step first-visit guide — while regulars keep coming back for the inclusive, upscale atmosphere that sets it apart from anything else in Alberta.

Joyride

London, London

Event Organizer

A queer, sex-positive event series in London blending rave culture, art and sexual expression. The dancefloor is a liberatory space embodying freedom, pleasure and experimentation, with a genre-blurring mix from uplifting house to techno.

Richmond Rondezvouz

Richmond, VA

Event Organizer

Richmond Rondezvouz is a lifestyle event organizer based in Richmond, Virginia, hosting swinger parties at least twice a month as well as themed events. The group welcomes couples and singles, with a separate set of rules for single attendees. Events are listed on the website and members connect through the SwingLifestyle platform.

Choice Social Club

Providence, RI

On-Premise Club

Choice Social Club is New England's flagship on-premise lifestyle club — 8,000 square feet behind a famous red door on Porter Street in Providence, with 14 themed playrooms spread across the building: a voyeur chamber with a one-way window, a schoolhouse room, a massage room, a blacklight room, a glory hole room, a group room with an L-shaped multi-bed layout, and a dedicated BDSM area with St. Andrew's crosses. The dance floor has a video wall and stripper pole, the lounge is done in leather furniture with warm tones and low lighting, and a backyard patio opens up for summer events. Staff actively change sheets between uses and keep the space clean throughout the night — a detail reviewers consistently call out. The club is BYOB with a clever system: you hand your bottles to staff at check-in, they label everything with your membership number, and the bartender mixes your drinks all night using the club's provided mixers and ice. Membership runs $45/year for couples ($250 premium), $40–65 for single women, and $100 introductory for single men with a 3–4 month waitlist. Event admission on top is $90 for couples, $100 for single men, and $5 for single women (sometimes free with early arrival). Your first visit includes a complimentary trial membership. Themed Saturday nights run 9 pm to 2 am — everything from costume parties to summer BBQ events. The crowd skews about 90% couples with an average age of 35–45, and the single-male ratio is tightly managed to keep it couples-focused. Playroom etiquette uses a signal system: a plastic chain on the door means open to observation or requests, an open door without a chain means ask politely, and closed curtains or doors mean full privacy. Cell phones and cameras are strictly prohibited inside. Operated by Jim Knaus through Red Door Operations, LLC since 2009, Choice holds a federal trademark and has weathered a full-year COVID closure — a 2021 GoFundMe raised over $5,000 from 56 donors to help reopen.

Chameleons Newport

Newport, Wales

On-Premise Club

Chameleons Newport is the only swingers club in South Wales — a Friday-night takeover of The Greenhouse health club building at 24 Church Street, where the 21-seater jacuzzi, dry sauna, steam room, and multi-level play areas transform into a lifestyle venue from 8 pm to 3:30 am every week. The building has operated for over 20 years and runs as a health and sauna club the rest of the week; on Fridays, Chameleons takes over with private cabins, dark rooms, glory holes, communal play rooms, and a cafe bar where you can buy soft drinks and snacks. Alcohol is strictly BYOB — bring your own bottles but don't overdo it, and no drinks are allowed near the jacuzzi. Membership is a one-off lifetime fee: £25 for couples, free for single ladies, and £80 for single men (though single male entry is never guaranteed and depends on the couple-to-single-lady ratio on the night). If you already hold a Darlaston membership, it's valid at Newport too. The club requires two forms of ID plus a recent utility bill — stricter than the Darlaston branch — and the minimum age is 21. Entrance fees apply on top of membership but aren't published online; call 01633 212 906 during Friday hours or 0121 568 6117 out of hours (routes to Darlaston). All emails go to chameleonsclub@gmail.com — specify that you're asking about Newport. Unlike its sister venue in Darlaston which runs six days a week with themed events, Newport keeps it simple: one Friday session, no rotating themes, open to couples and singles of all genders. The dress code is relaxed — towels (provided) or shorts for men, towels or "dress as sexy as you dare" for women. Towels and secure lockers are included, condoms are available from machines in the changing rooms, and smoking is outdoor-terrace only. With a 4.6/5 rating on CityMaps and reviewers consistently praising the welcoming atmosphere for first-timers, the club benefits from having no direct competition in the region — though some reviews note the building could use more investment.

Dominium Vita

London, London

On-Premise Club

An inclusive and luxurious private members club for the sensually intelligent, where deviancy is an art form. Crafting immersive events, decadent retreats and curated encounters for those who crave beauty, depth and uninhibited connection.

On-Premise Club

Casa No.1 is a Mediterranean-styled villa tucked away on Blankenauer Strasse in Chemnitz — 500 square metres of indoor space spread across four levels plus a sprawling 5,000 m² outdoor area with a swimming pool, lounge seating for 150, and even yachts repurposed for open-air play. Owned and run by the Ranft family since at least 2011, the club has quietly built one of the strongest reputations in eastern Germany: 4.9 out of 5 stars across 831 reviews on JOYclub, with more than 458,000 recorded visitor check-ins and 1,816 fans on the platform. Everything is all-inclusive — admission covers the full bar, a gourmet buffet with themed dishes, sauna, towels, and parking (including RV spots). The club operates two regular nights: Wednesday's "Afterwork 2.0" from 5 pm to midnight (ladies free, couples from €60) and Saturday themed parties from 8 pm to 3 am (couples from €90, single men from €100). Each Saturday brings a different theme — from 80s retro nights and Schlagerparty XXL to Caribbean pool events and the annual Oktoberfest. Facilities span a dance floor with live DJs, a massage lounge, glory holes, a fully equipped BDSM area, private and group play rooms, and a cosy sauna for cooler evenings. Gentlemen who arrive without clubwear can rent suit pants and a shirt for €10 including professional cleaning. First-timers get a genuine welcome through the "First Time 4 Free" programme, and the club's motto — "Everything is possible, nothing is mandatory" — sets the tone for a consent-first atmosphere. JOYclub members receive a €10 discount on standard admission. Directions are simple: A4 Exit 70 Chemnitz-Glösa, then 2 km on the B107 toward Chemnitz — look for the colourful chimney. Large on-site parking means no circling the block, and Bus Line 22 (Hochhausfurt stop) covers the 3 km from the Hauptbahnhof if you'd rather not drive.

Swingers Club

Tucked away in a quiet industrial pocket of northeast Calgary, the Calgary Adult Playground Club has operated as one of the city's most private and long-running lifestyle communities since 2006. Known simply as CAPC or "The Studio," the 1,400 sq ft venue is deliberately unmarked from the outside — no signage, no music audible from the street, just a discreet entrance that members know to look for. Inside, it's a different world entirely. The ground floor combines a dance floor with disco lighting, a BYOB bar area stocked with mixers, ice, and glassware, and comfortable lounge seating. Upstairs, a dedicated play room carries a sensual dungeon atmosphere equipped with a Saint Andrew's Cross, bondage furniture, and safe sex supplies placed throughout. Regular events include Fetish Fridays and Swinger Saturdays starting at 9pm, plus occasional themed nights — rope bondage workshops, educational sessions, and exclusive CAPC Elite events for select members. Membership is invitation-only, either through referral from a current member or an interview with the owners. The community spans ages 21 to 60+, welcoming couples, single females, and those across the full spectrum of orientations and relationship styles: swinging, polyamory, kink, BDSM, and LGBTQ+. Single males are welcome at all events except Saturday nights, where entry requires a female partner or couple. The club's founding philosophy — safe, sane, and consensual with zero pressure — has made it a trusted space for Calgary's alternative lifestyle community for nearly two decades.

Event Organizer

Camelot Social Club has been bringing Charlotte's lifestyle community together since 2019 — a monthly event organizer that takes over entire hotels and private venues for one-night parties that feel genuinely upscale without the velvet-rope attitude. Founded by Dan Camelot with a mission to be open to "all people, not just the Ken and Barbies of the world," the club draws straight, bi, gay, and trans-friendly members from across the Carolinas. Events are hosted at properties like Holiday Inn Express Gastonia and The Gold Club Charlotte, with buffet, live DJ, and pool access included in the night. Getting started requires a one-time signed waiver before your first event — after that, you're in the community. Single males need to be vetted by the team or an existing couple before attending. Hotel rooms at takeover venues are bookable separately (Friday from $109, Saturday from $125 + tax), making it easy to turn a Saturday party into a full weekend. Pricing for main events runs around $78 for couples and $94 for single males with prepayment required for the latter. The club hosts meet & greets at local spots like Leather & Lace Gastonia as a low-pressure intro — just mention "Pineapple" or "Camelot" at the door for free entry. With themed events year-round (Kentucky Derby nights, New Year's Eve, pool parties) and a stated long-term goal of establishing a permanent on-premises venue, Camelot is steadily building toward something bigger in the Charlotte market.

HOWL Worldwide

London, London

On-Premise Club

London's only queer rave blending techno, house and afrobeats, bringing together different LGBTQ+ communities under one roof. Also a sexual wellness brand and community platform with curated playspaces for all genders and sexualities.

Club 2020

Malsch, Baden-Württemberg

On-Premise Club

Club 2020 arrived on the Baden-Württemberg lifestyle scene in September 2020 with a single mission: to build a genuinely design-forward lifestyle club for the Karlsruhe region. Nestled in the discreet industrial outskirts of Malsch — just 20 km south of Karlsruhe — it quickly earned JoyClub's highest distinction award and a near-perfect 4.7-star Google rating. The two-floor venue is immediately striking, with an interior that is deliberately beautiful and thematically rich, creating what the owners describe as an "exclusive atmosphere with a feel-good factor." The crowd is active and image-conscious — young and young-at-heart, in the club's own words — and the professional, charming staff earn consistent five-star praise for making every guest feel genuinely at home. The ground floor is the social heart: a dance floor with resident DJ, a full cocktail bar, and a first-class buffet restaurant that reviewers routinely single out as uncommonly good for a venue of this kind. Upstairs, six distinctly themed Räume der Lust (Rooms of Desire) offer a range of experiences — from the baroque Versailles Room for elegant intimate encounters, to the lockable Maritime Room, a private Couples Room, the large Caligula Group Room featuring a Czech Wall and glory holes, the Marquis de Sade BDSM Room for alternative play, and an SM area. A sauna and full hygiene facilities round out the amenities. The club operates under a clear consent-first philosophy: everything is possible, nothing is mandatory. Club 2020 runs on an event-driven model — most nights are organised by promoters through JoyClub, Germany's leading lifestyle platform, where pre-registering earns a meaningful discount off door prices. Fridays and Saturdays are the core nights (8 PM to 2 or 3 AM); occasional Thursday and Sunday events broaden the calendar. Entry prices vary by event and guest type: couples pay roughly €79–€99 on core nights, single women €25–€35, and single men at a premium. The themed event calendar is richly varied — Couples & Ladies Nights, BDSM takeovers, Queer Balls, Vegas Nights, neon glow parties, and seasonal celebrations running approximately weekly from April through November. Dress code is strictly elegant to fetish-formal; sneakers and flip-flops are turned away at the door.

Club AntiChrist

London, London

BDSM Club

Club AntiChrist has been running since 2004 and is widely credited as Europe's largest alternative fetish night. Held quarterly at Scala in King's Cross — a multi-floor Victorian venue steps from St Pancras — each event transforms the entire building into a sprawling playground for goth, metal, and kink communities. Three dancefloors run simultaneously: The Hole (all genres of metal), the Hellfire Room (goth, industrial, and post-punk), and the Foyer (80s and New Romantic), while the Theatre of Sin stages live bands, burlesque, aerial acts, and cabaret throughout the night. The BDSM dungeon — equipped by Benchmarxxx with St Andrew's Crosses, spanking benches, a cage, and a swing — is staffed by trained monitors who enforce a rigorous consent policy; anyone who touches without asking is ejected and permanently barred. A separate monitored dark playroom offers more privacy for couples and groups, with free condoms provided. Out in the rear garden courtyard, hot food is served all night alongside tarot readings and a Munch Space for kink community newcomers. Cameras are strictly banned throughout to protect guest privacy. The dress code is more accessible than comparable London fetish nights — a band t-shirt and combat boots meet the minimum standard, while full latex and elaborate fetishwear are enthusiastically worn. Tickets are per-event at around £30–48 advance or £40 cash on the door, with no couples pricing or solo-male restriction. Time Out consistently recommends it, and Cultured Vultures called it 'probably the best night out I've ever had in London.' The kink community's consensus is clear: Club AntiChrist is the most inclusive and least intimidating of the major UK fetish nights.

Insomnia Hedonistic Nightclub

Berlin, Berlin

On-Premise Club

Insomnia is a hedonistic lifestyle nightclub in Berlin combining swinger, fetish, and BDSM elements across themed party nights. The venue welcomes free spirits of all orientations with international DJs, performance stages, and a consent-focused community atmosphere.

Club 3X

Cocoa, FL

On-Premise Club

Tucked into Cocoa Village since 2016, Club 3X has built its reputation as the Space Coast's only on-premise lifestyle venue — and wears that identity with real pride. The 2,245-square-foot, two-floor space blends proper nightclub energy (thumping music, dance floor with spinning pole, pool table, bar seating) with the warm ease of a house party where regulars already know each other by name. The vibe is intentionally low-pressure: no judgment, genuine consent culture, and staff who welcome first-timers with a personal tour before they decide to stay. Club 3X has also planted itself firmly as Brevard County's LGBTQ+ safe space — Thursday is dedicated Pride Night, and the community is explicitly bi-curious and queer-friendly every night of the week. Beyond the social floor, the club layers in an impressive range of play spaces for a venue this size. Downstairs sits a dedicated BDSM dungeon stocked with a St. Andrew's Cross, spanking bench, suspension points, and a Sybian — joined by a Motor Bunny on Saturdays — plus two semi-private playrooms. Upstairs, the loft opens into a lounge, a shower room, a private lockable room for couples, and a larger group room with beds. A Dungeon Master staff member oversees the fetish spaces every Saturday. The club is clothing-optional all four nights, with bar service on-site and food from the sister lounge next door. Four themed nights give the week a clear rhythm: Wednesday's Hump Day is intimate and low-key; Thursday becomes Pride Night, explicitly welcoming the LGBTQ+ community and bi-curious guests. Fantasy Friday opens to couples seeking singles of any gender, voyeurs, exhibitionists, and nudists — with free pizza making a regular appearance. Sexy Saturday is the flagship: biggest crowd, best music, full fetish room with a Dungeon Master on duty. Entry is donation-based for couples (roughly $40–$45 suggested) and single women (~$10); single men pay $60 on Fridays and $80 on Saturdays. Membership is 18+ and required — sign up online or at the door on your first visit.

Lifestyle Playground

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Lifestyle Playground is a private lifestyle event organization based in Colorado, hosting events in Denver, Colorado Springs, and Thornton. The group offers a range of gatherings from casual coffee meetups to full hotel takeovers with themed rooms, as well as workshops on sexual wellness. The community is inclusive of ENM, polyamory, swinging, LGBTQ+, and BDSM members, and access requires a membership application.

X Club Winnipeg

Winnipeg, Manitoba

Event Organizer

X Club Winnipeg is an adult lifestyle and social club spanning over 10,000 square feet across three floors at its Winnipeg, Manitoba location. The facility includes multiple play rooms, a hot tub room, sauna, steam room, and a range of locker and private room rentals priced per visit. Annual membership is available for couples and solo members and provides room reservations, event discounts, and reduced room rates.

Arouse Vegas

Las Vegas, NV

Private Event Series

Arouse Vegas is a private, members-only lifestyle event platform based in Las Vegas, Nevada. Rather than operating a fixed brick-and-mortar venue, Arouse Vegas hosts themed erotic parties at an upscale private venue called "The G Spot!" in Las Vegas, typically on Saturday nights from 8 PM to 2 AM. Membership is required to attend events and involves a vetted application process — applicants must submit photos and an essay, and acceptance is not guaranteed. Membership starts at $10/month but does not include event admission; tickets are purchased separately for each party. Events are open to couples, single females, and single males. The club enforces strict consent policies, a zero-tolerance stance on drugs and prostitution, and prohibits cameras or recording devices. Single women are especially welcomed and protected by anti-harassment policies. Beyond local events, Arouse Vegas coordinates lifestyle travel packages including cruises (Bliss Cruise, Desire Caribbean), resort stays (Temptation Cancun, Sea Mountain), and lifestyle conventions (Naughty N'awlins). The platform runs on the Modern Lifestyle network and integrates with SDC, Kasidie, and Swing Lifestyle.

Night Spa Halifax

Halifax, Nova Scotia

Bath House

Night Spa Halifax is a queer-owned and operated, members-only clothing-optional adult club located on Gottingen Street in Halifax, Nova Scotia. The venue offers a hot tub, sauna, showers, open play spaces, and 15 private rooms, with regular sessions on Tuesday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday evenings. Membership requires an application, and the club enforces a zero-tolerance policy on consent violations; it is not recommended for lifestyle newcomers.

CJ's at The Townhouse

Glasgow, Scotland

On-Premise Club

Tucked into a quiet corner of Kelvindale on Glasgow's leafy west side, CJ's at The Townhouse has built a reputation as one of Scotland's most welcoming swingers clubs. The venue spans two floors of a discreet townhouse on Ashburton Road, with a trio of stripper-pole-lined lounges, a self-service bar and a buffet downstairs, and a warren of eight themed playrooms upstairs. Owner CJ personally walks first-timers through the space, and the crowd — a friendly mix of regulars and newcomers, often spanning their late twenties to early sixties — sets a tone that's more living-room than nightclub. Parties run on a tight rhythm: Friday nights (8pm–midnight) are couples and single ladies only; Saturdays (9pm–2am) open the door to a limited number of single men; and once a month, a Wednesday afternoon party (noon–3pm) welcomes everyone. There are also dedicated gay and bi-male nights run under the @cjs4gay banner. Entry is by prior booking only — no walk-ins, no admittance after 11pm — and photo ID (passport, driving licence or utility bill) is required at the door. Dress code is strictly enforced: a sexy little number for the ladies, smart casual or sexy attire for the gents. The playrooms cover everything from a cinema lounge and an open group room to a fully equipped dungeon, a medical-themed private room, a voyeur room, and a couples-and-single-females-only room with a love swing. Phones are off in public areas and cameras are banned outright, which keeps the vibe relaxed and discreet. The "party contribution" at the door covers a buffet plus tea, coffee and soft drinks; alcohol is BYOB with no corkage. Towels and condoms are provided, there's a separate indoor smoking area, and an on-site wardrobe and makeover service is on hand for anyone who wants to dress up before they head in.

Cedar Creek Resort

Leesville, SC

Lifestyle Resort

Cedar Creek Resort has been South Carolina's go-to clothing-optional getaway since 1989 — 43 wooded acres along Black Creek, about ten minutes south of I-20 between Columbia and Augusta. The property packs in an indoor pool (heated for major event weekends), an outdoor pool, indoor and outdoor hot tubs, nearly half a mile of natural lazy-river creek for tubing, a sand volleyball court, corn hole, petanque, horseshoes, hiking trails through the woods, and a creek-side dock for sunbathing. The clubhouse has a full bar, a pool table, dart board, and hosts DJ dances every Saturday night and karaoke most Fridays year-round. Overnight options run from a cabin with queen bed and full bath to five huts with AC, primitive tent sites near the clubhouse, powered tent sites, and full-hookup RV lots that handle rigs up to 85 feet on 20/30/50 amp service — Passport America and Escapees members get 50% off RV sites outside festival weeks. Day visitors pay $35 off-season or $67 in prime season (April–September plus holiday weekends), and a $25 provisional annual membership is required for all non-members. Single women receive 50% off across the board; student and military couples under 26 get 20% off. Anyone staying past 1 am pays a $21 night fee. The vibe is relaxed and clothing-optional — nudity is welcome but never mandatory, and house rules keep it community-pool appropriate in public areas. Themed parties rotate weekly (Naughty Nautical, Bunny Party, Body Jewelry & Boots, Shakespeare Night) with Nudestock as the big annual summer festival and prime holiday weekends for New Year's, Halloween, Valentine's, and St. Patrick's. The crowd is genuinely diverse in age, shape, and background, and repeat visitors consistently praise the welcoming atmosphere even if the rustic setting won't be mistaken for a luxury resort. Dogs are allowed, the grounds have free WiFi and laundry, and the front office closes at 6 pm (8 pm on event nights).

Vault 139

London, London

Bath House

London's busiest gay cruise bar, located in a buzzing basement near Warren Street in W1. Open 7 days a week with themed nights including nude, underwear and clothed events in a clean, safe and welcoming setting that draws a diverse crowd.

Cats 2.0 Swingerclub

München, Bavaria

On-Premise Club

Cats 2.0 is Munich's oldest swinger club — a legacy that stretches back through its earlier incarnations as Karibik and the original Cats before relaunching at Paul-Gerhardt-Allee 44 in March 2022 under owner Sven Drummer. The 500 m² space holds up to 150 guests across six separate rooms including lockable couples' suites, a fully equipped BDSM area, a whirlpool, massage room, dance floor with top DJs on weekends, and a bar serving branded drinks and cocktails. Admission is all-inclusive: cold and warm buffet, every drink on the menu, towels, condoms, shower products, and locker access are all covered in the door price. Cash only. The club runs six nights a week with a different flavour each evening — Monday's "Schnupper Montag" is designed for first-timers at the lowest price point (couples €50, ladies €15), Tuesday is "Hot & Active," Wednesday welcomes a higher single-male ratio with "Herrenüberschuss," Thursday adds massage sessions with Kim, Friday brings "Sway and Play" and college-themed nights, and Saturday peaks with "Dark Experience" parties and headline DJs. Standard weekend pricing sits at €75–80 for couples, €120 for single men, and €25 for ladies, with JOYclub members saving €10 across the board. The club closes Sundays. With 3,080 JOYclub fans, nearly a million recorded visitor check-ins, and a 4.5/5 rating across 905+ reviews, Cats 2.0 has the numbers to back up its self-proclaimed "Big City Club" status. House rules are firm but sensible: towels between bodies and mattresses, no food or drinks in play areas, no street shoes, and no towel-only dress — this isn't an FKK club. Security is on-site nightly, and the motto "Everything is possible, nothing is mandatory" sets a clear consent-first tone.

On-Premise Club

Chameleons in Darlaston is one of the UK's most established swingers clubs — over 25 years in the business, open 363 days a year (every day except Tuesday), across a three-floor sauna-based venue just off Junction 9 of the M6. The ground floor holds reception, a bar and lounge, a dance floor, two large jacuzzis, singles changing, and showers. Upstairs you'll find a TV lounge, couples changing, a steam room, main shower area, ladies' powder room, and a mix of private and communal play rooms including a couples-only section. The top floor adds a sauna box, more showers, extra play rooms, and lockable rooms for privacy. Ten on-site hotel rooms are available for overnight stays — five en-suites including one superior room with its own entrance. Each night has its own character: Monday is Bi-Night (strictly bisexual and bi-friendly, TVs welcome, 2 pm–midnight), Wednesday through Friday runs from 11 am, Thursday adds Nude Night from 6 pm (strictly no clothing or towels), Friday and Saturday stay open until 3 am, and Saturday switches to couples and single ladies only after 7:30 pm. The club is BYOB — bring your bottles and the bar will refrigerate and serve them back to you. Food is served during sessions and gets genuine praise (the lamb shank in particular). Lifetime membership is a one-off fee: £25 for couples, £10 for single ladies, £80 for single men, with entrance on top ranging from £12 to £40 depending on the night and gender. Single men can enquire Tuesday through Friday and Sunday, but membership isn't guaranteed and depends on the ratio of couples to single ladies. ID is mandatory — one form for couples and single ladies, two forms for single men. The club has an 8,900-strong Facebook following, 1,400+ Instagram followers, 200+ FabSwingers reviews rated "Fabulous," and runs a second venue in Newport (24 Church Street). Free on-site parking, a dedicated taxi service through Link Up Cabs (0121 568 8989), and bus links from Walsall, Wolverhampton, and Birmingham make getting there straightforward.

On-Premise Club

atlantisEVOLUTION is a nightclub-themed swingers and lifestyle club in Burslem, Stoke-on-Trent, voted the No. 1 nightclub-themed swingers club in the UK. Run by beloved hosts Cat and Tag for over 15 years, it spans two floors with dance areas, multiple play rooms, kasbahs, a cosy lounge, and an outside courtyard. The club operates as BYOB with a customer cooler fridge and sells soft drinks and mixers. Fridays are open to all including single males, while Saturdays are couples and single females only. Special events include PlaY Xtra (free 1st Wednesday), EVOLUTIONfetish (4th Sunday, non-swinging), Greedy Girls, Hot Wives, and newbie-friendly PoP My Cherry nights. Rated 4.7/5 across 40+ reviews, consistently praised for its welcoming, no-pressure atmosphere and attentive staff.

On-Premise Club

Club Alchemy is one of the UK's most ambitious lifestyle venues — a purpose-built adult club in Northwich, Cheshire, that hosts immersive themed events roughly two to three Saturdays a month. The venue features over 30 playrooms across multiple levels, including an Amsterdam Street section, a Live Porn Room, and a 1,500 square foot steam complex. Regular event nights span everything from Temptation and Fuckalicious to the upscale Dark Velvet and the exclusive Club Flesh, hosted in partnership with Torture Garden. The facilities are comprehensive: a full bar, dance floor, sauna, hot tub, dungeon, dark room, private rooms, and over 200 individual lockers. Entry is per-event with tickets purchased online — couples from £35, single ladies from £15. Single males are accepted in very limited numbers at £45, typically by prior email arrangement, and a VIP room is available for groups at an additional £30. Club Alchemy has earned a loyal following across the northwest England lifestyle scene for its production values and the breadth of its themed programming. The venue is 18+ and non-membership — each event is open to newcomers and regulars alike, with a strong emphasis on consent, inclusivity, and a welcoming atmosphere for couples and LGBTQ+ guests.

The Vanilla Alternative

Tempsford, Bedfordshire

On-Premise Club

The Vanilla Alternative is a private members lifestyle venue based at The Anchor Lodge Hotel in Tempsford, Bedfordshire. Featuring a classy nightclub feel with bar and dance floor areas, the venue hosts themed nights, festival weekends, and offers on-site hotel accommodation in a welcoming, non-judgmental environment.

Cupids Swingers Club

Swinton, Greater Manchester

On-Premise Club

Manchester's swingers playground, located on Sutherland Street. A full-service venue offering themed nights and events throughout the week for couples and singles, with a welcoming and safe environment open from afternoons through to the early hours.

The Naughty Pineapple

Leicester, Leicestershire

On-Premise Club

One of the smaller clubs in Leicester that's friendly, modern, classy, and above all very clean. Features a hot tub, regular themed events, and dedicated Newbie Day Thursdays for those new to the scene, with a welcoming LGBTQ-friendly community.

The Sublime Society

London, London

On-Premise Club

The Sublime Society is an exclusive hedonistic soiree and sensual salon based in London's West End, where fantasy and desire merge in an intimate, romantic setting draped in silk and secrecy. Founded by international burlesque artists, it celebrates sensuality as an art form through live performances, interactive installations, and curated cocktails in upscale Mayfair venues.

Afterdark Edinburgh

Edinburgh, Scotland

On-Premise Lifestyle Club

AfterDark is Edinburgh's premier private members swinging and kink club, originally known as "After Eight" before rebranding and moving to its current larger premises in October 2022. Located in a converted warehouse unit at Bankhead Workspace in Edinburgh's Sighthill area, the venue delivers an unexpectedly polished experience behind its industrial exterior. The spacious social lounge serves as the central hub, with atmospheric lighting setting the tone for the evening. Surrounding it are 9 dedicated play spaces of varying sizes — from intimate private rooms with doors to open play areas — plus a cinema room, dungeon/BDSM area, and a glory hole. Lockers are provided at the entrance (phones must be stored here), and changing rooms with showers and mirrors are available. Towels, condoms, and lubricant are provided throughout. AfterDark operates BYOB — bring your own alcohol and enjoy it in the lounge. Soft drinks are available for purchase via tokens bought at reception. The club runs a varied weekly schedule: Wednesday midweek sessions (8 PM–1 AM), Friday and Saturday main nights (9 PM–3 AM), and rotating Thursday events including TV/CD/Bi & Admirers nights, quiz nights, and rope classes. Themed events rotate regularly — lingerie nights, UV parties, wrestling themes, couples-only evenings, and seasonal celebrations. First-timers are welcomed with a guided tour from staff covering the layout, rules, and etiquette. Many guests attend simply to socialise without participating in play, and the club's 4.6-star Google rating (33 reviews) reflects the consistently welcoming atmosphere. Membership is £20/year (arranged on first visit), with entry fees of £35 for couples and £40 for single males on weekends. Dress code is smart casual — no sportswear, team clothing, joggers, or hats permitted.

Body Shop Pittsburgh

McKees Rocks, PA

Club

The Shop Social Lounge — known in the lifestyle community as Body Shop Pittsburgh — is a consent-forward, members-only social club for adventurous adults in McKees Rocks, just minutes from downtown Pittsburgh. Spanning over 15,000 square feet, the venue blends nightlife energy with intentional connection, offering themed play rooms, a full dungeon, a dance floor with a pole and vintage car DJ booth, a heated outdoor patio, and cozy lounge spaces designed for every comfort level. Friday and Saturday nights come alive with rotating themed events — from Latin Heat and Lingerie Night to kink-focused Freaky Fridays with on-site STI testing and BDSM education workshops. The club is radically inclusive, welcoming all genders, orientations, and relationship structures, with gender-neutral pricing and a strong LGBTQ+ presence that sets it apart from most lifestyle venues. Safer Space Monitors patrol every event, and the culture of enthusiastic consent is woven into everything from the application process to the playroom doors. Co-founded by Gelsomino Esplandiu and John Ross, the club has earned a devoted community and a 4.8-star Google rating through its commitment to cleanliness, safety, and a zero-pressure atmosphere. Membership starts with a free online application including photo verification, and the BYOB format keeps the vibe relaxed and personal. Whether you are a curious newcomer or an experienced explorer, The Shop meets you exactly where you are — no judgment, no expectations, just real connection on your own terms.

Black Diamonds Swinger Club

Alexandria, VA

Event Organizer

Black Diamonds Swinger Club is one of the DMV area's most prominent lifestyle event organizers, creating a welcoming and celebratory space specifically for African American and POC communities and their admirers. Based in Alexandria, Virginia, Black Diamonds hosts rotating events across the greater Washington DC metropolitan area — from hotel takeovers in Northern Virginia to private venue parties — with an emphasis on safe, consensual, and sex-positive experiences for all attendees. Rather than operating a fixed venue, Black Diamonds curates themed gatherings at carefully selected locations disclosed only to vetted guests. Their events draw a diverse crowd of couples, singles, and groups looking for an inclusive atmosphere rooted in respect, consent, and genuine connection. A thorough vetting process via online forms ensures everyone shares the same values and expectations before attending. With over 24,000 Instagram followers and an active presence across multiple platforms, Black Diamonds has built a loyal community in one of the country's most vibrant lifestyle scenes. New guests can connect through their Linktree, explore upcoming events via shared Google and Apple calendars, and reach out directly through social media. Payment is handled through CashApp and Venmo, keeping the process simple and discreet.

Event Organizer

Carolina Friends is the oldest lifestyle club in the Carolinas — founded in 1991 by eight Charlotte couples looking to host private parties in a welcoming, judgment-free atmosphere. Over three-and-a-half decades the club grew to add more than 40,000 couples to its roster, built its own dedicated facility called The Estate in 2000, and expanded to serve both the Charlotte metro and the Triad (Winston-Salem and Greensboro). In 2012 The Estate was lost to political pressure, and in 2016 new ownership stepped in to keep the club alive rather than let it dissolve. Today Carolina Friends runs full hotel takeovers every Friday and Saturday night — entire hotels reserved exclusively for members, giving events the privacy and scale you can't get at a smaller venue. Charlotte parties regularly draw 400+ couples; Triad events typically see 150+. Each event includes a live DJ and dance floor, a full buffet, BYOB with bartender and free mixers, co-ed showers, towels and lockers, and seasonal pool access. A late-night breakfast gathering caps off each evening. Private activity areas, group rooms, and a voyeur/exhibition space round out the play areas. Membership is $13.68/month and requires a free profile with your legal name before purchase — names are kept strictly private and used only for check-in. Event admission is sold separately and priced per event. Single females are always welcome; single males are admitted at most events but are limited based on attendance balance. The club has no public social media — communication happens through the member platform (private chat, AutoDate, passkey photos) and the three major lifestyle directories: SLS Club #8112, SDC, and Kasidie Club #277.

Alaska Club Kink (ACK)

Anchorage, AK

BDSM/Kink Community Club

Alaska Club Kink (ACK) is Anchorage's one-of-a-kind kink and comedy community club — the rare venue that pairs BDSM education with open-mic nights, karaoke, and stand-up comedy under one roof. Founded by Surge Kulikov after the closure of ACAL in 2019, ACK operates out of subSpace, a 2,000+ sq ft LGBTQIA2S+-friendly, veteran-owned event space at 2217 E. Tudor Road, Suite 3. The club is built around an education-first philosophy. Monthly Kink 101 classes welcome complete beginners, a companion educational website (alaskakinkeducation.com) provides a public library of kink resources, and Dungeon Monitors are present at all events to ensure safe, consensual play. The weekly schedule is packed: Mystery Munches every Thursday (7:30–9:30 PM at The Raven Bar, open to the public), Tuesday Rope Jams and board game nights at subSpace, Friday Open Dungeon (7–10 PM, $20 drop-in), and monthly themed play parties on Saturdays (7 PM–1 AM, $40 general / free for All Access members). Play parties are potluck-style — the club provides finger foods, desserts, and non-alcoholic drinks, and attendees can bring dishes to share. The venue is fully dry: no alcohol is served or permitted, which removes consent complications and makes the space accessible to those in recovery. The 1,000 sq ft open dungeon floor is equipped with a large suspension frame, St. Andrew's crosses, bondage horse, massage tables, and more — all available for member use. Membership is free to join online (processed within a few days), with a paid "All Access Pass" tier that waives event fees, eliminates equipment rental deposits, and grants 50% off play parties. Comedy, theater, and public events are also hosted at subSpace separately from the kink programming, normalizing the space within the broader Anchorage community. In a state where alternative lifestyle spaces are rare, ACK is the community hub.

The Ecclesia

Glasgow, Scotland

On-Premise Club

Based in the heart of Merchant City in Glasgow, The Ecclesia strives to build a safe kink environment which overlaps with swinging. Born from the closure of Glasgow's historic dungeon, they exist to fill the void left by clubs shutting down across Scotland, providing a fantastic space that offers something for everyone.

Event Organizer

A multi-genre, queer, sex-positive rave with activism at its core. POC and sex worker-led, centring historically marginalised communities with play spaces, workshops and performances across genres including Dancehall, Afrobeats, House and UKG.

colette Dallas

Dallas, TX

On-Premise Club

colette Dallas is the chain's high-energy Texas flagship — a private, members-only on-premise lifestyle club spanning 8,000+ square feet across two floors in northwest Dallas, near Love Field. The aesthetic is modern warehouse meets nightclub: a dance floor anchored by stripper poles and a stage, high-tech lighting and sound, and a curated upscale crowd that takes the dress code seriously. The Dallas Observer ranked colette first in its "Best Swingers Clubs Dallas" feature, and SwingerLifestyle.com puts it at #2 across all of Texas — the most prominent on-premise lifestyle venue in Dallas–Fort Worth. Play spaces are tiered three ways: semi-private rooms with sheer curtains, fully private rooms with blackout curtains, and a centerpiece group play room with a round bed and spectator seating. There's also an in-club movie theater showing adult films, a quieter second-floor lounge, and a VIP room rentable for private parties of up to 30 ($500–$1,000) — a perk Texas reviewers consistently call best in the state. The bar is BYOB — no liquor license, but free mixers, ice, and setups are provided, plus a beverage cooler for member use. Newbie Night runs every Wednesday with the membership fee waived for first-timers; staff give every newcomer a guided tour on arrival. colette is a national chain founded by John and Jackie Melfi (who also run the OpenLove101 lifestyle blog and podcast). The Dallas location opened in 2012 and connects into a 250,000+ member network across five cities — Dallas, Austin, Houston, New Orleans, and San Antonio. One membership works at all of them. Single men are welcome Wednesday through Friday; Saturdays are reserved for couples and single women only. Recurring themed nights include Pantiless Fridays, Thirty Dollar Thursday, and rotating fetish, lingerie, and costume parties — and i.Candy Parties hosts large monthly events at the venue throughout the year.

The Menagerie

Brighton, East Sussex

Event Organizer

The Menagerie is a private event series in Brighton for the ethically non-monogamous and kink communities, centred on connection, consent, and curiosity. Welcoming all genders and sexualities, it offers sensual socials open to everyone and curated play parties for vetted guests in a queer-positive, body-positive, judgement-free space.

Townhouse

Birkenhead, Merseyside

On-Premise Club

An established lifestyle venue on the Wirral hosting events for the swinging, BDSM and LGBTQ+ community for over 20 years. Known for setting the bar high with quality events and a welcoming atmosphere for brief encounters and lasting connections.

Bristol Gardens Health Spa

Brighton, East Sussex

Bath House

Bristol Gardens Health Spa has been Brighton's best-kept open secret since 1985, when the founding family transformed a Grade II listed Regency lodge in Kemptown into something genuinely unlike anywhere else on the south coast. The 7,000 sq ft three-floor venue channels the spirit of the ancient Roman baths — steam, heat, water, and warm communal spaces — without the formality. From the moment you pass through the changing rooms, clothes stay behind and the outside world seems to follow. The wet area is the heart of BGHS: three fully-tiled hot tubs running at 39–40°C, a custom-built jacuzzi with hydro-massage jets, two pine-clad saunas at 60°C, and two mosaic-tiled steam rooms fragrant with eucalyptus oil. A 4.8-metre pool with Doric columns and underwater lighting adds a touch of the theatrical. Upstairs, leather sofas in the refreshment lounge give way to a library, a TV room, and eight private rest rooms for couples seeking a quieter retreat. Qualified therapists offer aromatherapy, Reiki, Shiatsu, and sports massage seven days a week. The venue draws a genuinely mixed crowd — predominantly gay and bisexual men during weekday and daytime sessions, with Saturday and Sunday evenings from 5:30pm reserved exclusively for mixed-gender couples. Rules are firmly enforced: no phones, no cameras, no alcohol, and no unwanted advances — staff are known for their warm but strict approach to maintaining a respectful atmosphere. Whether you're a curious first-timer or a returning regular, BGHS rewards those who embrace its naturist ethos with one of the most relaxing and uninhibited social spaces in England.

On-Premise Club

Club 101 has earned its place as Dayton's oldest on-premise lifestyle club through nearly three decades of building one of Ohio's warmest swinger communities. Step inside and you'll find a genuinely no-pressure atmosphere where couples, kinksters, BDSM enthusiasts, and alternative lifestylers are equally at home — whether it's your first visit or your hundredth. The club's DJ is a genuine point of pride, spinning what regulars call the best dance floor set of any lifestyle venue in the region, and the relaxed BYOB setup (cooler storage on-site, complimentary snacks and sodas) keeps the energy social and affordable. The layout is purpose-built for exploration at your own pace. Beyond the main room's dance floor, stripper pole, and pool table, Club 101 offers an impressive range of play spaces: five private rooms, two semi-private rooms with exhibitionist windows, a large group room, a mirrored group room, and a dedicated BDSM room with massage table. Showers, lockers, and on-site private parking round out the practical side — and first-time visitors are warmly invited to take a guided tour before committing to stay. Open Wednesday through Saturday (Saturdays run until 3am), the club requires a modest annual membership — $55 for couples, $65 for single men, $25 for single women — plus a variable door fee by night. The themed event calendar runs year-round: Leather & Lace nights, glow parties, fetish evenings, pole dancing nights, and more. Club 101 also partners with Shameless Care to give members free access to STI education, a sign that this community takes sexual health as seriously as the good times. Cash only; 21+ strictly enforced.

Friends Night Out (FNO)

Aurora, IL

Event Organizer

Friends Night Out is a lifestyle event organizer based in Aurora, Illinois, hosting themed BYOB events at the TSIN Barn venue. Events are open to couples, throuples, and single women; single men are permitted at select events with access restrictions to certain areas. Themed dress is encouraged but not required, and event tickets are non-refundable.

Wicked Grounds

San Francisco, CA

BDSM Club

Wicked Grounds Annex is a San Francisco Bay Area organization focused on BDSM and kink education, offering monthly live classes, multi-week intensive courses, one-on-one coaching, and online video instruction. Led by instructor Miriam Green, the curriculum covers topics from negotiation basics to advanced techniques for practitioners at all experience levels. All programming is restricted to adults 18 and over.

AfterDark Events

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer (Pop-Up Play Parties)

AfterDark Events is a progressive, consent-forward kink and alternative-sexuality event organizer producing themed pop-up play parties, rope jams, speed dating events, and community gatherings across the San Francisco Bay Area. Founded in 2021 as the evolution of over a decade of ethical kink organizing, AfterDark is led by a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled team — and that inclusive ethos defines every event. Rather than operating a permanent venue, AfterDark hosts events primarily at Stopgap (San Francisco's premier kink club in SoMa) and Paradox SF (a queer/POC/disabled-owned space on Mission Street). Events feature distinct zones for socializing, dancing, kink play, and aftercare, equipped with St. Andrew's crosses, spanking benches, bondage beds, suspension hardpoints, cages, and a dedicated "fuck room." Food, water, coffee, condoms, lube, and earplugs are all provided. What makes AfterDark unique is its intentional, curated approach. Each event series has a distinct identity: SPANK! is the Bay Area's oldest running public kink party; RED is exclusively for queer women, non-binary, and trans folx; AURA centers dominant women and those who serve them; Element is for ages 18–39; Legacy for 40+; and Obsidian is the flagship all-genders blacklight play party. All events are strictly alcohol and drug free — attendees engage with clear heads and full intentionality. Safety is paramount: color-coded wristbands signal approachability (yellow = open, red = do not approach), dungeon monitors are always on duty, phones must be stored out of sight, and COVID vaccination plus same-day testing are required. Tickets are sold individually through Forbidden Tickets and Plura, with tiered pricing typically ranging from $25 (financial access) to $75 (day-of), and events regularly sell out.

Sultry Sarah's Social Club

St. Louis, MO

Social Club

Sultry Sarah's Social Club is a St. Louis, Missouri lifestyle event organization operating since 2017. The club hosts two event formats: Sultry Soirees, which are on-premise lifestyle gatherings with designated play areas and complimentary food and beverages, and Sultry Socials, which are casual off-premise mixers without play spaces. A color-coded wristband consent system and on-site security are standard at all events, and tiered memberships range from free to $150 per month.

Members-only BDSM/lifestyle community center (brand sunset — venue continues at the same address as Inversion MKE)

Club EASSEL ran for about four years as Milwaukee's self-described "BDSM/Lifestyle Community Center" — a sex-positive, body-positive, kink-inclusive members space built out of a suite inside a multi-tenant 1950s flex/industrial building at 615 S 89th Street, on the western edge of Milwaukee proper at the West Allis border. The club shared the building with a mechanical contractor, a junk-removal franchise and a construction firm — daytime industrial tenants who closed up by the time EASSEL's doors opened. The brand name is a stylised respelling of "easel" — the artist's stand — and that framing recurred in the club's own copy: "fun and exciting ways to explore your sexuality in a safe and sex-positive environment" and "explore your art in a body positive space." Eassel LLC was registered in Wisconsin on 11 December 2020 with Kathryn S. Huntington listed as registered agent; the club opened to the public not long after. EASSEL ran an unusual format for the US lifestyle scene — kink/BDSM-forward rather than swing-forward, members-only and application-based but unusually transparent for the niche (LLC on public record, BBB profile under "Adult Entertainment" with an A+ rating, Facebook and Instagram both maintained). It sat outside the standard swinger directories — not on SDC, Kasidie, SwingLifestyle or SwingersHelp — and lived instead on FetLife, Instagram, a Wisconsin Facebook lifestyle group, and a handful of community-centre listings (including a Madison sex-positive therapist's referral page). Programming ran Tuesday 7:30–10:30pm and Friday/Saturday 8pm–2am, with a regular Karaoke Night anchoring the weekly cadence and BDSM munches and play parties filling the rest. The Church of Ecstasy lifestyle aggregator rated it the highest-scoring Milwaukee venue at 4.2/5. The only public-facing peer in the city was The Key Social Club — a 21+ swinger-leaning social — and the two operated as complements rather than competitors. In the second half of 2024 the EASSEL name sunset and the venue rebranded as Inversion MKE. The change is documented in the City of Milwaukee Board of Zoning Appeals agenda for 12 September 2024, which lists "Inversion MKE, LLC" applying for a special use permit at 615 S 89th Street, and was confirmed in an r/milwaukee thread by a regular who clarified that "EASSEL did not close, just renamed to Inversion a few months ago. The management changed. It's now one of the best run establishments I know of. Everyone is super nice and there is a great culture of safety and consent." The clubeassel.com domain went offline shortly after, displaying a developer placeholder dated 2025. The Instagram, Facebook and FetLife accounts remain visible but inactive under the old name. The Club EASSEL brand is closed; the venue itself continues, under new ownership and a new identity, at the same address.

Club Love Ltd

Bristol, Bristol

On-Premise Club

Club Love is a truly unique queer-owned, sex-positive party for underground clubbers in the kink and fetish community, based in Bristol Temple Meads' historic Ash Pits. Featuring curated DJs playing house, disco, and tech house, it's an inclusive space where dancers, lovers, and artists come together for radical self-expression with a dedicated queer-led wellbeing team.

Ohio Swings

New Carlisle, OH

On-Premise Club

Ohio Swings is an adult lifestyle club located in New Carlisle, Ohio, hosting themed overnight events that typically run from 8pm to 10am. The event calendar includes recurring themes such as Fetish Friday, karaoke nights, LGBTQ-inclusive events, and cannabis-friendly gatherings. Online membership is available separately from event attendance.