Event Organizers

Friction Carolina

Durham, NC

Event Organizer

Friction Carolina is a women-owned lifestyle hotel takeover event organizer operating in Raleigh and other cities across the country. Membership is screening-based, requiring all attendees to meet appearance and hygiene standards, with new single women accepted only by referral from established couple members. Monthly themed events run on a BYOB basis, and the organization also coordinates lifestyle travel and cruise packages.

Friction Parties

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Washington (primary), also Philadelphia, Baltimore, Raleigh NC, NJ, OH, Multi-state (PA, DC, MD, VA, NC, NJ, OH)

Event Organizer

Friction Parties is a women-owned and operated event company founded more than 22 years ago by Lisa Friction, billed as the only nationally recognized hotel party brand in the United States. Operating across the East Coast — with events regularly held in the Washington DC/Maryland area, Philadelphia, New Jersey, North Carolina, and Ohio — Friction takes over entire hotels for the duration of each event, meaning every guest and room belongs exclusively to the lifestyle community. The organizing ethos is welcoming but selective: the crowd skews toward what organizers describe as attractive, well-groomed couples and single women, and all attendees are pre-screened before admission. Events run in two formats. Single-day events are typically held on Saturdays around themed holidays — Halloween, New Year’s Eve, Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day — with check-in from 2 PM and a ballroom dance party running from 9 PM to around 1:30 AM. Weekend two-day events add clothing-optional pool parties and afternoon activities. Ticket prices range from approximately $75–$150 per person; no refunds, only future-event credits. Membership on the platform lets members browse event attendee lists and connect with couples and single females year-round. Once the main dance party ends, the format shifts to an informal hall crawl on a designated party floor where room doors are propped open and guests host themed mini-parties until the early morning. The ballroom features a DJ, dance poles, cages, and themed décor matched to the night’s costume theme. Alcohol is available via full cash bar operated by the hotel; guests may not bring drinks from rooms to the party floor.

616

Grand Rapids, MI

Event Organizer

Club 616 is West Michigan's premier upscale lifestyle event organizer, bringing together a vibrant community of open-minded adults across Grand Rapids and Kalamazoo. Known for meticulously themed parties — from Retro Pin Up elegance to all-night signature events — every Club 616 gathering is a carefully curated experience where sophistication meets sensuality. With over 14,000 Instagram followers and a loyal membership spanning SLS (BNJALLNIGHT), Kasidie, SDC, FetLife, and SwingTowns, Club 616 has earned its reputation as the gold standard for lifestyle events in West Michigan. Events are hosted at upscale hotel venues and feature a strictly enforced dress code — because looking the part is part of the experience. Newcomers are warmly welcomed with a newbie-friendly atmosphere, while limited single male tickets keep the guest ratio balanced and comfortable for couples. Single women are always embraced. LGBTQ+ inclusive. 21+ only.

Allures Lifestyle

Sacramento, CA

Event Organizer (Hotel Takeover Parties)

Allures Lifestyle is Sacramento's longest-running lifestyle event organizer — a pop-up operation that descends on the DoubleTree by Hilton Sacramento's grand ballroom and transforms it into what the group bills as Northern California's premier swinger dance-play party. Operating under the tagline "the force of irresistible attraction," Allures has run monthly hotel parties for over a decade and draws couples from across the greater Sacramento area and beyond. The setup reads more nightclub than back-room affair: romantic candlelight, fog machines, sensual mood lighting, and two large projector screens broadcasting music videos accompany a state-of-the-art DJ spinning Old School, R&B, Hip Hop, Latin, Pop, EDM, and Classic Rock. The main ballroom floor centers on a full dance floor with a stripper pole and go-go stage, flanked by reserved VIP round tables (seating eight each) and 10-by-7-foot draped VIP cabanas — each fitted with a sofa, loveseat, and coffee table — right on the dance floor. Adjacent to the ballroom, the "Boom Boom Room" play suite provides multiple beds, a double-sided St. Andrew's Cross, a multi-positional sex horse, and a sex swing, staffed by Allures personnel throughout the evening. Guests in the play suite are asked to be in lingerie or less; voyeurs are welcome but may be asked to vacate if space is needed. Overnight sleeping rooms — standard rooms through two-bedroom suites — can be reserved in the Allures hotel block, placing guests on dedicated Allures floors and including a goodie bag at check-in. The event calendar runs to monthly themed hotel dances plus more intimate "Fantasy Fridays" at rotating venues, casual Meet & Greets at nightclubs and lifestyle bars, and an ambitious roster of destination programming: a clothing-optional takeover in Jaco, Costa Rica, Hedonism II Jamaica dates, Bliss and Desire cruise ship charters, Vegas weekends, Gold Country motorcycle runs, boating flotillas, and camping trips. The signature event is the annual New Year's Eve "SEXabration Ball," which drew national news coverage in January 2020 after nearly 1,000 guests filled the DoubleTree. All hotel events are 21+; a full cash bar is on-site.

Young Couples Party (YCP)

Chicago, IL

Event Organizer

Young Couples Party is a Chicago-area lifestyle club hosting approximately 54 live events per year, including full hotel takeovers, club parties, and meet-and-greets. Membership is open to couples and single women between the ages of 21 and 42.

Private-home party series (off-premise, presumed defunct)

Club E'Lan ran for at least the better part of two decades as one of New England's longest-standing private swinger clubs, founded in 1994 and operated entirely on the old-school NASCA model — phone, mail, and a personal AOL email, with the actual party location never published online or anywhere else. The mailing address was a PO Box in Wakefield, Massachusetts; the parties themselves were held in "a private home located just 20 minutes north of Boston," with the address disclosed only to guests who had cleared screening. The organiser is publicly identified only by the email handle "ladi630@aol.com" — the "ladi" / "Lady" tag is the giveaway: the kind of female host-organiser whose name circulated in the North Shore lifestyle community by word of mouth and by call-back, never in print. The format was tight by design. Each party had a specific theme — the listing language emphasised that the themes were chosen "to fill the evening with fun and laughter, as well as help new couples feel welcome to the lifestyle." The room was hard-capped at 40 couples. A separate quota allowed only 5 single men per party, and only after a phone or mail screening; single women were always welcome with no cap. The minimum age was 25 — unusually high for a US lifestyle club, and a deliberate curation choice. Doors opened at 8pm and ran until 2am, reservations required, no walk-ins, ever. Beyond that, almost nothing about the operation was public. No pricing was ever printed. No dress code was published. No amenity list (no mention of hot tubs, playrooms, dungeons, DJs) ever surfaced — which is itself the story: the club was a curated couples-and-singles social by application, not a venue with a tour. By the time the current New England lifestyle scene started to be written about — Pagan Kennedy's 2008 Boston Magazine feature "Hooking Up with the Joneses" first put the suburban MA scene on the map; later guides documented Club SINZ in Salisbury, The Sterling in Waltham, Illuminaughty Boston, Boston Sex Club, and Club4Play's hotel takeovers — E'Lan had already faded out of the public footprint. Every modern Massachusetts-clubs roundup from 2020 onward omits E'Lan entirely. The phone, email and PO Box remain on file at the Close Encounters Club NASCA directory (the only public listing the club ever had), but appear functionally inactive: no business directory carries them, no social media exists, no website was ever built, no Wayback snapshots of clubelan.com or clubelan.net ever held E'Lan content. The club is presumed quietly wound down sometime in the 2010s, with no public closure announcement. Its market position — discreet, screened, North Shore couples-and-singles — is now held by The Sterling in Waltham (geographically nearest) and Club SINZ in Salisbury (the same North Shore audience), with Illuminaughty Boston covering the curated/by-application niche E'Lan once defined locally.

Club Chameleon

Flint, MI

House Party

Club Chameleon is not a commercial swingers club in the usual sense. It is a private 3.5-floor house party run out of a personal residence at 2315 W Reid Rd in the Grand Blanc/Flint corner of southeast Michigan, hosted by a couple named Sheila and Rich — empty-nesters with around 25 years of combined lifestyle experience between them. They ran a long tour of commercial clubs in Vegas, Phoenix, Tampa, Savannah and Atlanta before deciding to build their own version at home; the venue has been operating monthly since Halloween 2020. Address is never published — every party operates RSVP-only, and Sheila clears guests by text at 912-571-9424 (a 912 number from her Savannah days that followed her north). The tagline written across the front page is "Where YOU can BE who YOU want to BE." The house itself is the venue. 3.5 floors of party space, two house-run bars (Sheila pours Tequila, Fireball, Jell-O shots and "Georgia Snowballs" at "Tequila Sheila's Bar" near the dance floor and jukebox; the patio "Theme Bar" sits next to an 8-person hot tub on a 2,200 sq ft enclosed, covered, heated patio that works year-round), a dance floor with a stripper pole, three private playrooms, a "Peekaboo" voyeur room (three solid walls and one sheer curtain that opens and closes), and a BDSM/group play room kitted out with a St. Andrew's cross, paddles and floggers. There's a billiards room, a large outdoor lounge, and a bonfire pit with seating wrapped around it. The upper floor holds four private bedrooms and four bathrooms for overnight guests, with outdoor camping (limited electricity) for anyone who'd rather sleep out. Adult Jenga, cornhole, beer pong, foosball and drinking games stay on the patio for warm nights. Buffet-style heavy themed appetizers — fajitas and walking tacos turn up regularly in the blog photos — keep the energy up. Parties run monthly on Saturdays, typically 9pm to around 3am, with the occasional mid-week social ("Hump Day Game Night" format, 6pm, free entry, bring a snack to share) for the regulars. Every party has a theme (Glow, Playboy Bunny, Tie-Dye, Pineapples R Us, Pimps & Hoes, PJs & Lingerie, Medical Mayhem, Rednecks/Hillbillies, Oktoberfest, Neon Nights), with best-dressed prizes; themed dress is encouraged but not required, and clothing is optional in the jacuzzi area. All parties are BYOB and BYOC; the house is smoking and 420 friendly throughout. Singles policy is the only formal gate — couples and single women welcome without restriction, and single men admitted under a vetted "Single Male Expectations" policy that Sheila shares only on request. The whole operation is deliberately small and word-of-mouth. About 1,155 likes on the public Facebook page (facebook.com/ChameleonMI), 55 members in the linked Swing Lifestyle community group, no Instagram, no Twitter, no ticketing platform — just Sheila's text line and an explicit policy that the address only goes out after she's approved the guest.

Illuminaughty Denver

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Denver is a consent-focused private lifestyle event series operating in Denver, Colorado, part of a national network spanning over 40 U.S. cities. The organization hosts monthly events ranging from casual cocktail mixers to private play parties, targeting couples and singles in their 20s, 30s, and beyond. Membership is application-based and a mobile app is available for members.

Dark Odyssey

Berkeley, CA

Event Organizer

Dark Odyssey is a roving event organization founded in 2003 by Greg, a former Black Rose board chairman, to fuse sexuality, spirituality, education, and play under one roof. Rather than operating a fixed venue, it commandeers hotels and private rural retreats for four distinct annual events: Winter Fire, a luxury hotel takeover in Baltimore running a full President's Day weekend; Fusion, a six-day summer camp in Northern Maryland on a 200-acre private facility with 40 cabins and 400 beds; Summer Camp, a Labor Day week-long gathering at the same Northern Maryland retreat; and Surrender, a pre-Halloween hotel convention in the San Jose Bay Area. Sold-out attendance at Winter Fire has reached 1,400 people. Each event follows the same architecture: days packed with 80-plus workshops spanning BDSM technique, polyamory, Tantra, sacred sexuality, and spiritual practice, taught by national educators; nights given over to fully equipped dungeons, the Sex-O-Rama open playspace (supplied with beds, lube, condoms, and gloves around the clock), and themed parties running until 2–3am. The rural camp events add outdoor suspension rigs, a tennis-court playspace with weather-resistant equipment, a Pavilion for mixers and open play, and a Temple space for ritual and sacred play. Fire spin jams, drumming circles, a Kinky State Fair, and a Saturday night show round out the program. The community self-describes as a melting pot of kinksters, queers, swingers, spiritualists, Pagans, polyamorists, and cross-dressers — pansexual, omnisexual, and explicitly welcoming to all gender identities. Attendee-created ION events let the community add its own workshops and parties to each schedule. A dedicated Incident Response Team (IRT) staffs a help desk at every event to handle consent matters in private.

The O Zone

Toronto, Ontario

Event Organizer

The O Zone is a private lifestyle club in Toronto, Ontario welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

Shrine Austin

Austin, TX

Event Organizer

Shrine is a lifestyle event series in Austin, Texas, hosting themed parties and social gatherings for open-minded adults.

private house party

Club Moist is a private lifestyle house-party series run out of the organizers' personal home in the Manchester, New Hampshire area. The events draw between 20 and 30 screened couples and guests per night, keeping the crowd intimate and intentionally matched — typical age range spans the early thirties to early fifties, with a strong emphasis on couples compatibility over sheer numbers. The hosts pride themselves on a modern, clean home atmosphere that feels nothing like a commercial venue: there's dancing and mood lighting in the main social space, a hot tub open under the stars, snacks and shared mixers, and a genuinely welcoming vibe that regulars describe in their SLS certifications as safe, social, and easy to mingle at. The play layout spans three distinct zones. The main floor holds an open-plan play area with several beds and a sex swing; a lower-level Exploration Den offers a more contained and private environment, including a closeable private bedroom; and the outdoor Island Time pavilion extends the action outside when weather allows. The pink-sheet beds are women-only until 10:30pm, after which the full floor opens to all. Hot tub play is encouraged (with a 6-person cap and a no-sex-in-the-water rule given neighbor sightlines), and discreet outdoor fun in the pavilion area is welcomed. Events are invitation-only and coordinated via SLS (profile: funlaughz). Once invited, an Evite with the confirmed attendee list is sent ahead of the party. Parties run from 8pm to 1am. The crowd skews straight and bi-female: single men are not admitted. Newcomers to the lifestyle are actively encouraged to arrive early, and the hosts make a point of walking first-timers through the space and the social flow of the evening.

Big Mamas Haus

Crimmitschau, Saxony

BDSM & Fetish Event Venue

BMH Event-Club — formerly known as Big Mama's Haus — is a sprawling BDSM, fetish, and swinger event location in the heart of Germany, housed in a converted warehouse in Crimmitschau's industrial quarter. Founded in 2006 by Irmgard Pruka (the original "Big Mama"), the venue combines two worlds under one roof: a ground floor with spacious swinger lounges, sauna, and a cinema room, and an upper floor featuring 11 exclusive SM playrooms with serious equipment — rotating cross, slave elevator, pillory, ball cage, prison cell, and two medieval torture chambers — plus a stylish bar and event space. Rather than opening every weekend like a traditional club, BMH operates as a curated event venue — hosting 2–4 themed productions per month from independent organizers and its own team. Events range from latex passion nights and BDSM play parties to Gorean fantasy workshops and grand slave auctions. Entry typically runs 50–85 EUR per person and almost always includes a full buffet and drinks. An adjacent warehouse and 6,000 sqm outdoor grounds handle the mega-events, with overnight rooms available from 30 EUR. Cash only. Rated 4.8/5 on JoyClub from over 250 reviews with nearly 270,000 total visitors, BMH draws guests from across Germany and Europe. Reviewers consistently praise the cleanliness, friendly staff, excellent food, and the care that's gone into making every room unique. The house motto says it all: "We are everything, just not boring."

Mindbender Parties

Boston, MA

Event Organizer

Mindbender Parties is New England's most traveled adult lifestyle event series, the brainchild of Mizzy Bender — a self-described 41-year-old female entrepreneur who launched the operation with her partner Spencer and has since grown it into one of the region's most recognizable swinger brands. Events rotate across partner venues: most frequently Platforms Dance Club at 165 Poe St, Providence, RI, a proper nightclub with a full bar, dance floor, and purpose-built dungeon. The Electricity Social Club (ESC) in Providence's Olneyville neighborhood hosts BYOB multi-room events with seven themed playrooms; summer months bring a private Long Island property with an eight-person hot tub, outdoor shower, and fire pit — location released to guests after payment. The calendar runs year-round under recurring titles — Candyland, Back to School, Boo (eighth annual run), Naughty in Neon, Shamrocks & Shenanigans, Nuttin for XXXmas, and more — on a roughly monthly rhythm, with occasional multi-day hotel-takeover weekends. Pricing is tiered: couples typically pay $70–$80, single ladies $20–$30, and single males $110–$120. Tickets are advance-purchase only via the website. Every event is professionally produced under the Mindbender Productions banner — DJ, lighting, full staging — with onsite security whose priority is guest safety and comfort. Mizzy's Boutique, a traveling pop-up adult retail shop, vends at every event alongside sponsors One Condoms, Spunk Lube, Naughty Indulgence, and SDC. Play spaces include open group areas, private rooms, and dungeon setups. The Instagram presence (76K followers) and the companion podcast Mornings with Mizzy reflect a community-building mission well beyond the door — educational content, judgment-free conversation, and a genuine inclusive ethos baked into the Mindbender brand.

Saints & Sinners AC

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Atlantic City, NJ

Event Organizer

Saints & Sinners AC anchors the Diving Horse entertainment complex at 18 S. Dr. Martin Luther King Blvd, a sprawling 55,000-square-foot multi-use building in Atlantic City. Guests enter discreetly from the back of the Diving Horse complex rather than the main boulevard-facing door — a deliberate design choice that sets the tone for the whole experience. Inside, four floors hold an impressive inventory of spaces: 15 open, air-conditioned play rooms, additional private and semi-private rooms, 11 showers, 2 BYOB bars stocked with mixers, 2 dance floors fitted with stripper poles, an outdoor heated pool, an outdoor deck, and a food buffet that runs through the night. Erotic movies play throughout the venue to set the mood. The club pitches itself as a new-age, modern lifestyle destination rather than a classic swinger haunt, and the crowd — primarily couples in their late twenties to late forties — dresses to match. Women tend toward fitted dresses; men wear button-up shirts and jeans. Saturday theme nights are a recurring feature, with prizes and costumed dress codes announced in advance. The adjacent Diving Horse Inn (30 rooms, many with jacuzzi tubs and balconies overlooking the deck and pool) lets members extend the evening without leaving the building, while the neighboring Diving Horse Cabaret and Luxx Lounge nightclub round out the complex. Doors open Fridays and Saturdays from 9 pm, with Fridays running to 3 am and Saturdays to 4-5 am. The club is closed Sunday through Thursday.

Valentines in Niagara (VIN)

Niagara Falls, Ontario

Event Organizer

Valentines in Niagara is an annual adults lifestyle convention held in February in Niagara Falls, Ontario, marketed as Canada's largest swingers convention. The multi-night hotel takeover event features themed parties, pool events, workshops on intimacy, burlesque entertainment, and designated play areas. Running since 2007, the event consistently sells out and draws attendees from across Canada and the United States.

Illuminaughty Portland

Portland, OR

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Portland is the Portland, Oregon chapter of the national Illuminaughty lifestyle event network, which has operated since 2023. The organization hosts private lifestyle mixers and swinger parties for members in the Portland area. Membership requires an approved application, and members gain access to a mobile app and events across the national network.

TABOTA Monster Bash

Niagara Falls, Ontario

Event Organizer

TABOTA Monster Bash is an annual Halloween-themed adult lifestyle hotel takeover held in Niagara Falls, Ontario, typically in late October. The event spans a fully secured hotel venue with multiple themed play spaces including a Voodoo Lounge, Kinky Playroom, and Kink Garden, alongside live DJ performances, a costume fashion show, and a clothing-optional waterpark area. Attendance requires registration; a Halloween or themed costume dress code is enforced, and the event is 19 and over.

Monde Ose

Toronto, Ontario

Event Organizer

Monde Ose is a Montreal-based lifestyle brand and event organizer producing theatrical erotic entertainment events, most notably the Royal Burlesque Ball held at venues such as Theatre Rialto. Events feature local and international burlesque performers in an upscale, glamour-focused setting with a mandatory dress code and explicit consent guidelines for attendees. The organization also offers membership programs and a curated online community in both English and French.

Joyride

London, London

Event Organizer

A queer, sex-positive event series in London blending rave culture, art and sexual expression. The dancefloor is a liberatory space embodying freedom, pleasure and experimentation, with a genre-blurring mix from uplifting house to techno.

Lifeinstyle STL

St. Louis, MO

Event Organizer

Lifeinstyle is a lifestyle entertainment company in St. Louis, Missouri, hosting swinger events and themed parties throughout the year. The group organizes gatherings ranging from intimate social events to their annual National Swinger Week celebration. Open to couples and open-minded adults.

Richmond Rondezvouz

Richmond, VA

Event Organizer

Richmond Rondezvouz is a lifestyle event organizer based in Richmond, Virginia, hosting swinger parties at least twice a month as well as themed events. The group welcomes couples and singles, with a separate set of rules for single attendees. Events are listed on the website and members connect through the SwingLifestyle platform.

Event Organizer

Riposte is a boundary-breaking queer rave in London, mixing techno with art across multi-room venues featuring over 20 performers, immersive theatre, and roaming performances. A vibrant celebration of unapologetic self-love and the diverse expressions of the queer community in a sex-positive play space.

Event Organizer

Kinky Campers Canada is a kink-friendly outdoor retreat and campground experience in New Brunswick. The venue brings together the camping and alternative lifestyle communities for immersive nature-based gatherings.

The Playground RI

Providence, RI

Private House Party

The Playground RI is a weekly lifestyle house party run out of a converted three-family home in Providence's Oakland Avenue Historic District, operated by hosts Eddy and Viv Badd of BBadd Entertainment. Spread across four floors and roughly 4,000 square feet, the venue mixes themed social spaces with dedicated play areas: the ground floor opens with a meet-and-greet lounge alongside a Wild West room, a Pirate room, and a kink-themed Red Room. The second floor holds a dance floor with a stripper pole and four more playrooms. The third floor is towel-and-robe only, with two private rooms, a glory hole, and an open group play area; the dungeon is fully equipped with two sex swings, a massage table, a Sybian, and a doctor's office with two exam tables. Saturday nights (8 pm-2 am) are the main weekly event, open to couples, single women, and a limited number of single men (21+), with the host managing ratios carefully. Friday Fusion nights run the same hours but tilt toward BDSM and kink and are open to all genders. The hosts personally tour first-timers through the space, answer questions, and make guests feel at home; reviewers consistently describe the atmosphere as friendly and community-driven rather than nightclub-cold. All parties are BYOB, with ice, refrigerators, snacks, sodas, and water provided at no charge. Every room is stocked with condoms, lube, and clean sheets. Lockers are available on the third floor. The venue is 420-friendly outdoors. Attendance is RSVP-only — no walk-ins; the full address is shared only upon booking confirmation.

Escapades New England

Providence, RI

Event Organizer

Escapades New England is a Providence-based lifestyle event group that has built a loyal following across Rhode Island and Massachusetts since its founding. Rather than operating a fixed club, the organizers take over Platforms Dance Club — a nightclub at 165 Poe St in Providence — for recurring themed parties, blending a nightclub energy with on-site play spaces including an open play area and a dungeon setup within the venue. The calendar runs on two tiers: regular takeover parties throughout the year, priced at $60–80 per couple (never more), and two flagship annual events that draw attendees from across New England. The Annual Midsummer Nights’ Wet Dream Foam Party, held at the end of July, is billed as the largest summer lifestyle event in New England and described by the organizers as a ‘Hedo-style’ party. The Erotic Masquerade Ball follows every September or October. Events are listed and ticketed through the SLS, SDC, and SwingTowns platforms. The organizers emphasize a newcomer-friendly atmosphere, noting they actively work to make first-timers feel at ease — a philosophy shaped by their own experience attending their first party. The ethos is summed up on their site as ‘confidence, class, and respect.’ Payment is accepted as cash or Venmo at the door, and attendees must present a verified screen name from one of the partner lifestyle platforms.

Hungry Cat Promotions

Belfast, Northern Ireland

Event Organizer

Belfast-based events company offering the boldest social events for open-minded souls. Hungry Cat Promotions invites you to connect, explore and indulge in unforgettable, sex-positive nights with style and intention, welcoming straight, bi, gay, trans, swingers, kinksters and poly folk alike.

Event Organizer

Camelot Social Club has been bringing Charlotte's lifestyle community together since 2019 — a monthly event organizer that takes over entire hotels and private venues for one-night parties that feel genuinely upscale without the velvet-rope attitude. Founded by Dan Camelot with a mission to be open to "all people, not just the Ken and Barbies of the world," the club draws straight, bi, gay, and trans-friendly members from across the Carolinas. Events are hosted at properties like Holiday Inn Express Gastonia and The Gold Club Charlotte, with buffet, live DJ, and pool access included in the night. Getting started requires a one-time signed waiver before your first event — after that, you're in the community. Single males need to be vetted by the team or an existing couple before attending. Hotel rooms at takeover venues are bookable separately (Friday from $109, Saturday from $125 + tax), making it easy to turn a Saturday party into a full weekend. Pricing for main events runs around $78 for couples and $94 for single males with prepayment required for the latter. The club hosts meet & greets at local spots like Leather & Lace Gastonia as a low-pressure intro — just mention "Pineapple" or "Camelot" at the door for free entry. With themed events year-round (Kentucky Derby nights, New Year's Eve, pool parties) and a stated long-term goal of establishing a permanent on-premises venue, Camelot is steadily building toward something bigger in the Charlotte market.

IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG)

New York, NY

Event Organizer

IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG) is a Northeast-based lifestyle event production outfit run by couple-hosts Maddy and Joe, drawing on a roster of experienced DJs, performers, comics, and venue operators whose sensibility blends Brazilian, Latin, Caribbean, and American swinger culture. Rather than maintaining a fixed club, IPG takes over entire hotels -- typically in Scranton, PA, conveniently off Highway 81 -- for full two-day weekends, regularly drawing 150-200 couples per event. Hotel room blocks are negotiated at roughly $119-139 per night with a two-night minimum, and the hotel staff are described as extremely lifestyle friendly. The all-day format means guests checking in Friday afternoon have access to the heated indoor pool and surrounding amenities well before the night main events begin. Each event weekend follows a structured rhythm. Friday evening opens with naughty trivia (6:30-7:45 PM), a meet-and-greet, then a DJ dance party running to midnight, followed by a pool party until 2-3 AM. Saturday layers on afternoon speed dating, kink demos, poolside games, and Swingo (a bingo variant), before a pre-party gathering at 6 PM and a main event -- typically a comedy show or costumed contest -- at 8:45 PM sharp, with themed playrooms and a potluck after-party floor-crawl from midnight onward, closing with a pool-and-desserts wind-down at 4 AM. The crowd skews friendly and repeating; reviews consistently flag the hosts personal floor presence and the unusually respectful atmosphere among attendees. Preference bracelets issued at check-in (green: full swap; yellow: soft swap; purple: tame; red: bisexual) take the guesswork out of navigation. IPG also co-hosts at external venues, including a recurring bi/lingerie night at The Kink Lair, and an annual Pride Fest kink/fetish hotel takeover.

Event Organizer

Happy Hedonist is a private lifestyle club in Mississauga, Ontario welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

Illuminaughty Albuquerque

Albuquerque, NM

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Albuquerque is a membership-based lifestyle event organizer that hosts exclusive cocktail mixers and private swinger parties in Albuquerque, New Mexico. It operates as part of the national Illuminaughty network, which runs events across more than 40 U.S. cities. Attendance requires an approved membership application, and members gain access to a referral program and a dedicated mobile app.

Killing Kittens

London, London

Event Organizer

A global brand celebrating 20 years of female sexual empowerment through exclusive parties and unforgettable hedonistic experiences. Women — known as Kittens — are firmly in control, challenging gender stereotypes in a safe, consent-first environment.

Illuminaughty Seattle

Seattle, WA

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Seattle is the Seattle and Tacoma chapter of the national Illuminaughty lifestyle event network, hosting private swinger parties and lifestyle gatherings in the region since 2022. Events are held at private venues and require an approved membership application. Members access a mobile app and a regional and national event calendar.

Lifestyle Playground

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Lifestyle Playground is a private lifestyle event organization based in Colorado, hosting events in Denver, Colorado Springs, and Thornton. The group offers a range of gatherings from casual coffee meetups to full hotel takeovers with themed rooms, as well as workshops on sexual wellness. The community is inclusive of ENM, polyamory, swinging, LGBTQ+, and BDSM members, and access requires a membership application.

X Club Winnipeg

Winnipeg, Manitoba

Event Organizer

X Club Winnipeg is an adult lifestyle and social club spanning over 10,000 square feet across three floors at its Winnipeg, Manitoba location. The facility includes multiple play rooms, a hot tub room, sauna, steam room, and a range of locker and private room rentals priced per visit. Annual membership is available for couples and solo members and provides room reservations, event discounts, and reduced room rates.

Stopgap

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer

Opened in April 2024 inside the SoMa building that once housed the SF Citadel, Stopgap is a turnkey kink venue that bridges San Francisco's leather history with its present-day scene. The fully accessible ground floor holds social areas, lockers, two bathrooms, and open play spaces fitted with hardpoints, while a staircase descends to a 3,100-square-foot basement dungeon stocked with equipment recovered from the Citadel's collection alongside newer pieces -- crosses, benches, tables, bondage chairs, cages, and at least 20 suspension hardpoints with floor mats for rope work. The venue is run by the AfterDark Events team, a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled-led organisation, and doubles as a rental space for third-party producers. Stopgap's own flagship is House Party, an inclusive open-play night held on the first Friday of every month, alongside weekly open-dungeon sessions, the Wrapt rope jam on fourth Mondays, Society of Janus play parties on second Saturdays, and rotating themed events such as Board Games & Bondage.

Arouse Vegas

Las Vegas, NV

Private Event Series

Arouse Vegas is a private, members-only lifestyle event platform based in Las Vegas, Nevada. Rather than operating a fixed brick-and-mortar venue, Arouse Vegas hosts themed erotic parties at an upscale private venue called "The G Spot!" in Las Vegas, typically on Saturday nights from 8 PM to 2 AM. Membership is required to attend events and involves a vetted application process — applicants must submit photos and an essay, and acceptance is not guaranteed. Membership starts at $10/month but does not include event admission; tickets are purchased separately for each party. Events are open to couples, single females, and single males. The club enforces strict consent policies, a zero-tolerance stance on drugs and prostitution, and prohibits cameras or recording devices. Single women are especially welcomed and protected by anti-harassment policies. Beyond local events, Arouse Vegas coordinates lifestyle travel packages including cruises (Bliss Cruise, Desire Caribbean), resort stays (Temptation Cancun, Sea Mountain), and lifestyle conventions (Naughty N'awlins). The platform runs on the Modern Lifestyle network and integrates with SDC, Kasidie, and Swing Lifestyle.

Nightshade Halifax

Halifax, Nova Scotia

Event Organizer

Nightshade Halifax is a kink-themed costume party event series operating in downtown Halifax, Nova Scotia, since February 2013. Events feature DJ-driven dance music, a BDSM play area with bondage furniture overseen by trained dungeon monitors, and professional photography. Costumes are encouraged but not required, and personal cameras are prohibited; the series is open to all types of adults, including those new to alternative lifestyles.

Illuminaughty LA

Los Angeles, CA

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty LA is a members-only lifestyle event organizer operating in the Los Angeles area since 2022, hosting private swinger parties in luxury estates and upscale private residences. Events span Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Bel Air, and surrounding areas, with membership required through an application process. The club is part of the national Illuminaughty network operating in over 40 U.S. cities.

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Carolina Friends is the oldest lifestyle club in the Carolinas — founded in 1991 by eight Charlotte couples looking to host private parties in a welcoming, judgment-free atmosphere. Over three-and-a-half decades the club grew to add more than 40,000 couples to its roster, built its own dedicated facility called The Estate in 2000, and expanded to serve both the Charlotte metro and the Triad (Winston-Salem and Greensboro). In 2012 The Estate was lost to political pressure, and in 2016 new ownership stepped in to keep the club alive rather than let it dissolve. Today Carolina Friends runs full hotel takeovers every Friday and Saturday night — entire hotels reserved exclusively for members, giving events the privacy and scale you can't get at a smaller venue. Charlotte parties regularly draw 400+ couples; Triad events typically see 150+. Each event includes a live DJ and dance floor, a full buffet, BYOB with bartender and free mixers, co-ed showers, towels and lockers, and seasonal pool access. A late-night breakfast gathering caps off each evening. Private activity areas, group rooms, and a voyeur/exhibition space round out the play areas. Membership is $13.68/month and requires a free profile with your legal name before purchase — names are kept strictly private and used only for check-in. Event admission is sold separately and priced per event. Single females are always welcome; single males are admitted at most events but are limited based on attendance balance. The club has no public social media — communication happens through the member platform (private chat, AutoDate, passkey photos) and the three major lifestyle directories: SLS Club #8112, SDC, and Kasidie Club #277.

Black Diamonds Swinger Club

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Alexandria, VA

Event Organizer

Black Diamonds Swinger Club is a sex-positive lifestyle community rooted in Alexandria, Virginia, and operating across the broader DMV region — Washington DC, Maryland, and Northern Virginia. Founded as a space primarily targeted towards those of African American descent and other people of color, it occupies a rare and intentional niche in the DMV lifestyle scene, centering Black and POC attendees within a safe, consensual, and sane environment. The club's promotional partner is DNAKinks LLC, and its events are coordinated via a centralized Linktree that links out to ticketing, social media, and booking channels. Unlike a fixed brick-and-mortar venue, Black Diamonds operates as an event-based club, hosting parties at rotating or private locations across the DMV rather than from a single permanent address. This pop-up model keeps the community tight-knit and screened. The Instagram account (@blackdiamonds6219) maintains over 24,000 followers, while the Facebook page has accumulated more than 4,100 likes from the Alexandria and wider DC metro community. All booking and event discovery is handled through the Linktree hub (linktr.ee/BlackDiamondsSwingerClub) and associated social channels, with no walk-in or permanent physical storefront publicly listed.

The Swirl Events

Seattle, WA

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The Swirl Events organizes lifestyle parties and social events in the Seattle, Washington area for couples and open-minded adults.

PLUR Productions / Studio PLUR

Vancouver, British Columbia

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PLUR Productions is a sex-positive event production company based in Vancouver, British Columbia, serving the LGBTQ+, swinger, kink, and burner communities under the ethos of peace, love, unity, and respect. Monthly themed events and bi-monthly meet-and-mingle nights are held at various venues, with clearly marked play areas, on-site consent staff called Cupids, and complimentary safer-sex supplies provided. Membership is required for entry; the club is open to all orientations and gender identities at identical admission rates for adults 19 and older.

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A multi-genre, queer, sex-positive rave with activism at its core. POC and sex worker-led, centring historically marginalised communities with play spaces, workshops and performances across genres including Dancehall, Afrobeats, House and UKG.

Jo & David's Swingers Parties

Chamcook, New Brunswick

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NBSocials.ca is a New Brunswick-based adult lifestyle social event organizer hosting casual meet-and-greet gatherings for swingers, kinksters, and others in alternative lifestyles. Events are free to attend with no membership fees, held at venues where attendees purchase their own drinks, and are open to all genders, orientations, ages, and relationship structures without discrimination. Photography is prohibited at all events to protect attendee privacy.

Sinn-Ergy Events

Washington, DC

Event Organizer

Sinn-Ergy Events has been running members-only lifestyle parties across the Washington D.C., Virginia, and Maryland area since 2008. The organization operates on a roving model — there is no fixed venue. Instead, the exact location of each event is disclosed only to paid ticket holders, approximately one week before the date. Depending on the event and venue secured, gatherings range from intimate meet-and-greets to full-scale productions hosting 50 to 500-plus guests, drawing attendees from across the country and internationally. The event mix spans several formats. Sip & Sinn Meet & Greets serve as lower-key social mixers, while the flagship themed events — Halloween, Midsummer's Night Dream, New Year's Eve hotel takeovers — are styled as immersive productions with custom decor, themed dress codes, and sets from national and international DJs. BYOB is standard across events, with bartenders on staff to pour and provide drinkware. VIP table packages are available at select events. The crowd skews younger than many comparable lifestyle events — the site describes the core demographic as mid-20s to mid-30s, within a broader age range. Single women are admitted on a selective basis; single men are not accepted. The organization also runs educational seminars and workshops for members on lifestyle topics.

The Menagerie

Brighton, East Sussex

Event Organizer

The Menagerie is a private event series in Brighton for the ethically non-monogamous and kink communities, centred on connection, consent, and curiosity. Welcoming all genders and sexualities, it offers sensual socials open to everyone and curated play parties for vetted guests in a queer-positive, body-positive, judgement-free space.

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Orlando Swingers Club is an adult lifestyle club in Orlando, Florida offering themed parties, VIP memberships, and meet-and-greet sessions. The club is open to all lifestyles including LGBTQ+ members, and single women receive complimentary admission. Annual membership tiers are available for both singles and couples at varying price points.

Illuminaughty Colorado Springs

Colorado Springs, CO

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Colorado Springs is a consent-focused lifestyle event series serving Colorado Springs, part of the Illuminaughty national network present in over 40 U.S. cities. The organization hosts curated swinger lifestyle events and maintains a membership-based community with structured rules and etiquette guidelines. Members can access a referral program and a dedicated mobile app.

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Eros Events is a private membership lifestyle group based in Redmond, Washington, in operation since 2003. The organization hosts socially oriented lifestyle events at a private facility, welcoming members regardless of race, gender, or sexuality, and requires new members to attend an orientation before their first event. The club maintains a strict no-alcohol and no-marijuana policy to support clear consent, and eliminated gender-based pricing in 2023.

Lavish Lifestyle Events

Hauppauge, NY

Event Organizer

Lavish Lifestyle Events is an off-premise lifestyle event company run by Cynthia and Ron, the couple who operated Club Manor -- Long Island's premier off-premise swingers club -- for over a decade before closing it in September 2015 and pivoting to a travelling event format. The operation has since been fully rebranded as Lavish Lifestyle Events, expanding from its Long Island base to South Florida, with events now targeted across Palm Beach, Broward, and Dade counties at rotating private venues. All events are RSVP-only with no walk-in admittance. An online form collects names, email, and phone number; couples must list both partners. A discount applies to early RSVPs but expires at noon on the day of each event. Event dates are announced via the website and a newsletter, and the schedule rotates -- prospective guests are encouraged to check back regularly as upcoming parties are revealed on a rolling basis. Both couples and singles are welcome. The tone throughout is upscale and low-drama: themed soirees with crafted cocktails, curated music, and a no-nonsense social atmosphere. Cynthia and Ron position the brand on nearly two decades of community-building credibility from the Club Manor years. Personal information collected at RSVP is kept strictly confidential per the site's privacy policy and never shared with outside parties.

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Daytime lifestyle parties for couples and select singles, held in upscale hotel suites. Parties typically run from afternoon into early evening with intimate guest lists of 20 or fewer, offering a relaxed and sociable alternative to late-night events.

Illuminaughty Phoenix

Phoenix, AZ

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Phoenix is an upscale curated swinger lifestyle event series operating in Phoenix and Scottsdale, Arizona, active since 2023. The organization hosts members-only events for couples and singles, with an emphasis on sophisticated, consent-focused experiences. Membership requires a formal application, and members have access to an events calendar, referral programs, and community resources.

Splash Takeovers

Fort Lauderdale, FL

Event Organizer

Splash Takeovers is a lifestyle event organizer based in Fort Lauderdale, Florida with over 15 years of experience producing couples-only hotel takeover events across the United States. Events feature clothing-optional pool parties, themed dance parties, fantasy rooms, educational seminars, and vendor exhibitions at convention hotels transformed into private venues. Upcoming 2026 events are scheduled in Texas, Atlanta, and Florida.

Friends Night Out (FNO)

Aurora, IL

Event Organizer

Friends Night Out is a lifestyle event organizer based in Aurora, Illinois, hosting themed BYOB events at the TSIN Barn venue. Events are open to couples, throuples, and single women; single men are permitted at select events with access restrictions to certain areas. Themed dress is encouraged but not required, and event tickets are non-refundable.

Illuminaughty (San Francisco)

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty San Francisco is the Bay Area chapter of the national Illuminaughty members-only lifestyle event network, which has operated across more than 40 U.S. cities since 2022. Events are held at private venues and require an approved membership application to attend. Members receive access to a mobile app, a referral program, and regional and national event calendars.

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A friendly swingers club in Loughborough, Leicestershire, with a great atmosphere and regular themed party nights. Doors open at 7pm with affordable annual membership, offering a welcoming environment for couples and singles alike.

Club SINZ

Salisbury, MA

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Perched on the second and third floors of Ten's Show Club on the North Shore of Massachusetts, Club SINZ has carved out a reputation as New England's premier couples lifestyle destination since its founding in 2004. The windowless, 4,000-plus square-foot ultra-lounge on Salisbury's North End Boulevard sits about an hour north of Boston, drawing a membership base that now numbers over 15,000 couples from across the region. The club's motto — La Passion Avant Tout, Passion Above All — is backed by multiple top-shelf bars, luxurious lounge seating, video screens, dance poles, a dance cage, and a pocket billiards table. Events run on a bi-weekly Saturday schedule, doors opening at 8:30 PM through 1:00 AM, with larger holiday parties drawing 300 to 500 guests. The club is strictly off-premise: no sexual activity is permitted on-site, keeping the atmosphere in meet-and-greet territory. Membership begins with a free Basic Membership application; Gold Members receive discounted cover charges and may bring a guest couple or single female for free. A members-only inner sanctum called SINZ Black — a custom-built invitation-only lounge with an eight-person circular bar and 300-year-old Chinese door decor — exists for the most loyal regulars. SINZ.NET, the club's private social network, allows prospective members to connect with thousands of New England couples before committing to their first visit.

AfterDark Events

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer (Pop-Up Play Parties)

AfterDark Events is a progressive, consent-forward kink and alternative-sexuality event organizer producing themed pop-up play parties, rope jams, speed dating events, and community gatherings across the San Francisco Bay Area. Founded in 2021 as the evolution of over a decade of ethical kink organizing, AfterDark is led by a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled team — and that inclusive ethos defines every event. Rather than operating a permanent venue, AfterDark hosts events primarily at Stopgap (San Francisco's premier kink club in SoMa) and Paradox SF (a queer/POC/disabled-owned space on Mission Street). Events feature distinct zones for socializing, dancing, kink play, and aftercare, equipped with St. Andrew's crosses, spanking benches, bondage beds, suspension hardpoints, cages, and a dedicated "fuck room." Food, water, coffee, condoms, lube, and earplugs are all provided. What makes AfterDark unique is its intentional, curated approach. Each event series has a distinct identity: SPANK! is the Bay Area's oldest running public kink party; RED is exclusively for queer women, non-binary, and trans folx; AURA centers dominant women and those who serve them; Element is for ages 18–39; Legacy for 40+; and Obsidian is the flagship all-genders blacklight play party. All events are strictly alcohol and drug free — attendees engage with clear heads and full intentionality. Safety is paramount: color-coded wristbands signal approachability (yellow = open, red = do not approach), dungeon monitors are always on duty, phones must be stored out of sight, and COVID vaccination plus same-day testing are required. Tickets are sold individually through Forbidden Tickets and Plura, with tiered pricing typically ranging from $25 (financial access) to $75 (day-of), and events regularly sell out.

SOP Lifestyle Productions

Vancouver, British Columbia

Event Organizer

SOP Lifestyle Productions is a Canadian-based event production company specializing in lifestyle hotel takeovers, group cruises, and international travel experiences for the swinger and open community. Signature events include seasonal takeovers in Whistler and abroad, Virgin Voyages group sailings, and curated pop-up adventures in destinations such as Iceland. The organization welcomes singles, couples, and all experience levels, with a strong emphasis on enthusiastic and continuous consent.

Illuminaughty Austin

Austin, TX

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Austin is a private, invitation-only lifestyle event organization serving the Austin, Texas area as part of a multi-city network. The organization hosts adult social events for couples and singles aged 21 to 49 who apply through a membership screening process. Members access event details and RSVP through a dedicated mobile app.

Play Champagne (The Champagne Club)

Columbus, OH

Event Organizer

Play Champagne is one of the Midwest’s largest lifestyle event organizers, operating as a traveling party producer rather than a fixed-address club. Founded and still run by owners Melissa and Eric, the operation specializes in complete hotel takeovers — booking every guestroom, the convention space, restaurant, and bar — at full-service Hilton-brand hotels across Ohio, Michigan, Indiana, and Illinois, with regular Las Vegas editions and annual trips to Hedonism II in Jamaica. Flagship venues have included the Embassy Suites in Blue Ash (Cincinnati), Livonia MI, Indianapolis, Glenview IL, and Las Vegas. Typical weekends draw 1,200–1,600 attendees and span two nights, with a Friday check-in at 3 pm and checkout Monday morning. The programming is unusually dense for a hotel event: a five-story atrium main stage with award-winning lifestyle DJs, professional sound, lighting, and laser rigs; a 24-hour indoor pool (topless optional); a vendor showcase; meet-and-greet karaoke; drag shows; live bands; and a 360-degree video photo booth. Educational content includes couples sensory, Kama Sutra, and NURU massage classes, plus BDSM demonstrations, all with separate sign-up slots. Play areas include group and semi-private themed playrooms (typically in dedicated ballrooms), a Porn Play Escape group room, and an expanded Impact room for impact play opening nightly from around 11 pm. The famous top-floor afterparty runs from 1 am to dawn. Complimentary drinks are served nightly during a comp-bar window, and a full hot breakfast buffet with omelet station is included each morning. The crowd skews inclusive and body-positive, spanning roughly ages 28–55, and Play Champagne explicitly welcomes all body types and demographics. The vibe is upscale nightclub rather than underground party: VIP table service with reserved front-and-center seating is available, and off-duty police officers are stationed throughout the hotel. Dress code is dress-to-impress rather than enforced, though themed costume participation is strongly encouraged. The whole-hotel BYOB policy means guests bring their own alcohol to guest rooms and carry it in a covered tumbler into event spaces; a hotel cash bar is also on site.