Event Organizers

Private-home party series (off-premise, presumed defunct)

Club E'Lan ran for at least the better part of two decades as one of New England's longest-standing private swinger clubs, founded in 1994 and operated entirely on the old-school NASCA model — phone, mail, and a personal AOL email, with the actual party location never published online or anywhere else. The mailing address was a PO Box in Wakefield, Massachusetts; the parties themselves were held in "a private home located just 20 minutes north of Boston," with the address disclosed only to guests who had cleared screening. The organiser is publicly identified only by the email handle "ladi630@aol.com" — the "ladi" / "Lady" tag is the giveaway: the kind of female host-organiser whose name circulated in the North Shore lifestyle community by word of mouth and by call-back, never in print. The format was tight by design. Each party had a specific theme — the listing language emphasised that the themes were chosen "to fill the evening with fun and laughter, as well as help new couples feel welcome to the lifestyle." The room was hard-capped at 40 couples. A separate quota allowed only 5 single men per party, and only after a phone or mail screening; single women were always welcome with no cap. The minimum age was 25 — unusually high for a US lifestyle club, and a deliberate curation choice. Doors opened at 8pm and ran until 2am, reservations required, no walk-ins, ever. Beyond that, almost nothing about the operation was public. No pricing was ever printed. No dress code was published. No amenity list (no mention of hot tubs, playrooms, dungeons, DJs) ever surfaced — which is itself the story: the club was a curated couples-and-singles social by application, not a venue with a tour. By the time the current New England lifestyle scene started to be written about — Pagan Kennedy's 2008 Boston Magazine feature "Hooking Up with the Joneses" first put the suburban MA scene on the map; later guides documented Club SINZ in Salisbury, The Sterling in Waltham, Illuminaughty Boston, Boston Sex Club, and Club4Play's hotel takeovers — E'Lan had already faded out of the public footprint. Every modern Massachusetts-clubs roundup from 2020 onward omits E'Lan entirely. The phone, email and PO Box remain on file at the Close Encounters Club NASCA directory (the only public listing the club ever had), but appear functionally inactive: no business directory carries them, no social media exists, no website was ever built, no Wayback snapshots of clubelan.com or clubelan.net ever held E'Lan content. The club is presumed quietly wound down sometime in the 2010s, with no public closure announcement. Its market position — discreet, screened, North Shore couples-and-singles — is now held by The Sterling in Waltham (geographically nearest) and Club SINZ in Salisbury (the same North Shore audience), with Illuminaughty Boston covering the curated/by-application niche E'Lan once defined locally.

Event Organizer

Share Lifestyle Club is a Calgary-based lifestyle event organizer that hosts themed parties and social gatherings for open-minded adults. Unlike fixed on-premise clubs, it does not maintain a permanent public venue; events are held at undisclosed locations accessible to registered members only. Membership registration, event booking, and entry details are managed through the club's website at sharelifestyleclub.com, which is fully gated and returns no publicly accessible content outside of login. The club publishes no street address, phone number, or social media channels; all enquiries are handled via sharelifestyleclub@gmail.com.

Young Couples Party (YCP)

Chicago, IL

Event Organizer

Young Couples Party (YCP) is a members-only lifestyle club serving the Chicago suburbs, built specifically around a younger demographic: membership and event attendance are capped to ages 21-42, with the founders explicitly designing the club so that couples in their twenties aren't the only young faces in a room of much older swingers. Membership is open to couples and single women - no single men are admitted under any circumstances - and organizers say attendees run roughly 95% couples to 5% single females, with racial demographics that broadly mirror the Chicagoland area. The club runs two main venues: a recurring twice-monthly party at a private country estate in Chicago's western suburbs featuring 16 beds across 8 bedrooms, an indoor pool, a hot tub, and a dance floor (8pm-2am), plus outdoor pool parties in summer; and an annual (sometimes twice-yearly) full hotel takeover. In total, YCP runs over 30 in-person events and roughly 150 virtual events per year, including HIIT and yoga classes, trivia nights, and quarterly educator-led seminars. A signature feature is a structured speed-dating segment at each in-person event, where couples and single women rotate through 3-minute conversations at numbered stations to break the ice.

SOP Lifestyle Productions

Vancouver, British Columbia

Event Organizer

SOP Lifestyle Productions — where the acronym stands for Swinger, Open, Poly — is a Vancouver, British Columbia-based event production company founded and run by Ying Ying Lee. Rather than operating a fixed venue, SOP produces lifestyle-oriented hotel takeovers, cruises, resort trips, and curated travel experiences for the open-minded adult community. The organisation welcomes singles, couples, and people of all genders, ages, and backgrounds; its attendee demographic typically spans the mid-20s to mid-60s, with the majority in their 30s to 50s, and draws participants from across Canada and the United States. SOP's flagship offering is the Winter Lifestyle Takeover (WLT), which began in 2010 and shifted to its current full-hotel-takeover format in 2012. It now runs annually in November at the 4-star Delta Whistler Village Suites in Whistler, BC, drawing around 350 attendees across a Friday-to-Monday weekend. The hotel pool deck, indoor and outdoor hot tubs, and a dedicated top-floor Play Floor stocked with theme rooms and playrooms form the centrepiece. A Spring Lifestyle Takeover (SLT) serves as a companion event, most recently held at the Mount Royal Hotel in Banff, AB. SOP also organises a Europe Lifestyle Takeover, a Tropical Lifestyle Takeover, group cruises on Virgin Voyages, and pop-up travel adventures. All takeovers are BYOB and follow a structured weekend rhythm: a Meet + Greet on the first evening, a dance party on the second night, and a cocktail party on the final night, alongside daytime seminars, workshops, and demonstrations. Ticketing operates via a tiered pricing structure with hotel packages bundling accommodation and a weekend pass. Payment may be made by e-transfer (Canada), Zelle (US), cheque, or credit card (5% service fee); weekend-pass-only options are available for local attendees. Hotel rooms must be booked through SOP directly rather than via the hotel. Advance booking is strongly advised, as events routinely sell out.

Club Triple XTC

Regina, Saskatchewan

Event Organiser

Founded in 2012 by a Regina couple who had searched for lifestyle clubs across Saskatchewan and found none, Club Triple XTC began as a hot-tub party of around thirty guests in their home. Those gatherings grew steadily to over a hundred attendees and eventually became a formally incorporated Saskatchewan company. Today the club draws members from Regina, Saskatoon, and across the province, positioning itself as Saskatchewan's only registered lifestyle club for consenting adults of all gender identities and sexual orientations. Rather than a fixed venue, the club runs three distinct event formats. Sociables Drink Nights are social-only evenings at a local public lounge — low-key and non-sexual, designed for members to meet and mingle. Private Hot Tub Parties echo the club's origins, gathering a smaller crowd for an intimate evening with BYOB drinks and snacks. The flagship Hotel Theme Parties book entire floors of one of Regina's hotels: themed play rooms coexist with a designated social area, exotic dance performances (with tip-based lap dances after the main show), a staffed BYOB bar area where guests label their own bottles, and communal food. Condoms and disinfectant wipes are freely available in all play areas, and security personnel are present throughout. Attendance at hotel events regularly exceeds 150. All events require pre-approved membership and advance ticket purchase — no walk-ins. A hostess checks government-issued photo ID against a printed ticket list at the door, where all guests sign a Conditions of Attendance document and receive individually numbered wristbands. Phones must be surrendered to secure storage on arrival and will be confiscated if carried inside; cameras and recording devices are banned outright. Single men are admitted only on a restricted basis — applicants must already be known in the Saskatchewan lifestyle community or formally sponsored by an existing member. Light BDSM play is permitted; extreme kink is explicitly prohibited. The minimum age is 19.

Friction Parties

Unverified

Washington, DC

Event Organizer

Friction Parties is a women-owned and operated event company founded more than 22 years ago by Lisa Friction, billed as the only nationally recognized hotel party brand in the United States. Operating across the East Coast — with events regularly held in the Washington DC/Maryland area, Philadelphia, New Jersey, North Carolina, and Ohio — Friction takes over entire hotels for the duration of each event, meaning every guest and room belongs exclusively to the lifestyle community. The organizing ethos is welcoming but selective: the crowd skews toward what organizers describe as attractive, well-groomed couples and single women, and all attendees are pre-screened before admission. Events run in two formats. Single-day events are typically held on Saturdays around themed holidays — Halloween, New Year’s Eve, Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day — with check-in from 2 PM and a ballroom dance party running from 9 PM to around 1:30 AM. Weekend two-day events add clothing-optional pool parties and afternoon activities. Ticket prices range from approximately $75–$150 per person; no refunds, only future-event credits. Membership on the platform lets members browse event attendee lists and connect with couples and single females year-round. Once the main dance party ends, the format shifts to an informal hall crawl on a designated party floor where room doors are propped open and guests host themed mini-parties until the early morning. The ballroom features a DJ, dance poles, cages, and themed décor matched to the night’s costume theme. Alcohol is available via full cash bar operated by the hotel; guests may not bring drinks from rooms to the party floor.

Outdoor Event Organizer

Kinky Campers Canada is a lifestyle-oriented campout organizer operating in rural New Brunswick, Canada. The venture targets kinksters and participants in the swinging lifestyle, offering outdoor camping experiences in a private rural setting rather than a fixed indoor club venue. Beyond the tagline Campouts in Rural New Brunswick for Kinksters Living the Lifestyle, no independently verifiable details about amenities, facilities, capacity, or the character of events have been confirmed from public sources. The site lists itself as under active development. Entry requirements, pricing, and event scheduling are not publicly documented. Prospective attendees should contact the organizers directly via kinkycampers.ca for current event dates and booking details.

Killing Kittens

London, Greater London

Event Organizer

Founded in London in 2005 by Emma Sayle, Killing Kittens has spent two decades building what it bills as the world's most exclusive and hedonistic parties — a female-empowerment brand "fully focused on the pursuit of female pleasure for girls in control who know what they want." From those London beginnings it has grown into a global movement spanning more than 22 cities across 10 countries, with over 250,000 people having attended its events, yet London remains its home turf. Parties there are staged in a rotating cast of "exclusive and luxurious venues in London, with stunning decor, state-of-the-art sound systems, and a carefully curated atmosphere." Locations are kept secret and revealed only to confirmed guests, part of the discretion the brand stakes its reputation on. The KK model is strictly members-and-invitation-only: "The only way to gain exclusive access to KK parties is by becoming a KK member or receiving an invite from one." Full "Kitten" membership is reserved for women, trans and non-binary people, who lead the room; Guest membership lets others attend alongside a Full member or buy tickets to designated Singles events, and solo men are otherwise excluded. The brand's long-standing golden rule puts women firmly in charge — the women make the first move, and men may never approach a woman they don't know. Consent sits at the centre of everything, with guidelines emailed before every event covering "greetings through aftercare" and trained staff on hand throughout; masks are traditionally kept on until 11pm, when play begins. Beyond the flagship nights, KK runs a calendar of themed events — Masquerade Balls, Kinky Cabaret, Hedonism nights and seasonal Halloween parties among them — plus workshops and a members' community that continues online through the WAX app. Tickets are priced by who's attending, roughly from around £50–£75 for single women up to £200-plus for couples, keeping the crowd skewed toward women and couples. The brand leans hard on stated values of gender equity, body positivity, consent and inclusivity, welcoming "all genders and sexualities to come and play" while pledging zero tolerance for racism, ableism, sexism, fatphobia or transphobia. Confidentiality is absolute — guest information and event details are never shared — and the whole experience is designed to feel luxurious, safe and free of judgement.

Illuminaughty Denver

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Denver launched in early 2025, selling out its first play party in the Mile High City, and now runs as a curated, application-only private members club for ethically non-monogamous couples and singles in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Part of a national network spanning dozens of U.S. cities, it hosts a mix of Tease Cocktail Mixers at restaurants and bars alongside private play parties held at rented residences - anything from single-family houses to executive high-rises and country estates, each staffed with private security and dressed with intentional lighting, music, and decor. Membership is free but vetted: applicants are screened for fitness, self-awareness, and respectfulness, and once approved gain access to buy tickets and receive invites via the mobile app. Most private parties draw 40 to 80 members and run 8pm to 2am (or 2pm to midnight for All Day Soirees), with a strict arrival window, a consent-and-safety briefing before play begins, and a formal or themed dress code - cocktail attire or lingerie for women, suits for men, though some nights go casual (Neon, Pajama). No models, performers, or influencers are booked; every attendee is a vetted member.

Shrine Austin

Austin, TX

Event Organizer

Shrine is a monthly BDSM, fetish, and alternative-lifestyle party held on a Sunday evening at colette Austin, a 7,000–9,000 sq ft swingers club at 13800 Dragline Dr. Run by a coalition of Austin-area kink organizations, Shrine bills itself as a sex-positive space that blends a dungeon and nightclub atmosphere, welcoming swingers, kinksters, voyeurs, LGBTQIA+ attendees, and polyamorous folks alike. The venue supplies multiple beds, St. Andrew's crosses, spanking benches, hard points, wrestling mats, stripper poles, a non-alcoholic beverage bar, small lockers, and a smoking-permitted outdoor social area, plus a massage table set aside for fire and medical play. Doors run 6:30pm to 1am (2am on Memorial Day and Labor Day weekends), with check-in closing an hour before close. Entry requires a valid state or federal ID (18+), a free temporary colette-club membership, and a signed waiver; cover is $25 at the door or discounted online. There's no fixed dress code — fetish wear and leather are encouraged, and nudity is fine once inside — but attendees must be street-legal en route, and new attendees take a walkthrough with a Front of House Tour Guide before diving in. House rules lean heavily toward consent and safety: the event safe word is RED, all scenes require enthusiastic consent, and Dungeon Monitors in colored vests patrol to enforce boundaries. The party is explicitly dry — no alcohol or drugs are permitted anywhere on the premises — and phones, cameras, and recording devices are banned inside the club except in designated photography areas.

Friction Carolina

Durham, NC

Event Organizer

Friction Carolina is the Raleigh-Durham chapter of Friction Parties, a hotel-takeover swingers event brand founded by Lisa Friction more than two decades ago and run as a women-owned and -operated business. Rather than operating a single fixed venue, Friction stages full hotel buyouts at upscale, mainstream hotel properties across North Carolina, alongside sister markets in the Philadelphia/New Jersey area, the Washington DC region, and Ohio. The company describes its events as complete hotel takeovers rather than floor or ballroom rentals, and positions itself as a nationally recognized hotel-party brand in the lifestyle scene. Because host properties are conventional hotels with their own liquor licenses, the ballroom runs on a cash bar and outside alcohol is barred from any area where the hotel sells drinks, unless a specific date is advertised as BYOB. Parties are built around a rented ballroom for the main event and a private party floor of guest rooms, with area DJs, a stripper pole and dance cage, a step-and-repeat photo backdrop, and security posted at check-in and on the private floors overnight. A late-night pizza run and after-parties on the guest-room floor extend the evening once the ballroom event winds down. Guests are asked to wear a robe or cover-up in hallways and other public hotel areas, and fog machines, candles, vaping, and smoking are all prohibited indoors under hotel fire code. Admission is screening-based and limited to couples and single women who meet the group's appearance standards; the site's own registration form offers only "Couple" and "Female" account types, and unaccompanied single men are not admitted under any circumstance. Site membership is free, and an event ticket purchase includes a temporary premium membership, with a paid "Platinum" membership sold separately for year-round profile browsing and messaging. Check-in cutoff varies by event — stated as 11pm on one official page and midnight on another — with no late entry, and purchases are non-refundable; cancellations and no-shows receive a 12-month event credit instead.

616

Grand Rapids, MI

Rotating hotel takeover event organizer - no fixed venue

Club 616 is a members-only lifestyle club serving West Michigan, running themed hotel-takeover events in Kalamazoo, Grand Rapids, and Newaygo. Current hosts took over in January 2012, building on a group dating to the 1990s. Membership welcomes couples, single ladies, and sponsored single gentlemen; the club calls itself BDSM, kink, and LGBTQ+ friendly. Joining requires an application, photo ID, and signed consent forms. Signature parties - Red Carpet NYE, Halloween, and a spring weekend - bring a dance floor, DJ, dance pole, light show, a pool party, and a VIP room with bench swings, a St. Andrew's cross, and a ladies-only bed. A recent Halloween filled a 182-room hotel, dress shifting by zone: lobby street clothes, g-strings/pasties minimum poolside, none in the VIP room. Entry is 21-and-up, reservation-only, ID checked at registration. Consent policy bars unwanted touching; cameras banned at events.

AfterDark Events

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer (Pop-Up Play Parties)

AfterDark is a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled led org producing curated kink and alt-sex events across the SF Bay Area. Founded 2021 with 10+ years of ethical organizing, running signature parties like SPANK! Pop-ups at Stopgap in SoMa, 100-200 attendees. Each party has zones for socializing, dancing, kink play, and aftercare. Safer-sex supplies, food (vegan/GF/DF), and non-alcoholic drinks provided. Drug/alcohol-free, no phones, no photography, ID required. Consent-centered: dungeon monitors, house safeword, no breath play or open flame.

private house party

Club Moist is a private lifestyle house-party series run out of the organizers' personal home in the Manchester, New Hampshire area. The events draw between 20 and 30 screened couples and guests per night, keeping the crowd intimate and intentionally matched — typical age range spans the early thirties to early fifties, with a strong emphasis on couples compatibility over sheer numbers. The hosts pride themselves on a modern, clean home atmosphere that feels nothing like a commercial venue: there's dancing and mood lighting in the main social space, a hot tub open under the stars, snacks and shared mixers, and a genuinely welcoming vibe that regulars describe in their SLS certifications as safe, social, and easy to mingle at. The play layout spans three distinct zones. The main floor holds an open-plan play area with several beds and a sex swing; a lower-level Exploration Den offers a more contained and private environment, including a closeable private bedroom; and the outdoor Island Time pavilion extends the action outside when weather allows. The pink-sheet beds are women-only until 10:30pm, after which the full floor opens to all. Hot tub play is encouraged (with a 6-person cap and a no-sex-in-the-water rule given neighbor sightlines), and discreet outdoor fun in the pavilion area is welcomed. Events are invitation-only and coordinated via SLS (profile: funlaughz). Once invited, an Evite with the confirmed attendee list is sent ahead of the party. Parties run from 8pm to 1am. The crowd skews straight and bi-female: single men are not admitted. Newcomers to the lifestyle are actively encouraged to arrive early, and the hosts make a point of walking first-timers through the space and the social flow of the evening.

Big Mamas Haus

Crimmitschau, Saxony

BDSM & Fetish Event Venue

BMH Event-Club — formerly known as Big Mama's Haus — is a sprawling BDSM, fetish, and swinger event location in the heart of Germany, housed in a converted warehouse in Crimmitschau's industrial quarter. Founded in 2006 by Irmgard Pruka (the original "Big Mama"), the venue combines two worlds under one roof: a ground floor with spacious swinger lounges, sauna, and a cinema room, and an upper floor featuring 11 exclusive SM playrooms with serious equipment — rotating cross, slave elevator, pillory, ball cage, prison cell, and two medieval torture chambers — plus a stylish bar and event space. Rather than opening every weekend like a traditional club, BMH operates as a curated event venue — hosting 2–4 themed productions per month from independent organizers and its own team. Events range from latex passion nights and BDSM play parties to Gorean fantasy workshops and grand slave auctions. Entry typically runs 50–85 EUR per person and almost always includes a full buffet and drinks. An adjacent warehouse and 6,000 sqm outdoor grounds handle the mega-events, with overnight rooms available from 30 EUR. Cash only. Rated 4.8/5 on JoyClub from over 250 reviews with nearly 270,000 total visitors, BMH draws guests from across Germany and Europe. Reviewers consistently praise the cleanliness, friendly staff, excellent food, and the care that's gone into making every room unique. The house motto says it all: "We are everything, just not boring."

Allures Lifestyle

Sacramento, CA

Event Organizer (Hotel Takeover Parties)

Allures Lifestyle is Sacramento's longest-running lifestyle event organizer — a pop-up operation that descends on the DoubleTree by Hilton Sacramento's grand ballroom and transforms it into what the group bills as Northern California's premier swinger dance-play party. Operating under the tagline "the force of irresistible attraction," Allures has run monthly hotel parties for over a decade and draws couples from across the greater Sacramento area and beyond. The setup reads more nightclub than back-room affair: romantic candlelight, fog machines, sensual mood lighting, and two large projector screens broadcasting music videos accompany a state-of-the-art DJ spinning Old School, R&B, Hip Hop, Latin, Pop, EDM, and Classic Rock. The main ballroom floor centers on a full dance floor with a stripper pole and go-go stage, flanked by reserved VIP round tables (seating eight each) and 10-by-7-foot draped VIP cabanas — each fitted with a sofa, loveseat, and coffee table — right on the dance floor. Adjacent to the ballroom, the "Boom Boom Room" play suite provides multiple beds, a double-sided St. Andrew's Cross, a multi-positional sex horse, and a sex swing, staffed by Allures personnel throughout the evening. Guests in the play suite are asked to be in lingerie or less; voyeurs are welcome but may be asked to vacate if space is needed. Overnight sleeping rooms — standard rooms through two-bedroom suites — can be reserved in the Allures hotel block, placing guests on dedicated Allures floors and including a goodie bag at check-in. The event calendar runs to monthly themed hotel dances plus more intimate "Fantasy Fridays" at rotating venues, casual Meet & Greets at nightclubs and lifestyle bars, and an ambitious roster of destination programming: a clothing-optional takeover in Jaco, Costa Rica, Hedonism II Jamaica dates, Bliss and Desire cruise ship charters, Vegas weekends, Gold Country motorcycle runs, boating flotillas, and camping trips. The signature event is the annual New Year's Eve "SEXabration Ball," which drew national news coverage in January 2020 after nearly 1,000 guests filled the DoubleTree. All hotel events are 21+; a full cash bar is on-site.

Friends Night Out (FNO)

Aurora, IL

Event Organizer

Friends Night Out (FNO) runs its parties out of a rented two-level space in Aurora, Illinois known to members as "The Barn" — 2,030 square feet on Jericho Road near I-88 and Orchard Road, styled like a warm pub with conversation couches, chairs and cocktail tables rather than a purpose-built club. It's a licensed, zoned business the group leases for select gatherings, with swinger activity upstairs treated much like private activity in a hotel room; the venue owner supports the lifestyle community and welcomes guests of all orientations and identities. The space holds up to 100 guests, with parking for roughly 50 cars, two restrooms, exterior security cameras and intruder-alert systems. FNO bills itself less as a sex club and more as a friendship club — "we believe in fostering friendships in and out of the bedroom" — and leadership runs games and activities designed to get couples talking rather than just pairing off. Regular parties are capped at 75–100 people to keep the house-party feel intact, with occasional hotel takeovers scaling up to around 300. All events are BYOB with mixers supplied, appetizers are provided, and themed dress is encouraged but optional — guests not in costume are simply asked to "dress to impress." Access runs through paid membership: attending is a donation that doubles as an FNO membership fee, entry requires a prior ticket order number, and the street address isn't released until checkout. New members are marked with a green wristband so regulars can welcome them. FNO does not supply condoms or lubricant for health and liability reasons, so guests bring their own; wipes are provided in the play area, and neither of the two bathrooms has a shower.

TABOTA Monster Bash

Niagara Falls, Ontario

Event Organizer

TABOTA Monster Bash is an annual Halloween-themed swinger lifestyle hotel takeover event held each October in Niagara Falls, Ontario, produced by TABOTA Events — a Canadian lifestyle company that has been running adult events since 2007. The Bash traces its lineage from a Northbound Leather Friday-night pre-party in downtown Toronto, through a club-format O Zone event, before expanding into a full-weekend hotel takeover. For the duration of the event, TABOTA books the entire property of an upscale hotel and indoor waterpark complex located minutes from the Falls — the venue name is not published, consistent with the organizers' discretion-first approach — ensuring the property is accessible to registered guests only. The event is open to couples and single women; single men are not admitted, and attendance is restricted to guests aged 19 and over. The venue is a tropical-themed resort with a clothing-optional indoor waterpark, heated pools and hot tubs, a Poolside VooDoo Lounge serving bistro-style snacks, and award-winning gourmet dining in an enclosed courtyard garden. Dedicated lifestyle spaces include a Penthouse Play Area, a Kinky Playroom, and an outdoor Kink Garden; on the main Saturday night the DJ runs until 2am, playrooms stay open until 4am, and the pools and hot tubs operate clothing-optional until 3am. Programming begins Thursday with an Interactive Escape Room and themed dance for early-arrival guests. Friday brings a Meet and Greet, a theme dance, and access to the play areas. Saturday is the anchor day: a daytime pool party with a live band, XXX-rated pumpkin carving, a Pirates and Wenches treasure hunt, sexual tarot readings, professional body painting, wax play and shibari rope-bondage demos, a pole dance workshop, a Lick or Trick room crawl, and the Carnival of Sinz — a carnivalesque set of risque games including Cock Toss, Naked Axe Throwing, and X-Rated Beer Pong. The evening builds through a Dinner Murder Mystery on Bourbon Street and Black Tape Body Artistry before culminating in the Halloween Gala, the main costume-contest dance party. The 2026 event runs October 23-25, with a Thursday early-arrival upgrade available. All bookings are made in advance through TabotaEvents.com; the event consistently sells out. A pass-only package (full weekend event access, no room) is $169 per person plus 13% HST; a pass-and-room package covering two nights of accommodation plus all event access is $439 per person plus 13% HST. A courtyard pool-view room upgrade adds $69 per person per night, and the Thursday early-arrival night adds $99 per person per night. Guests in accommodation packages are required to pay a mandatory $100 per person weekend party credit in cash at check-in, redeemable anywhere in the hotel for food and drinks. Photography and camera use are prohibited throughout the event.

Monde Osé

Unverified

Montreal, Quebec

Event Organizer

Monde Osé is a Montreal-based lifestyle brand and event organizer founded on August 5, 2005, by a Montrealer known publicly as Frank, whose search with his wife for upscale, open-minded sensual entertainment in the city found nothing that met their expectations. The name derives from the French "osé," meaning "daring" — a word the brand treats as both identity and mandate, pledging to challenge social norms around sexuality and self-expression. The first gathering drew 110 invited guests to Joy Nightspot, a small Montreal nightclub, structured as a private couples-and-ladies-only party. Monthly events followed, growing by word of mouth into an erotic performance-arts brand whose stated philosophy rests on three words: Respect, Acceptance, and Love. Monde Osé's principal events have been two annual balls. The Bal Érotique, launched in 2006 as a first-anniversary celebration, ran for thirteen editions through 2018: the inaugural edition drew 450 guests and numbers climbed to more than 1,500 by the peak years. The final edition — Moonlight Masquerade — was held on August 25, 2018, at Bain Mathieu, 2915 Ontario Street East, and was deliberately retired by founder Frank, who announced in August 2018 that he was moving on to other pursuits. The continuing flagship is the Bal Burlesque, a spring event led by performer and artistic director Lexxi Brown (also known as Foxy Lexxi); its most recent confirmed edition took place on March 4, 2023, at Cabaret Lion d'Or, 1676 rue Ontario est, in Montreal's Le Village neighbourhood. Events run from 9 pm to 3 am and combine live burlesque headliners, pole dancers, contortionists, and aerial artists with a soundtrack of deep house, techno, soul, and funk curated by guest DJs. Each event is built around a distinct theme deployed through décor, lighting, performance, and dress code. Access to Monde Osé events is membership-first: prospective attendees are encouraged to apply for pre-approval through the website's membership section, where applications are reviewed against unstated criteria. Non-members who arrive without prior approval are screened on-site, with entry based on what the brand describes as "attractiveness, style and sophistication," and a slight ticket premium at the door. For the 2023 Bal Burlesque, pre-sale tickets started at $55 CAD (until December 22, 2022), rising through early-bird ($65), regular ($80), and day-of ($95) tiers; VIP packages at $400 included a reserved table for the evening, bottle service, and line skip — all VIP guests were still required to hold a separate event ticket. Dress code is strictly enforced: no athletic wear, running shoes, or baseball caps; the expected standard is sexy or daring, with themed costuming actively encouraged. Guests must be at least 18 years old.

Lifestyle Playtime

Unverified

DeKalb, IL

Event Group / Hotel Takeover Organizer (no fixed venue)

Lifestyle Playtime is a Chicago-area lifestyle group based in DeKalb, IL that runs low-pressure monthly meet-and-greets alongside larger hotel takeover parties, rather than operating out of a single fixed venue. The format keeps overhead low and lets the group rotate between DeKalb and the wider Chicago suburbs depending on the event. Entry is vetted: single men must apply through the group's "Distinguished Gentlemen" screening process before attending, and all guests sign a liability waiver and show photo ID at check-in. Attendees wear an event wristband, and couples are expected to arrive and leave together, with house rules enforced by volunteer hosts rather than paid staff.

Club Chameleon

Flint, MI

House Party

Club Chameleon is a swingers house-party venue operating in the Flint, Michigan area, run by a self-described "empty nester" couple with 25 years in the lifestyle. The venue spans three and a half floors, with two bars, a dance floor, three private playrooms, a curtained "Peekaboo" room, a dedicated billiards room, and a St. Andrew's cross room stocked with paddles and floggers for sensual play. Outside, an enclosed, heated patio holds an eight-person hot tub open year-round, a second theme bar, a stripper pole, and a bonfire pit with seating. The club leans heavily into theme parties, held roughly once a month, complete with costume contests, prizes, and raffles, alongside icebreaker activities like cornhole, beer pong, foosball, and adult Jenga. Food is served buffet-style, usually tied to the party theme, while all parties are BYOB and BYOC (bring your own cup), and the venue is smoking- and 420-friendly. The organizers position Club Chameleon as newbie-friendly, promoting a "safe, non-pushy, no expectations" atmosphere, with a strict Single Male Expectations Policy available on request; overnight accommodations can reportedly be arranged for guests traveling long distances or planning to drink.

Dark Odyssey

Berkeley, CA

Event Organizer

Dark Odyssey is a roving event organization founded in 2003 by Greg, a former Black Rose board chairman, to fuse sexuality, spirituality, education, and play under one roof. Rather than operating a fixed venue, it commandeers hotels and private rural retreats for four distinct annual events: Winter Fire, a luxury hotel takeover in Baltimore running a full President's Day weekend; Fusion, a six-day summer camp in Northern Maryland on a 200-acre private facility with 40 cabins and 400 beds; Summer Camp, a Labor Day week-long gathering at the same Northern Maryland retreat; and Surrender, a pre-Halloween hotel convention in the San Jose Bay Area. Sold-out attendance at Winter Fire has reached 1,400 people. Each event follows the same architecture: days packed with 80-plus workshops spanning BDSM technique, polyamory, Tantra, sacred sexuality, and spiritual practice, taught by national educators; nights given over to fully equipped dungeons, the Sex-O-Rama open playspace (supplied with beds, lube, condoms, and gloves around the clock), and themed parties running until 2–3am. The rural camp events add outdoor suspension rigs, a tennis-court playspace with weather-resistant equipment, a Pavilion for mixers and open play, and a Temple space for ritual and sacred play. Fire spin jams, drumming circles, a Kinky State Fair, and a Saturday night show round out the program. The community self-describes as a melting pot of kinksters, queers, swingers, spiritualists, Pagans, polyamorists, and cross-dressers — pansexual, omnisexual, and explicitly welcoming to all gender identities. Attendee-created ION events let the community add its own workshops and parties to each schedule. A dedicated Incident Response Team (IRT) staffs a help desk at every event to handle consent matters in private.

Joyride

London, London

Event Organizer

A queer, sex-positive event series in London blending rave culture, art and sexual expression. The dancefloor is a liberatory space embodying freedom, pleasure and experimentation, with a genre-blurring mix from uplifting house to techno.

Illuminaughty Austin

Austin, TX

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Austin is the Texas capital's chapter of Illuminaughty, a multi-city lifestyle event brand that hosted its first private Austin party in 2024. Rather than operating a fixed clubhouse, the chapter runs invitation-only cocktail mixers and play parties for a curated community of couples, single women, non-binary members, and a limited number of vetted single men, generally in their 20s to 40s. Membership is free but application-based: prospective members submit photos and a bio for staff review, and approval is required before anyone can purchase tickets or receive event invitations. Events take over rented private residences around the Austin area rather than a single dedicated venue — past parties have used a multi-play-room house in the heart of Austin and a six-bedroom, three-story home in Central East Austin, each redressed with theme-specific music, lighting, and decor. Every party includes multiple designated play spaces, massage tables, and a coat storage area, with private security checking IDs and monitoring the event. Parties are BYOB, with mixers, champagne flutes, cups, and non-alcoholic drinks supplied by the organizers. Austin parties typically run Saturday nights from 8pm to 2am, with a fixed arrival window (usually 8:00–9:30pm) after which doors close for a mandatory opening talk on rules and consent; latecomers are not admitted without prior arrangement. Dress codes are theme-specific and enforced (examples include masquerade formalwear and 1960s Summer of Love attire). For privacy and security, the venue address is not published in advance — it is emailed only to confirmed ticket holders on the morning of the event. Ticket refunds have historically been offered up to 5 days before an event, minus a non-refundable credit-card processing fee of about 5%.

Carolina Friends

Charlotte, NC

Event Organizer

One of the longest-running lifestyle organizations in the Southeast, Carolina Friends traces its roots to 1991, when eight Charlotte-area couples pooled resources to throw a discreet monthly hotel party for roughly thirty pairs. Three decades and more than 40,000 couples on the roster later, the club now operates as a full hotel-takeover outfit, booking entire hotels exclusively for members in both the Charlotte metro and the Triad region around Greensboro and Winston-Salem. Charlotte events regularly draw 400-plus couples; Triad nights typically pull 150 or more. Each takeover follows a familiar rhythm: a live DJ and dance floor anchor the social side, while a full buffet, BYOB bar with provided mixers and bartender service, co-ed showers, towels, and lockers keep the logistics covered. Private activity areas, group rooms, and a voyeur/exhibition space make up the play options, and a late-night breakfast gathering caps the evening. During warmer months, pool parties are added to the rotation. Events run Friday and Saturday nights, generally 8 pm to 2 am, and most carry themed dress codes -- upscale and sexy for women, smart casual for men. Admission is couples-focused: single females are always welcome, single males are accepted at most events but capped to maintain balance. A free online profile with your legal name is required before you can purchase event tickets or the optional membership ($13.68/month), which unlocks private chat, passkey photos, and the AutoDate matchmaking feature on the member platform. The club has no public social-media presence; communication flows through the member site and listings on SLS, SDC, and Kasidie.

Illuminaughty Phoenix

Phoenix, AZ

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Phoenix is the local chapter of a multi-city private membership brand that has hosted curated swinger parties and cocktail mixers in the Phoenix and Scottsdale area since 2023. Rather than operating from a fixed clubhouse, it runs as an event organizer: each party is held at a different private venue, such as a member's home, a rented high-rise apartment, or an occasional mansion, with the address released only to approved ticket holders on the day of the event. Private parties typically draw 40 to 80 members, with occasional mansion takeovers hosting 150 or more. Rooms are set up for a range of experiences, from massage tables to group-play spaces and some light kink equipment, though the atmosphere leans social rather than kink-focused. Events are BYOB, with mixers, non-alcoholic drinks, towels, condoms and lube supplied by the organizers, and private security is present at every party. Membership is free but requires a photo application reviewed and approved by staff before tickets can be purchased. Night parties generally run 8pm to 2am with an 8-9:30pm arrival window; All Day Soirees run 2pm to midnight with a 2-3:30pm window, and late arrivals are turned away. Couples and single women attend freely, while single men need a capped "Single Man" ticket. Every event opens with a consent and safety briefing, and dress follows a themed code.

Lifestyle Playground

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Lifestyle Playground is a private lifestyle event organization based in Colorado, hosting events in Denver, Colorado Springs, and Thornton rather than operating from a single venue. The group runs a range of gatherings from casual coffee meetups to full hotel takeovers with themed rooms, alongside workshops on sexual wellness. Its community is inclusive of ENM, polyamory, swinging, LGBTQ+, and BDSM members, and access requires a membership application.

Arouse Vegas

Las Vegas, NV

Private Event Series

Arouse Vegas operates as a members-only adult lifestyle club in Las Vegas, billing itself as 'Private Las Vegas Special Events.' The exact venue is an upscale building disclosed only to ticketed members; arriving guests text or call from the lobby and are escorted up — a deliberate layer of discretion that sets the tone for the whole operation. On-premise play is permitted under Nevada law, and the club situates itself on the more curated end of the Vegas lifestyle spectrum, requiring a photo-and-essay application from anyone wishing to join. Membership is open to couples, single ladies, and single men, though single ladies occupy a place of particular emphasis in the club's community standards — stalking or harassment of solo female guests carries the threat of membership suspension. The application process requires 2–6 high-resolution photos (lingerie and smart-casual shots preferred; heavy filters and cartoon overlays explicitly discouraged) plus a written 'About us' introduction. Accepted applicants are notified by email. Social networking integration runs through the Modern Lifestyle platform, with Arouse Vegas cross-listed on SDC, Kasidie, and SwingLifeStyle for member discovery. Event details, ticketing, and the venue address all sit behind the member login — walk-in access or public-facing schedules are not offered.

Mindbender Parties

Boston, MA

Event Organizer

Mindbender Parties is New England's most traveled adult lifestyle event series, the brainchild of Mizzy Bender — a self-described 41-year-old female entrepreneur who launched the operation with her partner Spencer and has since grown it into one of the region's most recognizable swinger brands. Events rotate across partner venues: most frequently Platforms Dance Club at 165 Poe St, Providence, RI, a proper nightclub with a full bar, dance floor, and purpose-built dungeon. The Electricity Social Club (ESC) in Providence's Olneyville neighborhood hosts BYOB multi-room events with seven themed playrooms; summer months bring a private Long Island property with an eight-person hot tub, outdoor shower, and fire pit — location released to guests after payment. The calendar runs year-round under recurring titles — Candyland, Back to School, Boo (eighth annual run), Naughty in Neon, Shamrocks & Shenanigans, Nuttin for XXXmas, and more — on a roughly monthly rhythm, with occasional multi-day hotel-takeover weekends. Pricing is tiered: couples typically pay $70–$80, single ladies $20–$30, and single males $110–$120. Tickets are advance-purchase only via the website. Every event is professionally produced under the Mindbender Productions banner — DJ, lighting, full staging — with onsite security whose priority is guest safety and comfort. Mizzy's Boutique, a traveling pop-up adult retail shop, vends at every event alongside sponsors One Condoms, Spunk Lube, Naughty Indulgence, and SDC. Play spaces include open group areas, private rooms, and dungeon setups. The Instagram presence (76K followers) and the companion podcast Mornings with Mizzy reflect a community-building mission well beyond the door — educational content, judgment-free conversation, and a genuine inclusive ethos baked into the Mindbender brand.

Saints & Sinners AC

Closed

Atlantic City, NJ

Event Organizer

Saints & Sinners AC anchors the Diving Horse entertainment complex at 18 S. Dr. Martin Luther King Blvd, a sprawling 55,000-square-foot multi-use building in Atlantic City. Guests enter discreetly from the back of the Diving Horse complex rather than the main boulevard-facing door — a deliberate design choice that sets the tone for the whole experience. Inside, four floors hold an impressive inventory of spaces: 15 open, air-conditioned play rooms, additional private and semi-private rooms, 11 showers, 2 BYOB bars stocked with mixers, 2 dance floors fitted with stripper poles, an outdoor heated pool, an outdoor deck, and a food buffet that runs through the night. Erotic movies play throughout the venue to set the mood. The club pitches itself as a new-age, modern lifestyle destination rather than a classic swinger haunt, and the crowd — primarily couples in their late twenties to late forties — dresses to match. Women tend toward fitted dresses; men wear button-up shirts and jeans. Saturday theme nights are a recurring feature, with prizes and costumed dress codes announced in advance. The adjacent Diving Horse Inn (30 rooms, many with jacuzzi tubs and balconies overlooking the deck and pool) lets members extend the evening without leaving the building, while the neighboring Diving Horse Cabaret and Luxx Lounge nightclub round out the complex. Doors open Fridays and Saturdays from 9 pm, with Fridays running to 3 am and Saturdays to 4-5 am. The club is closed Sunday through Thursday.

Illuminaughty Portland

Portland, OR

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Portland is the local chapter of a national members-only lifestyle events network, hosting curated cocktail mixers and private play parties for couples and singles since 2023. Rather than operating out of a fixed clubhouse, the group rents out private residences around the Portland metro for each event — past parties have used a hillside home in the Goose Hollow Hills with skyline views, while cocktail mixers have taken place at bars and restaurants in neighborhoods like SE Buckman. The community skews toward couples and singles in their 20s, 30s and early 40s, and membership is free but requires an application; organizers describe the vetting process as intentional curation meant to keep the group welcoming, low-pressure and free of hired performers or influencers. Events fall into two main formats. Tease Cocktail Mixers are lower-key social gatherings held in a reserved area of a local bar or restaurant, typically running a couple of hours and used as a low-commitment way to meet other members before attending a party. Private parties, such as the recurring City Nights events, are held overnight at rented houses or upscale properties featuring multiple play spaces, massage tables, mood lighting and music, and sometimes amenities like a hot tub; venues are rated on the site using a sliding "Venue Vibe" and capacity scale, with most parties drawing roughly 30 to 100-plus members. Parties are BYOB, with mixers, non-alcoholic drinks, cups and champagne flutes supplied by the hosts, and the group's own security staff checks tickets and IDs at the door. Parties generally run Saturday nights from about 8pm to 2am with a strict arrival window (doors close roughly 90 minutes after opening for a mandatory rules-and-consent orientation), while mixers run shorter early-evening slots. Admission is ticketed and restricted to couples, single women, non-binary attendees, and a limited, gender-balanced number of vetted single men; the exact address of each rented venue is withheld until the morning of the event and sent only to confirmed ticket holders. Dress codes are enforced per event, generally cocktail attire or suits for larger parties and classy-casual for mixers, and refunds are typically available up to a matter of days before an event, minus a processing fee.

Event Organizer

Riposte is a boundary-breaking queer rave in London, mixing techno with art across multi-room venues featuring over 20 performers, immersive theatre, and roaming performances. A vibrant celebration of unapologetic self-love and the diverse expressions of the queer community in a sex-positive play space.

Lifeinstyle STL

St. Louis, MO

Event Organizer

Lifeinstyle STL is a St. Louis-based swinger and open-minded couples community founded in February 2016 by a couple who identify as Em and Lu. The group has no permanent clubhouse; it runs a rotating calendar of private parties at bars, restaurants and hotels around St. Louis, with larger takeover weekends staged farther afield at Lake of the Ozarks and other Midwest destinations. Membership is restricted to verified, approved accounts -- the group states that safety is its top priority and that it "carefully verifies all new members" and "never accepts fake profiles." Programming spans low-key monthly meet-and-greets at rotating St. Louis venues -- recent examples include a western-themed night at Shamrock's Pub downtown and a swimsuit party at Chapter 3 in Soulard -- up to full hotel takeovers built around themes such as a UV-lit Neon Glow party, Halloween, Valentine's and New Year's Eve. Its flagship event is National Swingers Weekend (NSW), a multi-night lakefront resort takeover at Lake of the Ozarks now in its seventh year, with daily pool parties, themed nights and DJs. The community also runs a blog, a "Swingz" podcast, a members' forum and chat, and its own branded lingerie and party-apparel shop. Attendance skews toward couples and single women; single men can attend only through a separate, more selective single-male account tied to specific events, and organizers note that first-timers typically make up 20-30% of guests at meet-and-greets. Entry to any party requires a pre-approved Lifeinstyle account, with approvals generally taking one to four days and granted at the administrator's discretion; door sales and on-site approvals are not permitted. Dress code defaults to cocktail attire unless a party carries its own theme. Some hotel takeovers, including the Neon Glow Party, are advertised as BYOB, and recent per-couple pricing has run from roughly $24.99-$28 for bar meet-and-greets (with single ladies often admitted free) up to about $79 per couple for hotel takeovers; tickets are non-refundable within 15 days of an event.

Richmond Rondezvouz

Richmond, VA

Event Organizer

Richmond Rondezvouz for Swingers is a Richmond, Virginia-based adult lifestyle group that organizes private parties rather than operating out of a fixed clubhouse. Run by a host couple and cross-listed on the SwingLifestyle platform under the handle swingcouple96, the group holds swinger parties at rotating private residences at least twice a month, along with occasional bi-oriented gatherings and peep-show style events. The group describes itself as welcoming to all attendees. Host locations typically include a private home with a heated pool, hot tub, large deck and covered patio, and a dedicated play area; one recurring venue also has a fenced backyard, an outdoor shower and a port-a-potty for guests who wish to camp overnight. Food and non-alcoholic drinks are supplied by the hosts, while alcohol is strictly BYOB; showers, towels, soap and wipes are provided on site for cleanup after play. Attendance is by confirmed RSVP only — prospective guests email the organizers with the names of everyone attending, and the party address is released only after confirmation; no one is admitted who is not on the guest list, and all attendees must be 21 or older. Admission is cash-only ($50 for couples and single men, $10 for single women), with a $20 late-registration fee for RSVPs submitted after the same-day cutoff. A dress code bars hats, hoodies, tank tops, sportswear and work boots at regular parties (dedicated pool parties are clothing-optional), and house rules ban photography without consent, prohibit illegal drugs and any pay-for-play activity, and require single men to approach the male half of a couple first rather than the female half alone.

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Colorado Springs is a pre-launch chapter of the Illuminaughty lifestyle network, a members-only community for couples and singles in their 20s-40s. As of mid-2026, no events have yet been held in Colorado Springs — the brand's own site states it is still building its local membership base and will schedule its first party once enough members have signed up. There is no fixed venue: consistent with Illuminaughty's model elsewhere, future events would be hosted at private residences rather than a dedicated clubhouse. Once launched, programming is expected to follow the format used in other Illuminaughty cities: Tease Cocktail Mixers at bars with a reserved private area, and private house parties with themed decor and on-site security, typically drawing 40-80 attendees. Membership is free but requires an application and photo-based approval; approved members get event access through the Illuminaughty mobile app. Because no parties have been scheduled in Colorado Springs, prospective members should apply and RSVP through the official site to be notified once the first event is announced.

Swinghearts

Unverified

Whittier, CA

Private Event Host

Swinghearts is a Southern California lifestyle couple — Chris (Swinghearts) and Tonia (MsSwinghearts) — who host swinger and lifestyle parties for couples and select singles in the greater Los Angeles area. The operation rotates through private locations, with addresses disclosed only to pre-screened attendees. The hosts describe their philosophy as drama-free and judgment-free under the motto "Play with the One you Love." Parties are oriented toward couples and select singles; single women have historically been welcomed and comped, while single men are admitted by pre-approval only. Past gatherings have featured themed formats, and confirmed amenities at the last documented event (May 2022, Whittier, CA) include a live DJ, BYOB with mixers provided, food and snacks, lockers, and multiple playrooms. Event announcements are made through the hosts' profiles on Kasidie, SDC, SLS, and Lifestyle Lounge (all under 'Swinghearts') and on Instagram at @swinghearts.cpl and @swinghearts.socal. All attendance is invitation-only with prior contact required. Prospective guests must text 562.230.3195 or email Swingheartz@yahoo.com and include a profile name and a photo to receive a response. The site carries a 'Former Party Host!' label; the last independently confirmed event dates to May 2022, and a June 2024 podcast interview is the most recent indication of continued engagement.

Valentines in Niagara (VIN)

Niagara Falls, Ontario

Event Organizer

Valentines in Niagara (VIN) is an annual lifestyle convention staged in Niagara Falls, Ontario every February, organized by Tabota Events and running continuously since 2007. It operates as a complete hotel takeover of a luxury resort with an enclosed indoor tropical waterpark — the entire property reserved exclusively for attendees — drawing more than 200 couples per year from across Canada and the United States. The event bills itself as Canada's largest swingers lifestyle convention and sells out every year without exception. The host venue is an upscale resort minutes from the falls, with an indoor waterpark featuring a pool, two hot tubs, and poolside lounging, plus award-winning gourmet dining and bistro-style snacks served in a courtyard setting. The weekend runs to more than 20 programmed activities: 60- to 90-minute seminars and workshops — some informational, some with demonstrations, some fully hands-on — on topics including tantric sex, erotic photography, and intimacy skills. Afternoon events include body painting, pole dancing, and a couples speed dating session. Evening entertainment in the Oak Room has featured comedians, burlesque performers, and a hypnotist. Two themed dances anchor the nights: Friday's Red & White Your Hearts Delight party unfolds inside the waterpark itself, and Saturday's Mardi Gras night is the weekend's wildest evening. A vendor marketplace runs throughout, and two dedicated play spaces operate both nights — the Penthouse Playroom for open couples' exploration, and a Kinky Play Area equipped for bondage and sensation play. Pool parties are clothing-optional throughout. The core weekend runs Friday through Saturday, with an optional Thursday night pre-party available as an add-on. Pricing for 2027 in Canadian dollars, excluding HST: an event pass for a couple is CAD $398; pass with two nights in a standard room is CAD $968; poolside or wing-room upgrades add CAD $298; the Thursday pre-party is an additional CAD $229. A mandatory cash-only party credit of $100 per person is collected at check-in and is redeemable for food and drink anywhere in the hotel. Credit card payments carry a 6% surcharge. The event is open to couples and unaccompanied women only — single men are not admitted. Minimum age is 19. Advance booking through tabotaevents.com is required; event-only passes are available for guests staying off-site.

TABOTA Events

Toronto, Ontario

Event Organizer

TABOTA Events is a Toronto-based lifestyle event organizer that has run couples-focused takeovers and getaways across Canada since 2007. Rather than operating a single venue, TABOTA produces a rotating slate of ticketed events, including the Halloween-themed Monster Bash hotel takeover in Niagara Falls, the outdoor Teddy Bare Picnic clothing-optional camping weekend, the Valentines in Niagara convention, and the seasonal Sandy Bottoms Resort in Central Ontario. The company is run by the same team behind The O Zone, an established Toronto swingers club. Each TABOTA event takes over its venue entirely, whether a hotel, campground, or resort, creating an adults-only space with DJ-driven dance floors, themed lounges, clothing-optional pool areas, and dedicated play rooms staffed by event hosts. Photography and phone use are banned in event spaces, and organizers emphasize enthusiastic consent, on-site security, and guest privacy, with pseudonym use common among attendees. Events are couples-only (male-female or female-female pairs); single men are not admitted, though single women may attend select dates. Entry is 19+ and ticketed in advance. Monster Bash pricing, for example, runs from roughly $169 per person for weekend access up to $439 per person for a two-night hotel package, plus tax, with a mandatory per-person credit for food and drinks due at check-in. Tickets are sold through tabotaevents.com and its event-specific sites, and organizers note that events routinely sell out weeks in advance.

Lux Velvet

Ottawa, Ontario

Roving Events / Pop-Up

Lux Velvet is an Ottawa-based sex-positive party collective founded in December 2018 by Nicole Murphy and Alexandria Nuttal — two queer women who set out to build a non-monogamous community where women, LGBTQ+ people, and those new to open relationships could gather without the unsafe or exclusionary atmospheres they had encountered at established adult venues. Female-owned and operated, the collective welcomes swingers, polyamorous individuals and couples, people in open relationships, and the broadly curious, organized around consent, vetting, and discretion. Rather than occupying a fixed club space, Lux Velvet rotates through hotels, private bars, breweries, and private venues across Ottawa; the membership skews toward the 25–45 age range, though all adults 19+ are eligible to attend. The collective runs two distinct event formats. Public Mixers and themed Dance Parties — held approximately every other month at rotating Ottawa venues — are open to anyone 19+ and deliberately social in tone: music is kept at conversational volume and past editions have included art nights with professional nude models, game nights, and themed dance parties, as well as collaborations with other Ottawa sex-positive venues. Members-only play parties are a separate, invite-only tier hosted at vetted private venues, with location details shared only with ticketed members. Founders Nicole and Alexandria are present at every event and are available to members throughout the evening. The collective has partnered with adult wellness brands including Lelo, Liberator, and ScreamingO. Mixer tickets are priced at approximately C$15–C$20 in advance and C$20–C$25 at the door, with a discounted member rate; members-only play-party tickets are priced separately, typically C$45–C$65+ per event. Annual membership costs C$65 plus tax and requires attending a Mixer first, then completing a no-cost 30-minute video vetting call with one of the founders. Members sign a legally binding consent-and-confidentiality waiver, photography and recording devices are prohibited at all events, and a one-strike policy applies to all rule violations. Accessibility varies by host venue and is disclosed on each individual event listing.

The Playground RI

Providence, RI

Private House Party

The Playground RI is a weekly lifestyle house party run out of a converted three-family home in Providence's Oakland Avenue Historic District, operated by hosts Eddy and Viv Badd of BBadd Entertainment. Spread across four floors and roughly 4,000 square feet, the venue mixes themed social spaces with dedicated play areas: the ground floor opens with a meet-and-greet lounge alongside a Wild West room, a Pirate room, and a kink-themed Red Room. The second floor holds a dance floor with a stripper pole and four more playrooms. The third floor is towel-and-robe only, with two private rooms, a glory hole, and an open group play area; the dungeon is fully equipped with two sex swings, a massage table, a Sybian, and a doctor's office with two exam tables. Saturday nights (8 pm-2 am) are the main weekly event, open to couples, single women, and a limited number of single men (21+), with the host managing ratios carefully. Friday Fusion nights run the same hours but tilt toward BDSM and kink and are open to all genders. The hosts personally tour first-timers through the space, answer questions, and make guests feel at home; reviewers consistently describe the atmosphere as friendly and community-driven rather than nightclub-cold. All parties are BYOB, with ice, refrigerators, snacks, sodas, and water provided at no charge. Every room is stocked with condoms, lube, and clean sheets. Lockers are available on the third floor. The venue is 420-friendly outdoors. Attendance is RSVP-only — no walk-ins; the full address is shared only upon booking confirmation.

Hungry Cat Promotions

Belfast, Northern Ireland

Event Organizer

Belfast-based events company offering the boldest social events for open-minded souls. Hungry Cat Promotions invites you to connect, explore and indulge in unforgettable, sex-positive nights with style and intention, welcoming straight, bi, gay, trans, swingers, kinksters and poly folk alike.

Escapades New England

Providence, RI

Event Organizer

Escapades New England is a Providence-based lifestyle event group that has built a loyal following across Rhode Island and Massachusetts since its founding. Rather than operating a fixed club, the organizers take over Platforms Dance Club — a nightclub at 165 Poe St in Providence — for recurring themed parties, blending a nightclub energy with on-site play spaces including an open play area and a dungeon setup within the venue. The calendar runs on two tiers: regular takeover parties throughout the year, priced at $60–80 per couple (never more), and two flagship annual events that draw attendees from across New England. The Annual Midsummer Nights’ Wet Dream Foam Party, held at the end of July, is billed as the largest summer lifestyle event in New England and described by the organizers as a ‘Hedo-style’ party. The Erotic Masquerade Ball follows every September or October. Events are listed and ticketed through the SLS, SDC, and SwingTowns platforms. The organizers emphasize a newcomer-friendly atmosphere, noting they actively work to make first-timers feel at ease — a philosophy shaped by their own experience attending their first party. The ethos is summed up on their site as ‘confidence, class, and respect.’ Payment is accepted as cash or Venmo at the door, and attendees must present a verified screen name from one of the partner lifestyle platforms.

Camelot Social Club

Charlotte, NC

Event Organizer

Camelot Social Club is a Charlotte, North Carolina lifestyle organization built around monthly hotel-takeover parties rather than a fixed clubhouse. Founded to bring the swinging lifestyle "back stronger than ever" to the Charlotte area, the group holds affordable, safe, and controlled parties where couples and like-minded singles can dress as sexy as they want and socialize freely. Events rotate through area hotels and venues — recent parties have included takeovers at properties like the Comfort Inn in Kings Mountain, NC — with themed nights such as the "Erotic Summer Luau," a tropical-attire party pairing a room block with an evening of lifestyle socializing. The club's long-term goal is to establish a permanent, on-premises venue that members can call home; in the meantime, it relies on turnout and word-of-mouth at its monthly events to build toward that goal. Entry to events requires a signed liability waiver on file for every attendee, completed once via an online SmartWaiver form before a person's first party, and tickets are typically sold in advance online. Camelot Social Club maintains an active web presence with a running events calendar, a news/updates section, and a links/deals page for partner venues and discounts. The organization is reachable by email and Instagram rather than a listed phone line, and communicates event logistics — including hotel booking links and room blocks — directly through individual event pages on its site.

IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG)

New York, NY

Event Organizer

IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG) is a Northeast-based lifestyle event production outfit run by couple-hosts Maddy and Joe, drawing on a roster of experienced DJs, performers, comics, and venue operators whose sensibility blends Brazilian, Latin, Caribbean, and American swinger culture. Rather than maintaining a fixed club, IPG takes over entire hotels -- typically in Scranton, PA, conveniently off Highway 81 -- for full two-day weekends, regularly drawing 150-200 couples per event. Hotel room blocks are negotiated at roughly $119-139 per night with a two-night minimum, and the hotel staff are described as extremely lifestyle friendly. The all-day format means guests checking in Friday afternoon have access to the heated indoor pool and surrounding amenities well before the night main events begin. Each event weekend follows a structured rhythm. Friday evening opens with naughty trivia (6:30-7:45 PM), a meet-and-greet, then a DJ dance party running to midnight, followed by a pool party until 2-3 AM. Saturday layers on afternoon speed dating, kink demos, poolside games, and Swingo (a bingo variant), before a pre-party gathering at 6 PM and a main event -- typically a comedy show or costumed contest -- at 8:45 PM sharp, with themed playrooms and a potluck after-party floor-crawl from midnight onward, closing with a pool-and-desserts wind-down at 4 AM. The crowd skews friendly and repeating; reviews consistently flag the hosts personal floor presence and the unusually respectful atmosphere among attendees. Preference bracelets issued at check-in (green: full swap; yellow: soft swap; purple: tame; red: bisexual) take the guesswork out of navigation. IPG also co-hosts at external venues, including a recurring bi/lingerie night at The Kink Lair, and an annual Pride Fest kink/fetish hotel takeover.

Illuminaughty Albuquerque

Unverified

Albuquerque, NM

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Albuquerque is the local New Mexico chapter of Illuminaughty, a membership-based lifestyle events network with chapters in more than 40 U.S. cities. As of mid-2026, the Albuquerque chapter is still in a pre-launch, member-recruitment phase: its own site states the group "is preparing to launch exclusive lifestyle cocktail mixers and private swinger parties" and that organizers "just need a few more members signed up" before scheduling a first local event. There is no fixed clubhouse -- as in other Illuminaughty markets, parties would be held at private venues disclosed only to ticket holders once a schedule exists. Network-wide, Illuminaughty runs two event formats: Tease Cocktail Mixers held in reserved sections of bars and restaurants, and private parties hosted in rented or member-owned homes, apartments, or estates that are decorated and staffed for the night. Standard parties feature a themed dress code, a private security team, a set arrival window followed by a group consent-and-rules talk, and multiple play spaces that can include a group room and light bondage or kink equipment, though advanced BDSM such as heavy impact, breath, fire, or blood play is not permitted. These are documented network practices published on Illuminaughty's national site; Albuquerque-specific venues and setups are not yet public, since no local party has been announced or hosted. Membership is free but requires an application with photos, and approval isn't guaranteed; once approved, members receive event invitations for whichever region they follow, including Albuquerque. Network events are typically open to couples, single women, and a small, gender-balanced number of vetted single men -- roughly two to four per event -- with solo men lacking a Single Man ticket turned away by security. Parties are BYOB, with mixers and non-alcoholic drinks provided; phones and cameras are banned once the consent talk begins, and late arrivals outside the posted window aren't admitted.

Illuminaughty Seattle

Seattle, WA

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Seattle is the local chapter of Illuminaughty, a national curated lifestyle brand that has hosted private swinger parties and cocktail mixers since 2022. Rather than operating from a fixed clubhouse, it runs monthly events for the Seattle and Tacoma area, drawing an ethically non-monogamous crowd of couples and singles roughly in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Attendance is restricted to approved members: applicants submit photos and a written application, and there is no membership fee, though not everyone is accepted. Events fall into two formats. Tease Cocktail Mixers are held in reserved sections of local bars or restaurants as a low-key way for members to meet. Private parties — the core of the brand — take place at rented private residences ranging from houses to high-rise apartments to larger estates, decorated and lit to set an intentional mood, typically hosting 40 to 80 members with professional security on site. Rooms are set up for a range of experiences, from massage tables and group-play spaces to light bondage or kink setups, though kink is described as a secondary element rather than the main focus. Most night parties run from around 8pm to 2am, with an arrival window (roughly 8:00–9:30pm) after which doors close for a mandatory opening talk on consent and house rules; latecomers are turned away. Parties are BYOB, with mixers and non-alcoholic drinks supplied, and towels, wipes, condoms, lube and massage oil provided. Each event has a set dress theme that members are expected to follow. Tickets and the private venue address are released only to approved, logged-in ticket holders, with the exact location shared on the day of the event.

Stopgap

San Francisco, CA

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Opened in April 2024 inside the SoMa building that once housed the SF Citadel, Stopgap is a turnkey kink venue that bridges San Francisco's leather history with its present-day scene. The fully accessible ground floor holds social areas, lockers, two bathrooms, and open play spaces fitted with hardpoints, while a staircase descends to a 3,100-square-foot basement dungeon stocked with equipment recovered from the Citadel's collection alongside newer pieces -- crosses, benches, tables, bondage chairs, cages, and at least 20 suspension hardpoints with floor mats for rope work. The venue is run by the AfterDark Events team, a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled-led organisation, and doubles as a rental space for third-party producers. Stopgap's own flagship is House Party, an inclusive open-play night held on the first Friday of every month, alongside weekly open-dungeon sessions, the Wrapt rope jam on fourth Mondays, Society of Janus play parties on second Saturdays, and rotating themed events such as Board Games & Bondage.

Nightshade Halifax

Halifax, Nova Scotia

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Nightshade is a series of kinky themed costume parties held periodically in Halifax, Nova Scotia, drawing on more than a decade of history since its launch in February 2013. Run by organiser Chris Awesome, the events sit deliberately at the threshold between mainstream nightlife and the alternative lifestyle scene — approachable enough for curious first-timers, while incorporating genuine BDSM and fetish elements. Thousands of attendees spanning newcomers, lifestyle veterans, and the simply curious have passed through its doors, and the series has become a fixture of Halifax's alternative community calendar. Nightshade is not a fixed-venue club but a roving event series that takes over the 3rd-floor ballroom of the Best Western Plus Chocolate Lake Hotel (250 St Margarets Bay Rd, Halifax NS) for the night. Each party carries a distinct theme — past and upcoming events include Wasteland, Kinky Colours, Dark Masquerade, and Kinky Halloween — with resident DJs Gyrrrl on Decks and DJ Mike G spinning pop, rock, and top-40 sets across the dance floor. A dungeon corner is a consistent feature: heavy-duty bondage furniture staffed by Dungeon Masters and Monitors who can instruct guests and maintain safety. Body painting stations appear at select events. The hotel bar is cash-only and hotel-operated, with domestic beer and well shots at $7 CAD, premium spirits and imported beers at $8, and soft drinks at $4. Events run roughly 9pm-1am on Saturday nights (approximately four to six times a year), and advance tickets are $25 plus tax — many events sell out weeks ahead. At-the-door tickets, when available, are $32 plus tax. Valid government-issued photo ID confirming age 19+ is required at the door. Personal cameras and recording devices are prohibited; credentialed event photographers may attend by prior arrangement. Coat check is $3. The Kinky Colours event is part of the Halifax Pride Festival calendar, and hotel room blocks at negotiated group rates are offered for each event. A volunteer program is available for those who want to attend but need help covering the cost.

Illuminaughty LA

Los Angeles, CA

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Illuminaughty LA is the Los Angeles chapter of a national members-only lifestyle events brand rather than a single fixed clubhouse — it organizes private, invitation-only parties and cocktail mixers for non-monogamous couples and singles at rotating venues around the city. The Los Angeles chapter has been running since 2022, drawing couples and singles roughly 21 to 49 to private homes and rented estates in neighborhoods including Hollywood, Beverly Hills, and Bel Air. Membership is free but application-based: prospective members submit photos and a bio and are individually vetted before being approved to buy event tickets. Parties take place in privately owned or rented residences — anything from a cozy single-family house to a high-rise apartment or a sprawling estate — dressed with curated music, lighting, and decor, and staffed by private security who check IDs and tickets at the door. Multiple rooms are set up for different kinds of play, including massage tables and group-play spaces, and some venues include light bondage equipment, though kink is not the focus and advanced practices such as heavy impact, breath, fire, or blood play are not allowed. Most Los Angeles private parties host 40 to 80 members, with occasional larger mansion parties or destination retreats drawing 150 or more. Events split into Tease Cocktail Mixers, held in a reserved area of a bar or restaurant, and private play parties, which typically run 8pm to 2am (or 2pm to midnight for all-day soirees) behind a strict arrival window; doors close once it ends and late arrivals aren't admitted without prior arrangement. Parties are BYOB, with mixers, snacks, towels, condoms, and lube provided; dress code follows each event's theme, usually cocktail attire or suits, and repeated non-compliance can lead to membership cancellation. Photos and video are banned once the pre-party consent talk begins, the exact venue address is released only to ticket holders on the day of the event, and single men are capped and gender-balanced against single-women ticket sales.

MW Euphoria (Midwest Euphoria)

Shakopee, MN

Event Organizer / Rotating Hotel & Venue Takeovers

MW Euphoria, also known as Midwest Euphoria, is a Shakopee, Minnesota–based lifestyle event organizer and membership community that bills itself on its own site as "The Midwest's Leading Lifestyle Party." Rather than operating a single fixed clubhouse, it runs as an adult social-networking and ticketing platform on the Modern Lifestyle network, organizing recurring hotel-takeover parties for its membership alongside affiliated cruises and resort getaways for couples and singles in the swinging/lifestyle community. Because the model is built around renting entire hotel properties rather than keeping one venue, the specific hotel changes from event to event; past parties have taken over properties such as the Baymont by Wyndham in Shakopee. Street addresses for individual events are withheld from the public and shown only to logged-in, vetted members. On-premise play is permitted, and the structure functions more like a private membership network than a walk-in nightclub. Joining requires a free profile with photos and a short write-up; membership categories include Couple, Female, FF Couple, Male, MM Couple, and Other/GNC. House rules call for enthusiastic consent before touching, require couples to arrive and depart together, ban cameras and recording devices outright, and enforce a zero-tolerance policy on drugs and prostitution. Single ladies are described as highly respected, with harassment or stalking grounds for suspension. Pricing and schedule are event-specific rather than fixed weekly hours.

Black Diamonds Swinger Club

Unverified

Alexandria, VA

Event Organizer

Black Diamonds Swinger Club is a sex-positive lifestyle community rooted in Alexandria, Virginia, and operating across the broader DMV region — Washington DC, Maryland, and Northern Virginia. Founded as a space primarily targeted towards those of African American descent and other people of color, it occupies a rare and intentional niche in the DMV lifestyle scene, centering Black and POC attendees within a safe, consensual, and sane environment. The club's promotional partner is DNAKinks LLC, and its events are coordinated via a centralized Linktree that links out to ticketing, social media, and booking channels. Unlike a fixed brick-and-mortar venue, Black Diamonds operates as an event-based club, hosting parties at rotating or private locations across the DMV rather than from a single permanent address. This pop-up model keeps the community tight-knit and screened. The Instagram account (@blackdiamonds6219) maintains over 24,000 followers, while the Facebook page has accumulated more than 4,100 likes from the Alexandria and wider DC metro community. All booking and event discovery is handled through the Linktree hub (linktr.ee/BlackDiamondsSwingerClub) and associated social channels, with no walk-in or permanent physical storefront publicly listed.

The Swirl Events

Seattle, WA

Event Organizer

The Swirl Events is a lifestyle and swingers events group serving the greater Seattle, Washington area, founded in 2021. A 2022 community profile described it as one of the Seattle area's first lifestyle groups owned and operated by people of color and allies, positioning itself as a culturally diverse, inclusive space within the regional non-monogamy and swinger scene. That same account placed the group's members-only venue in Kent, WA, describing a compact space with nine designated play spaces and a sex swing, alongside in-house programming such as karaoke nights, an erotic poetry open-mic, and kink-themed nights. Guests were encouraged to dress to impress rather than dress down, giving the space a glammed-up, party-first atmosphere alongside its play areas. Historically, parties ran on a biweekly Friday/Saturday schedule: Friday nights mixed members and non-members at a themed social before shifting to a members-only afterparty after midnight, while Saturdays ran as a members-only dance-and-play night. Membership was listed at $10 per month or $90 per year in a December 2025 snapshot of the group's own site. As of mid-2026 that site is no longer serving its normal content, so current hours, address, and pricing should be treated as historical until independently re-verified.

PLUR Productions / Studio PLUR

Vancouver, British Columbia

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PLUR Productions is Vancouver's longest-running sex-positive and alternative-fetish event production company, operating under the guiding philosophy of Peace, Love, Unity, and Respect. Founded by ScottyHotty (Scott BreitKreuz) and tracing its roots to Club8X6 — formerly Vancouver's only privately licensed members-only sex venue — PLUR has grown into an independent producer serving the city's fetish, kink, BDSM, swinger, burner, rave, and LGBTQ+ communities. The company celebrated its 12th annual Mad Hatter's Player Ball in May 2026 and operates as a private membership club in which the door fee for any event constitutes a day membership, consistent with the Supreme Court of Canada's recognition of consensual adult activity in private clubs. Events take place across rotating venues: large-format ticketed parties at licensed nightclubs including The Penthouse, warehouse-style PLURHAUS nights at private locations, the VANTANIOR techno series at a Railtown venue equipped with a Funktion-One sound system, and seasonal PLUR Mansion house parties. All events feature clearly marked sex-on-premise (SOP) play areas alongside social lounge zones, DJ music, stage performances, and a licensed full bar at ticketed venues. Complimentary towels, condoms, lubricants, and lockers are provided with entry. Running parallel to these events is Studio PLUR, a privately bookable dungeon and social space with a 40-guest maximum — outfitted with a St. Andrew's cross, three styled benches, a rope-suspension rig, a floor cage, a corner bar with fridge, pro-audio sound, and a walk-in rainfall shower. Tickets for public events are sold in advance via Eventbrite; per-person pricing ranges from $35 to $40 CAD with no differential between genders or attendance types. Site memberships are available at $30 CAD for six months or $40 CAD for one year, though the door fee alone grants day membership. All guests must be 19 or older. Before entry, PLUR's Cupid consent hosts walk each guest through the club's Top Ten Rules of Consent and issue a consent stamp. Open photography and video recording — including mobile phone use — are prohibited throughout all venues. The recurring iCandy Meet and Mingle, held every second Friday, provides first-timers with a venue tour, a lifestyle presentation, and conversation with experienced PLUR attendees.

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A multi-genre, queer, sex-positive rave with activism at its core. POC and sex worker-led, centring historically marginalised communities with play spaces, workshops and performances across genres including Dancehall, Afrobeats, House and UKG.

Jo & David's Swingers Parties

Chamcook, New Brunswick

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Jo and David's is a private house-party operation run by Jo (Joanne, Canadian) and David (British), a couple who hosted lifestyle and swingers events in the UK and Spain from 1999 to 2019 before relocating to New Brunswick in 2020 and continuing parties in Canada. Their home in Chamcook — a small community just outside Saint Andrews on the shores of Passamaquoddy Bay — is the sole venue. Having hosted over 600 swingers events across two continents, Jo and David operate explicitly as private hosts rather than a club: attendance requires creating a profile on the website, applying to the guestlist, and receiving approval before booking. Average attendance runs around 60 people per event. The house spans 3,600 square feet across three floors. The basement holds a 600-square-foot self-service bar with seating for 20-plus, a large-screen TV, a changing room with individual lockers, over 50 bath towels on shelves, and a playroom with a king-size bed. The main floor contains the kitchen and dining area — a designated safe zone where no sexual activity is permitted — a finger buffet served from 6 pm, a lounge seating up to ten that doubles as an exhibitionist playroom, and a playroom with two queen beds. The top floor has two further playrooms and a bathroom. Outside there is a fire pit, a smoking shack, a back deck, off-road parking, and a seasonal hot tub. Over 200 towels are distributed throughout the house, and condoms are stocked in baskets in every playroom and at the bar. All drinks — spirits, beer, wine, soft drinks, and hot beverages — are provided free, funded by party sponsors. Parties run on Saturdays from 6 pm to approximately 1 am. Two events typically alternate each month: a Greedy Girls party (open to women seeking male or female attention, with men in a supporting role) and a Couples and Singles party (open to mixed-sex couples plus single ladies and a limited number of single men). The 2026 contribution rates are CA$80 per couple (married, engaged, or cohabiting), CA$125 per couple (attending together for the event only), CA$40 for single ladies, and CA$75 for single men. Entry is by advance booking only — no walk-ins. Single men must pay within one hour of booking or the reservation is cancelled. No cameras or recording devices are permitted anywhere on the property.

Sinn-Ergy Events

Washington, DC

Event Organizer

Sinn-Ergy Events has been running members-only lifestyle parties across the Washington D.C., Virginia, and Maryland area since 2008. The organization operates on a roving model — there is no fixed venue. Instead, the exact location of each event is disclosed only to paid ticket holders, approximately one week before the date. Depending on the event and venue secured, gatherings range from intimate meet-and-greets to full-scale productions hosting 50 to 500-plus guests, drawing attendees from across the country and internationally. The event mix spans several formats. Sip & Sinn Meet & Greets serve as lower-key social mixers, while the flagship themed events — Halloween, Midsummer's Night Dream, New Year's Eve hotel takeovers — are styled as immersive productions with custom decor, themed dress codes, and sets from national and international DJs. BYOB is standard across events, with bartenders on staff to pour and provide drinkware. VIP table packages are available at select events. The crowd skews younger than many comparable lifestyle events — the site describes the core demographic as mid-20s to mid-30s, within a broader age range. Single women are admitted on a selective basis; single men are not accepted. The organization also runs educational seminars and workshops for members on lifestyle topics.

Orlando Swingers Club

Orlando, FL

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Orlando Swingers Club has been running lifestyle parties since April 20, 2000, and now operates as a mobile event host rather than a single fixed venue, staging its gatherings at rented clubs, resorts, and hotels around the Orlando area — most recently based out of 727 Conley St, with a move to the 32801 zip underway (unconfirmed). Party themes rotate through swingers nights, gang bangs, meet-and-greets, orgy and group-sex events, and BDSM sessions, alongside recurring BBC/BWC/BCC theme parties, giving the calendar a broader spread than a typical single-room club. The operation doubles as a lifestyle travel agency and promoter, cross-promoting other hosts' parties for free in exchange for an invite, and runs an affiliated adult store alongside the event side of the business.

The Menagerie

Brighton, East Sussex

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The Menagerie is a private event series in Brighton for the ethically non-monogamous and kink communities, centred on connection, consent, and curiosity. Welcoming all genders and sexualities, it offers sensual socials open to everyone and curated play parties for vetted guests in a queer-positive, body-positive, judgement-free space.

Eros Events

Redmond, WA

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Eros Events is a private, members-only, on-premise lifestyle group based in Redmond, Washington, operating continuously since early 2003 under its original name, Redmond Ranch. The club describes itself as an inclusive community that welcomes members regardless of race, gender, gender identity, or sexuality, and builds its culture around explicit, enthusiastic consent. Parties are held at a home-like retreat center set on several acres, combining a heated indoor pool and hot tub (swimwear optional) with a DJ-driven dance floor and brass pole, a voyeur room, and semi-private and open group play areas. Two detached cabins supplement the main house — a cozy, semi-private cabin with a loft and king beds, and a larger cabin used for bigger groups and light BDSM play. The property has recently been refreshed with a new roof, paint, carpet, and a renovated pool and hot tub. Evening parties run on Saturday nights roughly once a month (with occasional Fridays), 8pm to midnight with newcomer orientation at 7pm, while swim parties happen on Sundays one to two times a month from 1 to 5pm with orientation at noon. Entry requires annual membership ($30 per person, or $10 for a single-party pass) plus a per-party charge of $70 per couple or $40 per person, with identical rates for all singles since 2023; cash only. First-timers must complete an orientation and show valid state ID, and alcohol, marijuana, phones, and cameras are all prohibited on the property.

Lavish Lifestyle Events

Hauppauge, NY

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Lavish Lifestyle Events is an off-premise lifestyle event company run by Cynthia and Ron, the couple who operated Club Manor -- Long Island's premier off-premise swingers club -- for over a decade before closing it in September 2015 and pivoting to a travelling event format. The operation has since been fully rebranded as Lavish Lifestyle Events, expanding from its Long Island base to South Florida, with events now targeted across Palm Beach, Broward, and Dade counties at rotating private venues. All events are RSVP-only with no walk-in admittance. An online form collects names, email, and phone number; couples must list both partners. A discount applies to early RSVPs but expires at noon on the day of each event. Event dates are announced via the website and a newsletter, and the schedule rotates -- prospective guests are encouraged to check back regularly as upcoming parties are revealed on a rolling basis. Both couples and singles are welcome. The tone throughout is upscale and low-drama: themed soirees with crafted cocktails, curated music, and a no-nonsense social atmosphere. Cynthia and Ron position the brand on nearly two decades of community-building credibility from the Club Manor years. Personal information collected at RSVP is kept strictly confidential per the site's privacy policy and never shared with outside parties.

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Daytime lifestyle parties for couples and select singles, held in upscale hotel suites. Parties typically run from afternoon into early evening with intimate guest lists of 20 or fewer, offering a relaxed and sociable alternative to late-night events.

Illuminaughty (San Francisco)

San Francisco, CA

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Illuminaughty is not a fixed-address club but a roving, invitation-only party series that has been lighting up the Bay Area since early 2024. Events land in private residences — member-owned homes, upscale rental estates, even multi-thousand-square-foot Victorian mansions — with the exact address released only to ticket holders on the day of the event. Capacity ranges from intimate 40-person gatherings in single-family houses to 150-plus blowout mansion parties, and each one is themed: past concepts have included Great Gatsby, Neon, Masquerade, and Jungle, with outfit inspiration posted on the event page beforehand. Membership is free but selective. Applicants submit four clear photos, a bio, and essay-style answers on consent and intentions; approval typically comes within three days, and rejections arrive as silence. The crowd skews young — mostly late twenties to early forties — and events are open to couples, single women, non-binary guests, and a small, carefully balanced number of single men. Parties are BYOB, with mixers, water, snacks, and champagne flutes provided. Protection is stocked in every play area. Doors open for an arrival window (typically 8:00–9:30 pm for night parties), after which no one is admitted. A mandatory consent talk kicks off the evening before any play begins; phones are forbidden once it starts. Multiple bedrooms are staged for open-door play, and rooms may include massage tables, group-play beds, or light BDSM equipment. Private security staffs every event, and a coat-check area is provided.

Club SINZ

Salisbury, MA

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Perched on the second and third floors of Ten's Show Club on the North Shore of Massachusetts, Club SINZ has carved out a reputation as New England's premier couples lifestyle destination since its founding in 2004. The windowless, 4,000-plus square-foot ultra-lounge on Salisbury's North End Boulevard sits about an hour north of Boston, drawing a membership base that now numbers over 15,000 couples from across the region. The club's motto — La Passion Avant Tout, Passion Above All — is backed by multiple top-shelf bars, luxurious lounge seating, video screens, dance poles, a dance cage, and a pocket billiards table. Events run on a bi-weekly Saturday schedule, doors opening at 8:30 PM through 1:00 AM, with larger holiday parties drawing 300 to 500 guests. The club is strictly off-premise: no sexual activity is permitted on-site, keeping the atmosphere in meet-and-greet territory. Membership begins with a free Basic Membership application; Gold Members receive discounted cover charges and may bring a guest couple or single female for free. A members-only inner sanctum called SINZ Black — a custom-built invitation-only lounge with an eight-person circular bar and 300-year-old Chinese door decor — exists for the most loyal regulars. SINZ.NET, the club's private social network, allows prospective members to connect with thousands of New England couples before committing to their first visit.

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A friendly swingers club in Loughborough, Leicestershire, with a great atmosphere and regular themed party nights. Doors open at 7pm with affordable annual membership, offering a welcoming environment for couples and singles alike.

Play Champagne (The Champagne Club)

Columbus, OH

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Play Champagne is one of the Midwest’s largest lifestyle event organizers, operating as a traveling party producer rather than a fixed-address club. Founded and still run by owners Melissa and Eric, the operation specializes in complete hotel takeovers — booking every guestroom, the convention space, restaurant, and bar — at full-service Hilton-brand hotels across Ohio, Michigan, Indiana, and Illinois, with regular Las Vegas editions and annual trips to Hedonism II in Jamaica. Flagship venues have included the Embassy Suites in Blue Ash (Cincinnati), Livonia MI, Indianapolis, Glenview IL, and Las Vegas. Typical weekends draw 1,200–1,600 attendees and span two nights, with a Friday check-in at 3 pm and checkout Monday morning. The programming is unusually dense for a hotel event: a five-story atrium main stage with award-winning lifestyle DJs, professional sound, lighting, and laser rigs; a 24-hour indoor pool (topless optional); a vendor showcase; meet-and-greet karaoke; drag shows; live bands; and a 360-degree video photo booth. Educational content includes couples sensory, Kama Sutra, and NURU massage classes, plus BDSM demonstrations, all with separate sign-up slots. Play areas include group and semi-private themed playrooms (typically in dedicated ballrooms), a Porn Play Escape group room, and an expanded Impact room for impact play opening nightly from around 11 pm. The famous top-floor afterparty runs from 1 am to dawn. Complimentary drinks are served nightly during a comp-bar window, and a full hot breakfast buffet with omelet station is included each morning. The crowd skews inclusive and body-positive, spanning roughly ages 28–55, and Play Champagne explicitly welcomes all body types and demographics. The vibe is upscale nightclub rather than underground party: VIP table service with reserved front-and-center seating is available, and off-duty police officers are stationed throughout the hotel. Dress code is dress-to-impress rather than enforced, though themed costume participation is strongly encouraged. The whole-hotel BYOB policy means guests bring their own alcohol to guest rooms and carry it in a covered tumbler into event spaces; a hotel cash bar is also on site.