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On-Premise Club

R3tro Club was a lifestyle venue at 33 Midland Road in Walsall, West Midlands, billing itself as 'The Midlands Premier Adult Venue' and a club 'for the liberated generation.' The premises at WS1 3QQ have been in use since at least August 2009, when the club relocated from an earlier site. Its current operating status is unconfirmed: the registered company R3TRO CLUB LIMITED was dissolved in August 2013, the club's own domain has since been taken over by an unrelated gambling affiliate, and the most recent independently verifiable third-party reviews date from January 2019. The venue was purpose-built for the lifestyle scene, with eight private playrooms alongside communal play areas, a jacuzzi with side seating, a games area with pool table and sofas, a separate chill-out room, changing rooms with private lockers, a double unisex shower area, a smoking area, and a refreshment zone. The policy was bring-your-own-drink, with soft drinks and snacks available on site. Third-party reviewers from 2012 through 2019 consistently described the interior as clean and well-maintained, with the exterior drawing occasional comments about its appearance. The atmosphere was described across multiple sources as warm and inclusive, with the club particularly noted for welcoming trans guests through its recurring Taboo Unleashed nights. Other events included greedy girls parties and fetish evenings.

Red Room Nashville

Nashville, TN

Members-Only Event Host

Red Room Nashville describes itself as “an exclusive, members-only forum” that holds private in-person events. It hosts weekly themed events at a partner host venue, and its rules mention Saturday events and a Newbie Night on Fridays. The host venue offers “an amazing area to socialize, dance, have more private small group interactions, or lounge together in larger groups.” Features include a professional DJ and large LED dance floor, VIP and reserved tables with soft seating, a ladies-only dressing suite, lounge areas and private rooms. A designated Couples Play Area is two in, two out, and full nudity is limited to the back play areas; topless is allowed in the main bar and dance-floor area. Couples, single women and single men are admitted, but single men wear a wristband and stay in the bar-side area unless a couple or group invites them elsewhere. Everyone must be an approved member (24-hour approval wait) before buying a ticket, and there are no walk-ins. Guests bring their own drinks, with mixers provided. Dress should suit “an upscale restaurant, high-end nightclub, or special date night,” and management can refuse entry over attire. Rules include asking before touching, keeping activity above the waist in the main area and phones on the table or put away.

Reel One Indy

Indianapolis, IN

On-Premise Club

Reel One Indy describes itself as “a private club available to members and guests” and as a lifestyle club in Indianapolis. Its site calls it female owned and says it has operated in the same location since 1992 on three floors. Couples, single men and single women are admitted, all 21 or older. The club names a lobby, a patio that is out of public view, pull-out couches on the main and bottom floors, a theater room in the basement, lofts by the pool table, a locker room, phone lockers and overnight rooms, with designated smoking and vaping areas. Overnight rooms are first come, first served, with couples and single women given priority and no top-floor overnight rooms for single men. Guests pay only the door fee for their first two visits; after that an active membership is required, and membership applications need at least two full-size photos and the club reserves the right to select members. The club does not sell or serve alcohol, but guests may bring their own, labeled with their name. Clothing is required in the lobby and outside, and phones, smart watches, cameras and recording equipment are not allowed inside. Guests must show valid physical ID, are scanned by a metal detector at every entry, and cannot re-enter after 3am. Drugs, weapons and prostitution are banned.

Richmond Rondezvouz

Richmond, VA

Adult Lifestyle Group

Richmond Rondezvouz for Swingers describes itself as “a local Richmond adult lifestyle group” that welcomes all people and does not discriminate. It holds swinger parties at least twice a month, along with bi parties and peep shows, at the hosts' own home. Parties use a large deck with couches and a fire pit, a large play area and a hot tub, plus a pool for pool parties held as naked or clothing-optional nights. Showers, towels, soap and wipes are provided for cleaning up, and the hosts supply food and non-alcoholic drinks. There is no indoor lodging, but a fenced backyard, outdoor shower and port-a-potty are available to guests who camp overnight. Attendance is by confirmed RSVP only: guests email the organizers the party date and each guest's first name, the address follows once attendance is confirmed, and nobody is admitted who is not on the list. Guests must be 21 or older. Couples, single men and single women are admitted; single men are not charged double but are asked to talk to the male half of a couple first. Alcohol is BYOB with no glass, and entry is cash only. Hats, hoodies, tank tops, jerseys and workout clothes are banned. Breaking house rules (no means no, photography only with consent, no illegal drugs or pay-for-play) means removal without refund.

Risque Vegas Estate

Las Vegas, NV

Risque Estate is a private, members-only lifestyle venue set within a residential property in the Paradise neighborhood of Las Vegas, just minutes from the Strip. Established in 2014, the estate operates as an on-premise swingers club hosting clothing-optional parties Wednesday through Sunday, welcoming couples, singles, and LGBTQ guests aged 21 and over in a BYOB format with snacks and mixers provided. The grounds center on a resort-style heated pool kept at 90 degrees year-round, surrounded by spacious poolside cabanas and block-walled areas for nude sunbathing. Inside, guests find multiple private playrooms, a large group room, a game room with a cheetah-felt pool table, a dance floor with a stripper pole, and a custom Harley-Davidson fitted with a built-in Sybian. Risque Estate emphasizes discretion with secure off-street parking and a membership structure included in the door donation. The estate provides lockers, clean showers, and ample cooler space, while guests are asked to bring their own towels, locks, and beverages. The venue regularly hosts themed events listed through its website and social channels.

Rooftop Resort

Hollywood, FL

Clothing-Optional Lifestyle Hotel & Day Club

Rooftop Resort describes itself as an “adults-only, clothing-optional lifestyle hotel, resort and day club” in Hollywood Beach, and its website says it has been there since 2004. It takes overnight guests and day-pass visitors, and its site lists SDC.com as a partner. The property has a heated rooftop pool and sun deck with ocean and Intracoastal views and a retractable roof, plus video playrooms and a Scandinavian-style sauna that hotel guests can use around the clock. Rooms range from standard and deluxe rooms to Swinging Studio Suites with a ceiling-mounted swing and themed Premier Suites (Purple Passion, Naughty Mermaid, Jeannie In A Bottle) with a love sling. Everyone must be 21 or older with valid government-issued ID and register and check in before entering. Day passes are sold at the resort; weekend stays include event admission, a BYOB bar with set-ups and snacks, and continental breakfast on Saturday and Sunday. Clothing is optional, with a towel required on shared furniture when nude. House rules require consent, bar recording others without permission, and prohibit sexual activity in common areas, excessive intoxication and illegal drugs.

Sandy Bottoms Resort

Barrie, Ontario

Swingers Resort

Sandy Bottoms Resort describes itself as “a distinguished swingers resort and couples retreat” on more than ten acres in Central Ontario, a few hours from Toronto and Ottawa. It is a clothing-optional, adults-only, stay-based resort on a spring-fed lake, with events and activities from spring to fall. The grounds have a sandy beach, floating dock, heated pool, hot tubs, trampoline, diving platform and kayaks, canoes and paddleboards. The Lounge has a fireplace, a serve-your-own BYOB bar and full kitchen facilities, and The Dome is a large covered party space with a dance floor and stage. Lodging ranges from resort-style rooms and cedar villas to a Garden Villa and Casita with private hot tubs, cabins and unserviced camping sites. Only pre-registered guests who have booked are admitted, with no day passes. Couples and single women are welcome and single men are not admitted. Booking runs through a members-only area, and the exact location is emailed after booking. The resort is not licensed, so guests bring their own drinks; glass stays in guest rooms and the Lounge. Nudity is voluntary, phones and cameras are allowed only in guest rooms, and illegal substances are prohibited.

Lifestyle Club

Scarlet Ranch describes itself as “a couples focused lifestyle club”, a private membership organization hosting events at Squirrel Creek Lodge in Littleton, Colorado. It opens Wednesday through Saturday evenings and Sunday daytime, and its About page says it has produced events for over 20 years. The club lists three full service BYOB bars, the Oreads restaurant, indoor and outdoor dance stages, pool and shuffleboard tables, private and semi-private areas, and a locker room and coat check. Outside are rentable cabanas with daybeds and TVs and a tipi with a fire pit. Regular events include Wine and Dine Wednesday, Ladies Night every Thursday and Sunday brunch, plus over 100 themed events a year. Entry is for members aged 21 or over with a valid ID and a signed membership agreement. Newcomers buy a membership at the door or online, attend first on a guest membership, and then face a membership committee review. Single men are admitted on a limited basis and never in groups. Guests bring their own alcohol, leave it with the front-desk receptionist, and the club provides mixers. It asks members to “dress to impress”, with no cut-offs, sneakers, t-shirts, caps or work boots, and bans drugs, weapons, prostitution and cameras, with violations causing immediate removal.

Sensual Pleasures Lifestyle Club (SPLC)

Gatlinburg, TN

On-Premise Club

Sensual Pleasures Lifestyle Club describes itself as “an exclusive, private members-only sanctuary” in East Tennessee and the Smoky Mountains. The club says it was founded in 2021 and has grown into a community of over 1,000 members, and its site speaks to the swinger and fetish communities. It is a full-service lifestyle club and a BYOB venue. The club lists intimate lounges, play spaces and private rooms, and offers a full dinner buffet with appetizers, desserts and unlimited non-alcoholic beverages. Overnight accommodations with a continental breakfast are available by reservation only. Its events include themed parties, educational workshops, live music, stand-up comedy, casino nights, burlesque and drag shows and karaoke, and its site also names a night for bi couples, singles, crossdressers and trans guests. Joining starts with an application: prospective members contact the club directly. Guests bring their own alcoholic drinks and the club provides complimentary mixers. The club says it operates on a strict code of conduct, with respect for each person's boundaries and comfort levels, and that it welcomes members from all backgrounds. No street address is published.

private members club

Shadows Private Club 2.0 describes itself as “a carefully curated experience for couples and singles”. It is a members-only lifestyle club at 2504 50th Ave in Hyattsville, Maryland, open Wednesday through Sunday nights. Its About page says it has run since February 2017. It hosts weekly themed parties including Shadow Play, Glow and Costume Parties, Queen of Spades events and Wet T-Shirt Competitions, with DJ Dolla and guest DJs playing Latin, R&B and Afrobeats. Mixers, ice, cups and water are free, with complimentary finger foods on Friday and Saturday nights. For birthday rentals, it cites “various social spaces throughout the venue” and a layout for conversation and dancing. Everyone must be a member, at least 21 and show a valid state-issued ID, and the club admits single ladies, single men and couples, with up to 10 single men on Saturdays. A five-minute application is typically reviewed the same day, and approved applicants can attend that night. Alcohol is BYOB, entry may be refused to anyone appearing intoxicated at the door, and Saturday dress asks men to avoid sports attire, tank tops, hats and sandals. Phones and recording devices are prohibited, and the membership agreement makes recording, illegal drugs and consent breaches grounds for expulsion or removal.

Shhh Newcastle Swingers Club

Newcastle upon Tyne, Tyne and Wear

On-Premise Club

Shhh Newcastle Swingers Club occupies a multi-storey premises at 85-89 Blandford Street in Newcastle city centre, roughly five minutes' walk from both Newcastle Central rail station and the Tyne and Wear Metro. Operating since 2018 and formerly trading as Shhh... by Base, the club underwent a full refurbishment in 2021 — installing a new jacuzzi, updating the playrooms, and adding a discreet rear entrance — and bills itself as the only venue of its kind in Newcastle upon Tyne. With a stated capacity of 200, the club places a strong emphasis on inclusivity: the space is LGBTQ+-welcoming and explicitly trans-friendly, with reduced or complimentary entry for trans guests on most nights. The venue spans two floors. Downstairs sits a fully licensed bar, a lounge, a dance floor, and spacious changing rooms with secure lockers; upstairs are the playrooms — including a cinema room, private zones, and a dungeon — alongside a sauna, steam room, jacuzzi, an internet room, and an outdoor seating area. First-time visitors receive a guided tour before being issued a membership card and locker key. Reviews describe a clean, no-pressure atmosphere with staff consistently praised for attentiveness to safety and comfort. Complimentary condoms (standard, king-size, and latex-free), lubricant, and dental dams are provided at reception and throughout the bar; the first towel is free and additional towels are £1 each. Overnight stays are available on party and fetish nights, with private or shared rooms at £15 per person and morning refreshments served between 9am and 11am. The club runs Wednesday through Sunday. Wednesday afternoons host a mixed swingers session (couples £20, singles £10); Thursday is a Flip Flop bisex night (couples £10, singles £5, trans guests free); Friday's #FetishFriday admits couples at £10, single women at £5, and single men at £20; Saturday's Swingers Circus is the main weekly event (couples and single men £25, women £10); and Sunday is a men-only play day. On Friday fetish and Saturday nights, guests may supplement the licensed bar with their own alcohol for a £2.50 corkage fee. Membership requires completing an application form and presenting valid photo ID: a driving licence showing the current address is preferred and sufficient alone, while a passport must be accompanied by a utility bill, council tax bill, or bank statement. Before 11pm the dress code is smart and glamorous; after 11pm, access to upstairs play areas requires appropriate attire — lingerie, a wrap, robe, or towel — and trainers, sportswear, and hoodies are prohibited throughout.

Sinn-Ergy Events

Washington, DC

Event Organizer

Sinn-Ergy Events says it puts on “members-only events for select, classy, sexy, fun couples.” It is an event organizer that hosts parties at venues across the District of Columbia, Virginia and Maryland, and its About page says it was founded in 2008. The club lists Sip & Sinn Meet & Greets, “fantasy” themed events and vacations among its events, and says the larger share of its guests are in their mid-20s and 30s. The club says its venues feature extensive decorations and custom lounge areas and play spaces where couples can get to know each other. Its pages describe custom decor and music by national and international DJs at its events, and, depending on the venue, events may draw anywhere from 50 to 500+ guests. The club also runs interactive educational seminars and workshops, and offers VIP tables at many events. Admission is by membership: prospective members apply, and the club says not all applications are approved. Members receive an Eventbrite invitation with a one-time-use link to buy tickets. The events are for couples, select single women may attend, and single men are not accepted. The club’s pages encourage guests to get dressed up and picture men in tuxedos and women in gowns. Some events allow guests to bring their own beverage. Its events page currently lists upcoming events as “TBD”.

Sinners Den

Indio, CA

On-Premise Club

Sinners Den is an on-premise adult lifestyle club in Indio, California, operating as a private, membership-based venue for the swinger and kink community. It welcomes adults 18 and older regardless of body type, ethnicity, or experience level. The street address is not published; confirmed members are sent the location directly before each event. The venue has 17 private bedrooms — five indoors and twelve poolside cabanas — arranged around an enclosed, heated saltwater pool with an adjoining fire pit and smoking area. A separate dungeon room holds a king-size bed, a spreader bar, four tie-down benches, and suspension pulleys, and a dance floor features a stripper pole and stage. The main area includes an all-glass shower with five showerheads, male and female glory holes, and two bars — one indoor, one poolside — serving only mixers, since the club does not sell or supply alcohol. Parties run Saturdays from 9 p.m. to 2 a.m., the only schedule currently published. Entry requires an approved membership application, filed online in advance (including a photo) or completed at an in-person sign-in table before entry. Minimum age is 18, or 21 to bring personal alcohol under the club's BYOB policy. Admission covers food, water, soda, mixers, towels, two sizes of condoms, lubricant, and on-site hostess and security staff; no membership fee or cover charge is published.

SOP Lifestyle Productions

Vancouver, British Columbia

Event Organizer

SOP Lifestyle Productions says it is “home of the Signature Takeovers and the Signature Experiences.” It is an event organizer: its Winter Lifestyle Takeover, which began in 2010 and became a hotel takeover in 2012, is held in November at a Whistler hotel, and a Spring Lifestyle Takeover started in 2015. It is also an official booking agent for lifestyle cruises and resorts. In the Winter takeover layout the sixth floor is the Play Floor, with theme rooms, sponsors rooms and playrooms open all night; the fifth is the Party Floor, the fourth the Noisy Floor, and the second and third are Quiet Floors. Open play rooms stay door-open, and private play rooms have a one-hour limit. Across its nights the takeover runs a Meet + Greet, a dance party and a cocktail party, plus daytime seminars and workshops. Singles, couples and more are welcome, and the club says there is “no pressure or mandatory participation.” It does not offer single-day passes, and hotel rooms cannot be booked by calling the hotel or through its website. Alcohol is BYOB in pool-safe containers (no glass) and is not allowed in play spaces. Guests must be dressed in the lobby and public areas, with clothing optional only on the party floors and pool deck. Verbal consent is required, photos need prior explicit permission, and illegal substances, excessive drinking, indoor smoking or vaping, fighting and solicitation are not allowed.

Steel Cliffe

Sheffield, South Yorkshire

On-Premise Club

Steel Cliffe sits on Attercliffe Road in Sheffield's east end, five minutes from the city centre, and bills itself as Sheffield's only swingers venue. The purpose-fitted premises spans eight distinct playrooms — several of which can be locked for complete privacy — alongside a fully equipped BDSM play area, dedicated couples' rooms, group play spaces, and a spacious outdoor terrace used for socialising and smoking. The venue is within easy reach of the city centre with parking available in the surrounding area. Rather than fixed weekly nights, Steel Cliffe runs a rotating calendar of themed events — recent examples include Circus After Dark (marking the venue's first anniversary), Kink Nights, Fueled Up Fantasies, and Rum & Reggae nights — with doors typically opening at 8pm and closing anywhere between 1:30am and 3am depending on the event. Entry is tiered: single males pay £30, couples pay £25, and single women are admitted free of charge. A £5 locker deposit is collected at the door, refundable on departure or redeemable against soft drink purchases. The bar is BYOB for alcohol; soft drinks, tea, and coffee are available to purchase on site, though guests are asked not to bring their own non-alcoholic drinks. Consent sits at the centre of the house rules: the club's stated position is 'No means no,' and men are explicitly instructed never to touch a woman who is not their partner without clear, prior permission being requested and granted. A strict no-drugs policy is enforced — prescribed medications such as Viagra or Cialis are the noted exception — and anyone visibly intoxicated may be refused entry or cut off from further service. The dress code is deliberately open-ended, encouraging guests to 'wear whatever makes you feel comfortable and confident,' and the venue also takes bookings for private hire and custom events.

Event Venue and Lounge

Sugar Lounge describes itself as “an open-minded venue that hosts a wide range of events” and presents itself as an event venue and lounge in Denver, Colorado. Its posted schedule runs Tuesday through Saturday evenings, and the club says it opens only during scheduled event hours. The venue has two separate event spaces with color-changing lights and smart TVs, a fully equipped kitchen, a large privacy-fenced patio with grills and open-air seating, private parking and lockers, and holds up to 250 guests. Couples have two areas: one in the main building next to the bartender, open to couples and single women, and The Underground Lounge, a separate couples-only space. Guests must be 21 or older. Couples, single women and single men are all admitted, but single men may enter the main-building couples area only by invitation from a couple or single woman. The club does not sell alcohol; it is BYOB, and a bartender at weekend events holds and pours drinks and provides ice, cups and mixers. Dress is casual at the door. Phones and recording devices, including recording smart glasses, stay out beyond the entry curtains, consent must be clear, and breaking the rules can mean ejection or a permanent ban. First-timers are offered a tour.

Sultry Sarah's Social Club

St. Louis, MO

Social Club

Sultry Sarah's Social Club describes itself as “an exclusive, member-only community in the St. Louis area for adventurous adults”. It says it has run since 2017 and is now a 501(c)(7) non-profit social club, and its Sultry Soirées are held on Saturday nights at a downtown St. Louis venue on North Broadway that has its own private parking lot. Alongside them it runs Sultry Sinema movie nights and social evenings such as karaoke and game nights. The club’s rules refer to play areas and social areas, with room doors required to stay open. Guests signal their consent level with colored wristbands, and phones are forbidden in play areas. Complimentary beverages, light snacks and protection are provided, and gatherings are strictly BYOB. Attending takes a paid membership and an approved application; all attendees must be 21 or older and show ID at entry. Singles and couples are both welcome, and tours and ambassadors are offered to newcomers. Dress is street-legal attire on arrival, with lingerie, formalwear or nudity allowed inside. The rules require explicit, verbal, sober consent and let the club remove members who break them.

Summer's Home for Wayward Swingers

Dallas, TX

Event Organization

Summer's Home for Wayward Swingers describes itself as “an exclusive online community and event organization” for the swinger lifestyle. It is run by Summer and her husband Mike and holds its Dallas parties at a private venue in the Design District. Most are on-premise events, which the organizers say means sexual activity may be occurring. The venue is described as private, with over 2,500 square feet of on-premise play space, a large social and play area with a fireplace and hot tub, two bedrooms with three queen beds, and landscaped grounds with three outdoor cabanas that can be reserved for private play. A saltwater pool is promoted for its Pool Party, and a common room and patio host a mixer. The venue has a security fence, on-site security and access control. Couples and single women are welcome, along with a select few single men who go through a vetting process, capped at about five at standard events but not at Sausage Parties. The exact location is revealed only after booking, and a Newbie Night is designed for first-timers. Events are BYOB and BYOC, with light bites and limited mixers provided. Guests are asked to dress well, with themes optional. Photography is prohibited outside the consensual pre-party mixer, and rule violations can mean removal and a ban.

Sweet Desires Club is an off-premise, invitation-only lifestyle club serving the Birmingham, Alabama area, founded in 2010 and run by owners Donna and Drew. Rather than operating out of a fixed venue, the club arranges space for its gatherings and shares the exact location only with confirmed members ahead of each event, a common model among Alabama's off-premise swinger clubs. The club caters to couples, single women, and a limited number of single men, and admits only adults 21 and older. Events run BYOB, with the club supplying drink mixers and a snack buffet, and a DJ providing music for socializing and dancing. Visitors who toured the space with owners Donna and Drew described a quaint, low-key setting geared toward conversation and mingling rather than a high-energy nightclub atmosphere, with hotel accommodations noted as being close by for out-of-town guests. New attendees join by requesting to be added to the club's mailing list; approved contacts then receive the event location and details by email ahead of each gathering. Entry is by invitation only, with no walk-in access, and events are generally held on a monthly basis.

Swingers Circle

Las Vegas, NV

Weekly Play Party

Swingers Circle describes itself as “The Party Where Everyone Meets Everyone!”, a weekly party in Las Vegas for couples and single women. It is held at a hotel on or near the Las Vegas Strip rather than at a fixed club venue. The club says it has no brick and mortar location and holds its parties in hotel suites. A social hour is followed by a sexual trivia “Game” between the genders in which a wrong answer costs an article of clothing; the club says taking part in the Game is required, but nobody is ever required to play with anyone. A play room and essentials are provided and the lights are kept very low. Parties are limited to the first 12 registered couples, and one only goes ahead with at least five couples. Entry is by online registration only. The hotel and suite are sent by text or call within a few hours of the start, and guests must arrive during the social hour because late arrivals are not admitted once the Game begins. Dress is club wear, drinks are BYOB, illegal drugs are not allowed, and single men are not admitted.

Swinghearts

Unverified

Whittier, CA

Private Event Host

Swinghearts is a Southern California lifestyle couple — Chris (Swinghearts) and Tonia (MsSwinghearts) — who host swinger and lifestyle parties for couples and select singles in the greater Los Angeles area. The operation rotates through private locations, with addresses disclosed only to pre-screened attendees. The hosts describe their philosophy as drama-free and judgment-free under the motto "Play with the One you Love." Parties are oriented toward couples and select singles; single women have historically been welcomed and comped, while single men are admitted by pre-approval only. Past gatherings have featured themed formats, and confirmed amenities at the last documented event (May 2022, Whittier, CA) include a live DJ, BYOB with mixers provided, food and snacks, lockers, and multiple playrooms. Event announcements are made through the hosts' profiles on Kasidie, SDC, SLS, and Lifestyle Lounge (all under 'Swinghearts') and on Instagram at @swinghearts.cpl and @swinghearts.socal. All attendance is invitation-only with prior contact required. Prospective guests must text 562.230.3195 or email Swingheartz@yahoo.com and include a profile name and a photo to receive a response. The site carries a 'Former Party Host!' label; the last independently confirmed event dates to May 2022, and a June 2024 podcast interview is the most recent indication of continued engagement.

Taboo22

Loganholme, Queensland

On-Premise Club

Taboo22 occupies a low-profile commercial unit at 5/6 Cairns Street in Loganholme, roughly 25 kilometres south of Brisbane's CBD, and bills itself as Queensland's friendliest swingers club. The venue is fully council-approved and operates with a structured consent framework displayed prominently throughout. The floorplan is more generously fitted out than the exterior suggests: eight or more individually themed bedrooms, two pole-dance floors, a four-person spa, a massage room, a BYO bar with mixers provided by the house, and lounge areas. The club runs regular BDSM-themed nights alongside its standard programming, giving it a kink-inclusive appeal beyond vanilla lifestyle events. Doors open Friday and Saturday nights from 7:30 pm to 2:00 am. Standard entry is $80 for couples, $90 for single males, and $35 for single ladies — who attend free on their first visit. BDSM nights carry a $5 premium across all categories. Bookings are essential; single males must call ahead to reserve. Smart casual is enforced at the door.

Tabu Social Club

Catonsville, MD

on-premise lifestyle club

Tabu Social Club describes itself as “a Private Membership Club catering to mature adults 21 and over”, an on-premise lifestyle club in Catonsville, Maryland, open every Friday and Saturday night. Membership is required and open to couples and single females; single males join only through a sponsoring member. Vicki and Rick say on the membership page that they opened Tabu in 2004. It has two levels: a bar and dance club with a raised dance floor, a sunken seating area, two dance poles, a dance cage and a ladies-only dance stage, and below it Vicki's VIP Lounge, with 11 sexually themed private VIP suites and one large group area. It also has a BYOB bar with five coolers, lockers, showers and towels. Recurring nights include Casual and Newbie Night Fridays, Happy Hour parties and Blackout parties held in the dark. Guests must be 21 or older with a state-issued ID, and couples and single females can join at the door or apply online; only a few events need pre-registration. The club does not serve alcohol: guests bring their own, and mixers are provided. Men need a collared shirt, or a dress sweater in winter, unless dressed in the night's theme. Its cardinal rule is “NO means NO”, and cameras, drugs and solicitation can end a membership permanently.

Tennessee Temptations

Johnson City, TN

Private Party

Tennessee Temptations describes itself as “a Lifestyle MEMBERS Only Private party” in the Tri-Cities region of Tennessee. Guests apply for membership through the club's website, the club says it chooses its members and never advertises its events in the vanilla world, and it typically hosts a party about once a month. The private venue covers more than 3,000 square feet, where hosts greet guests and give a tour if needed. The club lists a large wooden dance floor with a DJ, professional audio equipment and lighting, seating for 100-plus, a stripper pole, an on-premise playroom with a swing and a Sybian, and a private playroom for guests who want to be left alone. It also offers discounted hotel rooms for its group and a shuttle to and from the hotel. Guests must be 21 or older, and couples arrive and leave together. Singles wear a visible glow band, may approach only couples wearing the same band color, and may enter the playroom only when a couple invites them. The party is BYOB with complimentary non-alcoholic mixers and snacks. Cameras, camera phones and voice recorders are banned, touching requires consent first, and breaking the rules can mean expulsion and membership cancellation without refund.