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Refugium Swingerclub

Neumünster, Schleswig-Holstein

On-Premise Club

Refugium Swing & Dance sits on Krokamp 64 in the commercial outskirts of Neumünster, Schleswig-Holstein — an unglamorous address that gives nothing away about the modern lounge-bar world behind the door. Owner Marco Marien designed the club as a deliberate departure from red-velvet clichés: the palette runs to deep green and anthracite, the lighting is considered, and the 500-capacity interior divides into distinct zones that read more like a design-conscious nightclub than a backroom. At its centre is a dance floor anchored by an actual ceiling swing and a DJ booth; off to one side, a well-stocked bar and a separate English-style smoking room keep the social energy moving; scattered throughout are sofa lounge areas where guests talk, watch, and warm up at their own pace. The play rooms — two discreetly positioned and thematically designed spaces — sit well removed from the social areas, alongside a Séparée that doubles as an erotic cinema. Hygiene is taken visibly seriously: towels, disinfectant, condoms, mouthwash, and disposable toothbrushes are stationed throughout, and the venue's barrier-free showers and toilets make it fully accessible to wheelchair users. In warmer months, a 1,000-square-metre outdoor terrace opens up, adding a pool, whirlpool, TikiBar, BBQ station, and a second play area to the mix. The club runs regular themed evenings, seasonal parties, and — every four to six weeks — a free newcomer orientation session at 18:00, before normal doors, with no registration required. Admission is structured around an all-in price covering entry, buffet, premium beverages, and the wardrobe service: €50 in advance, €60 on the door; women enter at €25 and couples at €50. Solo male pricing is set separately and higher as a deliberate tool to keep the gender ratio balanced. Dress code is enforced at the entrance — men in dark long trousers (blue jeans excluded), a plain solid-colour shirt, and proper shoes; women in stylish rather than everyday attire. Once inside, phones and cameras are banned in public areas, and explicit consent is required for all contact; staff are trained to recognise genuine distress. Drugs, solicitation, and any harassment carry an immediate house ban.

Richmond Rondezvouz

Richmond, VA

Adult Lifestyle Group

Richmond Rondezvouz for Swingers describes itself as “a local Richmond adult lifestyle group” that welcomes all people and does not discriminate. It holds swinger parties at least twice a month, along with bi parties and peep shows, at the hosts' own home. Parties use a large deck with couches and a fire pit, a large play area and a hot tub, plus a pool for pool parties held as naked or clothing-optional nights. Showers, towels, soap and wipes are provided for cleaning up, and the hosts supply food and non-alcoholic drinks. There is no indoor lodging, but a fenced backyard, outdoor shower and port-a-potty are available to guests who camp overnight. Attendance is by confirmed RSVP only: guests email the organizers the party date and each guest's first name, the address follows once attendance is confirmed, and nobody is admitted who is not on the list. Guests must be 21 or older. Couples, single men and single women are admitted; single men are not charged double but are asked to talk to the male half of a couple first. Alcohol is BYOB with no glass, and entry is cash only. Hats, hoodies, tank tops, jerseys and workout clothes are banned. Breaking house rules (no means no, photography only with consent, no illegal drugs or pay-for-play) means removal without refund.

Risque Vegas Estate

Las Vegas, NV

Risque Estate is a private, members-only lifestyle venue set within a residential property in the Paradise neighborhood of Las Vegas, just minutes from the Strip. Established in 2014, the estate operates as an on-premise swingers club hosting clothing-optional parties Wednesday through Sunday, welcoming couples, singles, and LGBTQ guests aged 21 and over in a BYOB format with snacks and mixers provided. The grounds center on a resort-style heated pool kept at 90 degrees year-round, surrounded by spacious poolside cabanas and block-walled areas for nude sunbathing. Inside, guests find multiple private playrooms, a large group room, a game room with a cheetah-felt pool table, a dance floor with a stripper pole, and a custom Harley-Davidson fitted with a built-in Sybian. Risque Estate emphasizes discretion with secure off-street parking and a membership structure included in the door donation. The estate provides lockers, clean showers, and ample cooler space, while guests are asked to bring their own towels, locks, and beverages. The venue regularly hosts themed events listed through its website and social channels.

Route 69

Weston-super-Mare, Somerset

On-Premise Club

Route 69 occupies a basement space on the High Street in central Weston-super-Mare, Somerset — a long-running licensed lifestyle venue that bills itself as the South West's Friendliest Adult Club. The venue operates on a deliberately compact model, non-pushy in its approach, with staff who personally walk first-time visitors around the space before the evening gets under way. It welcomes straight and LGBT+ guests alike and pitches its atmosphere firmly on the social side of the spectrum. The venue is arranged around a lounge with a fully licensed bar, three lockable playrooms — one of which incorporates a gloryhole with a coverable viewing window — and a dungeon equipped with a St Andrew's Cross, a play swing, and stocks. Lockers are available on a key-swap system, and a heated, covered outdoor smoking area sits at the rear of the building. Towels, lube, wipes and condoms are stocked in every playroom; cock rings and wax candles are available at the bar. CCTV covers the social areas, though there are no showers on site. Themed nights — Greedy Girls evenings, BDSM nights, bi nights and monthly special parties — run through the calendar alongside regular weekly sessions. The club operates sessions on Fridays and Saturdays from 20:00 to 02:00, and Sundays from 14:00 to 22:00; last entry is two hours before closing in all cases. All entry requires advance booking through Eventbrite; the venue no longer accepts walk-ins or phone bookings. The minimum age is 25. Single-male attendance is permitted but numbers are capped per session, and early booking is advised. Entry pricing on Fridays and Saturdays is £35 for single men, £25 for couples, £15 for TS/TV guests, and £10 for single women; Sunday rates are exactly half.

Saints & Sinners Philly

Philadelphia, PA

On-Premise Club

Saints & Sinners describes itself as “the adult playground for swingers.” The Philadelphia club is a members-only, on-premise venue in a 6,000-square-foot building on Emery Street, open Friday and Saturday nights, and welcomes veterans and newcomers whether they come as a couple or single. The building has two floors. The top floor is a lounge for mingling, with a bar, dance floor, pole, seating, flat-screen TVs and a food buffet area. The lower level holds private, semi-private, open and group play areas, a bar with all the mixers provided, lockers and showers, and an attendant who changes sheets and keeps order. A DJ plays through a sound and light system, and free parking is across the street. Guests must be 21 or older and a member. Couples and singles attend, except that single men are not admitted on Saturdays; couples must arrive, stay and leave together, and men may not wander the club alone. Entry, membership and merchandise are cash only. New members get a tour early in the evening and are asked to arrive by 11 p.m. Proper attire is required. Phones and cameras are not allowed and must be checked at the front desk, locked in a locker or left in the car; drugs and aggressive behavior are not tolerated, and members may not go behind the bar.

Samantha's Place

Unverified

London, Ontario

On-Premise Club

Samantha's Place appears to have permanently closed, most likely in late 2016 or early 2017. The club's website has not been updated since November 2016, its last posted event was November 12, 2016, and a structured audit by swingersontario.com in April 2021 listed it among clubs presumed closed. Founded in 2000 by a London-area couple known to members as Samantha and Greg, it billed itself as Southwestern Ontario's longest-running lifestyle club and for most of its life the only such club west of the GTA. The founders sold to Skye and Todd, a younger London couple who had been regular attendees, with the handover taking place around 2016. Both ownerships maintained the same format and pricing structure through to the final events. Samantha's Place ran as a strictly off-premise club, meaning no sexual activity or genital nudity was permitted at events — a policy stated prominently on the site and central to its identity as a venue for meeting, dancing, and flirting rather than a play space. Monthly themed Saturday nights were held at a private licensed venue in east London, just east of the Highbury and Dundas intersection; the specific address was disclosed to registered guests by email only, never listed publicly. Doors opened at 9:30 pm with an early-bird discount window until 9:45 pm, and guests were asked to arrive by 11 pm. The crowd spanned the late twenties to early fifties, with a core demographic in the 30–45 range, and first-timers made up at least a quarter of any given evening. Themes were encouraged but not required — Halloween drew near-total compliance, other themes considerably less so — and the general dress expectation was smart-casual to sexy. Music was top-40 with a seasoning of eighties and nineties tracks. A licensed bar operated at upscale-bar prices, door prizes sponsored by adult retailers including the Stag Shop and Love Shop were drawn around 11:30 pm, and occasional sponsored demonstrations — rope work, wax play, lap dancing — added variety to certain events.

Sameplace

Amsterdam, Noord-Holland

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Sameplace is an erotic café and adult lifestyle venue at Nassaukade 120 on the western fringe of Amsterdam's Westerpark neighbourhood, a short tram ride from the city centre. Open since the mid-1990s, it markets itself as Amsterdam's premier female-friendly erotic café and draws a genuinely mixed crowd — straight couples, gay men, single women, and on most nights single men as well. The premises run across two floors plus a basement. A U-shaped bar with booth seating anchors the ground floor; upstairs, a dance floor operates with a resident DJ on busier evenings. The basement holds the harder-edged spaces: a dungeon fitted with a sex swing and a sex chair, BDSM equipment, and a dark room. A changing room with lockers and towels is available. The programme of themed nights is central to the club's identity: regular rotation includes BDSM Pure evenings, fetish-dress nights with enforced dress code, a Shamelessly Naked party, a T&T night, bisexual and trans nights, costume parties, and a monthly fistfuck event on the fourth Sunday. One evening each week is reserved for gay men only. Staff meet guests at the door and walk newcomers through the space; a strict consent policy is actively enforced — visitors report that a firm refusal from any patron is respected without negotiation. The venue is open Tuesday through Thursday from 21:00 to 02:00, Friday and Saturday from 21:00 to 03:00, and Sunday in two sessions: 15:00–21:00 (couples only) and 22:00–03:00; the club is closed on Mondays. Entry is via a doorbell; there is no street queue. Entry fees vary by event and themed night. The venue is cash-only — no card payments are accepted. Dress codes are enforced on fetish and specialist nights; casual attire is acceptable on standard evenings. Nudity is permitted throughout the venue.

Sandy Bottoms Resort

Barrie, Ontario

Swingers Resort

Sandy Bottoms Resort describes itself as “a distinguished swingers resort and couples retreat” on more than ten acres in Central Ontario, a few hours from Toronto and Ottawa. It is a clothing-optional, adults-only, stay-based resort on a spring-fed lake, with events and activities from spring to fall. The grounds have a sandy beach, floating dock, heated pool, hot tubs, trampoline, diving platform and kayaks, canoes and paddleboards. The Lounge has a fireplace, a serve-your-own BYOB bar and full kitchen facilities, and The Dome is a large covered party space with a dance floor and stage. Lodging ranges from resort-style rooms and cedar villas to a Garden Villa and Casita with private hot tubs, cabins and unserviced camping sites. Only pre-registered guests who have booked are admitted, with no day passes. Couples and single women are welcome and single men are not admitted. Booking runs through a members-only area, and the exact location is emailed after booking. The resort is not licensed, so guests bring their own drinks; glass stays in guest rooms and the Lounge. Nudity is voluntary, phones and cameras are allowed only in guest rooms, and illegal substances are prohibited.

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Sauna Azzurra sits on Van Heemstraweg on the edge of Beuningen, a small Gelderland municipality a short drive west of Nijmegen. It operates as both a gay sauna and an erotic lifestyle venue, rotating between men-only days and days open to mixed-gender couples and singles. The building contains two Finnish saunas each sized for up to six people, a combined hammam and steam sauna, and a communal shower area with roughly eight hot tubs, two of which are bookable privately. Beyond the wet facilities there is a dedicated cruise circuit, dark rooms, open mattress areas, and lockable private cabins. A video lounge, a bar serving food, and an outdoor terrace with sun loungers complete the space, with free parking on site. Condoms are provided throughout; complimentary soup is offered on Sundays. Outside food and drink are not permitted. The programme divides the week by clientele type: Tuesdays, Fridays, and Sundays are men-only gay days; Mondays, Wednesdays, and Saturdays are open to mixed couples and singles; Thursdays are reserved for couples only. Exact opening and closing times should be confirmed directly with the venue before visiting, as third-party sources conflict. Admission prices, per a third-party source that may not reflect current tariffs, are €30 for a single man and €50 for a couple on gay days, and €46.50 for single visitors and €50 per couple on mixed days; a six-visit card is also available. Entry is strictly 18 and over; valid ID is required at the door.

Lifestyle Club

Scarlet Ranch describes itself as “a couples focused lifestyle club”, a private membership organization hosting events at Squirrel Creek Lodge in Littleton, Colorado. It opens Wednesday through Saturday evenings and Sunday daytime, and its About page says it has produced events for over 20 years. The club lists three full service BYOB bars, the Oreads restaurant, indoor and outdoor dance stages, pool and shuffleboard tables, private and semi-private areas, and a locker room and coat check. Outside are rentable cabanas with daybeds and TVs and a tipi with a fire pit. Regular events include Wine and Dine Wednesday, Ladies Night every Thursday and Sunday brunch, plus over 100 themed events a year. Entry is for members aged 21 or over with a valid ID and a signed membership agreement. Newcomers buy a membership at the door or online, attend first on a guest membership, and then face a membership committee review. Single men are admitted on a limited basis and never in groups. Guests bring their own alcohol, leave it with the front-desk receptionist, and the club provides mixers. It asks members to “dress to impress”, with no cut-offs, sneakers, t-shirts, caps or work boots, and bans drugs, weapons, prostitution and cameras, with violations causing immediate removal.

Schloss Trebbichau

Trebbichau, Saxony-Anhalt

On-Premise Club

Schloss Trebbichau occupies a restored historic castle at Parkstrasse 10 in Trebbichau, a small village in Osternienburger Land, Saxony-Anhalt. Operated by Chateau du Soleil GmbH under managing director Carola Schwarz, who brings a background in television production and theatre, alongside Dutch co-founder Ronald, who supervised the multi-year hands-on renovation, the club reopened as a lifestyle venue in early 2023 and bills itself as die wohl schonste erotische Oase im Herzen von Sachsen-Anhalt. The interior unfolds across three levels. A soaring main hall, 7.5 metres high, anchors the ground floor with a bar, dance floor, and extensive seating, while a mezzanine gallery on the first floor looks down over the space below. Adjoining rooms include a salon, a buffet and dining room, a dedicated smoking lounge, and a games room. Play rooms of varying themes are distributed across the basement, ground floor, and upper floor. Come summer, the castle lake (SchlossSee) becomes the setting for FKK (naturist) outdoor weekend gatherings. Events run one to two times per month and vary considerably in character: burlesque and performance evenings, FKK lake weekends, decade-themed parties, and elegant evening parties. All events are listed and ticketed exclusively through JOYclub.de; pricing is not published on the club website. Regular parties fall on Saturdays, running from 19:30 to 02:00. The core guest profile is active couples; single women and single men are admitted selectively depending on the specific event. The dress-code shorthand is elegant black is never wrong, with full requirements published per event on JOYclub.

Secrets at Flamingos

Unverified

Mansfield, Nottinghamshire

On-Premise Club

Secrets at Flamingos is a boutique lifestyle club occupying a purpose-fitted licensed venue on Broxtowe Drive in Mansfield, Nottinghamshire. Founded and run by a team with years of personal experience in the lifestyle scene — and a track record of visiting clubs across the country before opening their own — the club sets out to be something more considered than the average venue. Their premises licence covers a broad range of events, from swing parties with a fully open play area to social-only gatherings, with all adult events running on a ticket-only basis as required by the licence. The venue is centred on a fully licensed bar stocked with draught beers, wines, soft drinks, teas, coffees and the house-signature Flamingos Cocktails. Alongside the bar is a large, open playroom fitted with beds of varying sizes and dedicated private spaces for more discreet encounters. Practical amenities are covered as standard: separate male and female bathrooms, a changing room with lockable lockers, and towels provided to every guest. The events programme includes regular couples-and-single-ladies nights and party nights with the play area open; naturist events have also been hosted under the same roof. First-timers are met at the door by one of the club's hosts, who will walk them through the space and make introductions — an explicit part of the welcome process. Management is firm about maintaining an inclusive environment: cliquish behaviour is not tolerated, and the stated goal is a community built on respect and freedom from prejudice. Private hire is available seven days a week and can be configured with or without the play area, making the venue available for adult birthday parties and lifestyle events alike.

Secrets Hideaway Resort & Spa

Kissimmee, FL

Lifestyle Resort

Secrets Hideaway Resort & Spa uses the tagline “Florida's Adults Only Destination”. It is a private members club and lifestyle resort in Kissimmee with its own on-site hotel. The playrooms open every day, and the nightclub opens Tuesday and Thursday through Saturday. The courtyard holds two twelve-person hot tubs, a conversation pool, a large commercial-size pool and an outdoor bar, and the club lists four full bars, poolside DJs, restaurant service and a kitchen serving food. Evenings offer a 3,000-square-foot nightclub, themed parties every weekend, 4,000 square feet of playrooms where an attendant supplies condoms, towels and sheets, and the Club Swinkster dungeon. Entry requires membership, with applications processed on premises only, and after approval a host gives a tour and explains the rules. Couples, single women and single men are admitted, but single men are limited to 10 per event from Wednesday to Monday and, except on Tuesday, must be invited into the playroom by a couple. Outside alcohol is not allowed in the club, play areas, courtyard or pool, and cameras, camera phones and recorders are barred from play areas. The courtyard is clothing optional and the playrooms are nude, with a towel or bathrobe allowed.

Shameless Grounds - ENM Night

St. Louis, MO

Sex-Positive Cafe

Shameless Grounds describes itself as “the Coffeeshop and Cafe with the Sex Positive Theme” and says it is not a club, a pick-up spot or a porn shop. The cafe sits in south St. Louis City, at the corner of Lemp and Withnell, and says it has been going since 2011. Its ENM Night, formerly called lifestyle couples night, is a ticketed evening held on almost every fourth Friday. The night is billed as a social meet-and-greet with music, a bar with drink specials, food, and ice-breaker games to help guests mingle. Most months guests spend the evening on the patio. It is a mixer rather than a swinger-style sex party: there is no full-frontal nudity and no sex, because the cafe holds a liquor license in the City of St. Louis. The night is open to anyone practicing or curious about ethical non-monogamy, including swingers, polyamorous people and those in open marriages, whatever their relationship style or status. Entry takes a ticket from the cafe’s online ticket site. The dress code is upscale casual and/or sexy. The house rules say no means no, and guests who cannot accept a no are shown the door; guests who get sloppy drunk are called a cab and shown out.

Shed 16

Seaford, Victoria

On-Premise Club

Shed 16 is an adults-only lifestyle and swinger venue occupying a purpose-built space at 2/16 Cumberland Drive in Seaford, a bayside suburb on Melbourne's south-eastern fringe roughly 40 kilometres from the CBD. The club operates as a sex-on-premises venue with an explicit commitment to LGBTIQA+ inclusion, framing its mission around a safe, sex-positive environment that welcomes people of all genders, backgrounds, and levels of experience. The ethos is deliberately no-pressure: attendance carries no expectation of participation, and first-timers are actively accommodated through a gradual introduction to the space. The venue spans two floors. The ground floor anchors each session with a fully licensed bar and café, two spas, a dry sauna, a steam room, large open shower facilities, secure lockers, and free internet stations. The upper level is dedicated to play, hosting private lockable rooms, open group areas, a bondage and kink dungeon, sling rooms, a suckatorium, voyeur rooms, and a porn lounge. An outdoor courtyard serves as the smoking and vaping area. Dress expectations shift between floors: the ground level permits casual attire for the first two hours, while upstairs requires towel, underwear, lingerie, or nude. Condoms are provided throughout. Four weekly sessions run Tuesday through Saturday. TABOO (Tuesday, 7 pm–1 am) prices couples at AUD $35, single ladies at $15, and pre-booked single men at $60. DESIRES (Thursday, noon–6:30 pm) carries the same couple and ladies rates, with single men at $60 (or $50 before 1 pm). SHARED SECRETS (Friday, 8 pm–2 am) admits couples at $70 and single ladies at $25; single men are not admitted. CLUB EROTIQUE (Saturday, 8 pm–2 am) prices couples at $60, single ladies at $20, and pre-booked single men at $150. Entry is cash only at the door, with an on-site ATM; EFTPOS is accepted at the bar. A $10 surcharge applies on public holidays.

Shhh Newcastle Swingers Club

Newcastle upon Tyne, Tyne and Wear

On-Premise Club

Shhh Newcastle Swingers Club occupies a multi-storey premises at 85-89 Blandford Street in Newcastle city centre, roughly five minutes' walk from both Newcastle Central rail station and the Tyne and Wear Metro. Operating since 2018 and formerly trading as Shhh... by Base, the club underwent a full refurbishment in 2021 — installing a new jacuzzi, updating the playrooms, and adding a discreet rear entrance — and bills itself as the only venue of its kind in Newcastle upon Tyne. With a stated capacity of 200, the club places a strong emphasis on inclusivity: the space is LGBTQ+-welcoming and explicitly trans-friendly, with reduced or complimentary entry for trans guests on most nights. The venue spans two floors. Downstairs sits a fully licensed bar, a lounge, a dance floor, and spacious changing rooms with secure lockers; upstairs are the playrooms — including a cinema room, private zones, and a dungeon — alongside a sauna, steam room, jacuzzi, an internet room, and an outdoor seating area. First-time visitors receive a guided tour before being issued a membership card and locker key. Reviews describe a clean, no-pressure atmosphere with staff consistently praised for attentiveness to safety and comfort. Complimentary condoms (standard, king-size, and latex-free), lubricant, and dental dams are provided at reception and throughout the bar; the first towel is free and additional towels are £1 each. Overnight stays are available on party and fetish nights, with private or shared rooms at £15 per person and morning refreshments served between 9am and 11am. The club runs Wednesday through Sunday. Wednesday afternoons host a mixed swingers session (couples £20, singles £10); Thursday is a Flip Flop bisex night (couples £10, singles £5, trans guests free); Friday's #FetishFriday admits couples at £10, single women at £5, and single men at £20; Saturday's Swingers Circus is the main weekly event (couples and single men £25, women £10); and Sunday is a men-only play day. On Friday fetish and Saturday nights, guests may supplement the licensed bar with their own alcohol for a £2.50 corkage fee. Membership requires completing an application form and presenting valid photo ID: a driving licence showing the current address is preferred and sufficient alone, while a passport must be accompanied by a utility bill, council tax bill, or bank statement. Before 11pm the dress code is smart and glamorous; after 11pm, access to upstairs play areas requires appropriate attire — lingerie, a wrap, robe, or towel — and trainers, sportswear, and hoodies are prohibited throughout.

Shrine Austin

Austin, TX

Event Organizer

Shrine describes itself as “a sex positive, fetish, and kink oriented space” that blends a dungeon and club like atmosphere. It is a monthly event series rather than a standing club, held on a Sunday at colette Austin, with a casual munch typically the Wednesday before. The venue offers ten beds, a large social area, mats for primal and rough body play, and allocated spaces for fire play, long-distance impact and blood/needle play. Shrine's rules page also lists St. Andrew's crosses, spanking benches, hard points, wrestling mats, stripper poles, a DJ booth, a non-alcoholic beverage bar, small lockers, balconies for voyeurism and an outdoor smoking area. Entry is for anyone 18 or older with a valid state or federal ID who agrees to the waivers and a temporary, event-only membership included in the cover; tickets are sold at the door or online. The organizers welcome all sexual orientations, gender identities and expressions. It is a dry event: alcohol and illegal substances, including cannabis, are prohibited, and phones and cameras are banned inside except in approved areas. There is no dress code inside, but guests come in streetwear to the door. Consent is required for all contact, the safe word is RED, and Dungeon Monitors in colored vests or with radios are on hand.

Sinners Den

Indio, CA

On-Premise Club

Sinners Den is an on-premise adult lifestyle club in Indio, California, operating as a private, membership-based venue for the swinger and kink community. It welcomes adults 18 and older regardless of body type, ethnicity, or experience level. The street address is not published; confirmed members are sent the location directly before each event. The venue has 17 private bedrooms — five indoors and twelve poolside cabanas — arranged around an enclosed, heated saltwater pool with an adjoining fire pit and smoking area. A separate dungeon room holds a king-size bed, a spreader bar, four tie-down benches, and suspension pulleys, and a dance floor features a stripper pole and stage. The main area includes an all-glass shower with five showerheads, male and female glory holes, and two bars — one indoor, one poolside — serving only mixers, since the club does not sell or supply alcohol. Parties run Saturdays from 9 p.m. to 2 a.m., the only schedule currently published. Entry requires an approved membership application, filed online in advance (including a photo) or completed at an in-person sign-in table before entry. Minimum age is 18, or 21 to bring personal alcohol under the club's BYOB policy. Admission covers food, water, soda, mixers, towels, two sizes of condoms, lubricant, and on-site hostess and security staff; no membership fee or cover charge is published.

Alternative Lifestyles Club

Society of Bastet, a volunteer-run non-profit in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, said on its website that it is dedicated to facilitating “an accepting and inclusive alternative lifestyles community.” The site, last archived in 2019, described a play space on Windmill Road serving fetishists and kinksters across Atlantic Canada, with weekly play parties, rope nights, School of Kink classes, peer tutoring and social events. The club called itself “more than just a BDSM club,” with room for many kinks and fetishes, from rope bondage and domination and submission to foot and latex fetishes. It also stated that it is not a sex club: kink happens there, but penetration does not. Per that site, guests did not have to be members, and a member in attendance would sign them in. It recommended going over the rules and attending an orientation, though that was not mandatory, and asked first-timers to tell the person working the door that they are new. A guest had to be 19 to sign the waiver at the club, although many classes and other events admitted 18-year-olds. People under the influence of alcohol or other drugs were asked to leave.

Stopgap

San Francisco, CA

Kink Venue

Stopgap describes itself as “A Turnkey Venue for the San Francisco Kink Community.” It is a kink venue in San Francisco's South of Market area, open to adults aged 18 and over. The ground floor has social areas, lockers and two bathrooms, while the basement holds the play areas, with equipment such as crosses, benches, bondage tables, bondage chairs and cages. The venue also has a cuddle room for aftercare and spaces for sensual play, and its spaces are open, with no private rooms. Its recurring nights include a monthly First Friday house party, a Third Tuesday queer leather dungeon night and a board games and kink night. First-time guests must buy a presale ticket, while returning guests may buy a ticket at the door. The exact address is given only to ticket buyers. Single men may attend without a date. Guests sign a waiver and follow each event's dress code; by default phones and recording are not allowed, and alcohol and drugs are not permitted.

Event Venue and Lounge

Sugar Lounge describes itself as “an open-minded venue that hosts a wide range of events” and presents itself as an event venue and lounge in Denver, Colorado. Its posted schedule runs Tuesday through Saturday evenings, and the club says it opens only during scheduled event hours. The venue has two separate event spaces with color-changing lights and smart TVs, a fully equipped kitchen, a large privacy-fenced patio with grills and open-air seating, private parking and lockers, and holds up to 250 guests. Couples have two areas: one in the main building next to the bartender, open to couples and single women, and The Underground Lounge, a separate couples-only space. Guests must be 21 or older. Couples, single women and single men are all admitted, but single men may enter the main-building couples area only by invitation from a couple or single woman. The club does not sell alcohol; it is BYOB, and a bartender at weekend events holds and pours drinks and provides ice, cups and mixers. Dress is casual at the door. Phones and recording devices, including recording smart glasses, stay out beyond the entry curtains, consent must be clear, and breaking the rules can mean ejection or a permanent ban. First-timers are offered a tour.

Sultry Sarah's Social Club

St. Louis, MO

Social Club

Sultry Sarah's Social Club describes itself as “an exclusive, member-only community in the St. Louis area for adventurous adults”. It says it has run since 2017 and is now a 501(c)(7) non-profit social club, and its Sultry Soirées are held on Saturday nights at a downtown St. Louis venue on North Broadway that has its own private parking lot. Alongside them it runs Sultry Sinema movie nights and social evenings such as karaoke and game nights. The club’s rules refer to play areas and social areas, with room doors required to stay open. Guests signal their consent level with colored wristbands, and phones are forbidden in play areas. Complimentary beverages, light snacks and protection are provided, and gatherings are strictly BYOB. Attending takes a paid membership and an approved application; all attendees must be 21 or older and show ID at entry. Singles and couples are both welcome, and tours and ambassadors are offered to newcomers. Dress is street-legal attire on arrival, with lingerie, formalwear or nudity allowed inside. The rules require explicit, verbal, sober consent and let the club remove members who break them.

Summer's Home for Wayward Swingers

Dallas, TX

Event Organization

Summer's Home for Wayward Swingers describes itself as “an exclusive online community and event organization” for the swinger lifestyle. It is run by Summer and her husband Mike and holds its Dallas parties at a private venue in the Design District. Most are on-premise events, which the organizers say means sexual activity may be occurring. The venue is described as private, with over 2,500 square feet of on-premise play space, a large social and play area with a fireplace and hot tub, two bedrooms with three queen beds, and landscaped grounds with three outdoor cabanas that can be reserved for private play. A saltwater pool is promoted for its Pool Party, and a common room and patio host a mixer. The venue has a security fence, on-site security and access control. Couples and single women are welcome, along with a select few single men who go through a vetting process, capped at about five at standard events but not at Sausage Parties. The exact location is revealed only after booking, and a Newbie Night is designed for first-timers. Events are BYOB and BYOC, with light bites and limited mixers provided. Guests are asked to dress well, with themes optional. Photography is prohibited outside the consensual pre-party mixer, and rule violations can mean removal and a ban.

Sweets Entertainment is a lifestyle event promoter serving the Denver, Colorado metro area, organizing private parties for couples and singles in the swinger community rather than operating a fixed clubhouse. Guests must be 21 or older and are admitted only after being added to a guest list through a short advance application, rather than through walk-in entry. Rather than a single physical location, its private parties are held at a rotating slate of Denver-area nightclubs and lounges, each typically reserved exclusively for the event. In its own materials, the group describes its aim as creating a social network to party, dance, and engage in conversation in a sexy, non-pressure atmosphere, with sexy or dress-to-impress attire encouraged for both women and men. Past events have included mix-n-mingles, summer BBQs, themed evening parties, and occasional charity nights, with guest lists historically reaching into the hundreds. Because parties move between venues, schedule, pricing, and house rules are set per event rather than tied to one address, and are shared with guests only after they are approved to attend. No confirmed events, posts, or independent mentions of Sweets Entertainment could be found from the past two years, and its website is no longer reachable, so prospective guests should treat its current operating status as unconfirmed and verify directly before planning to attend.